Single 34y.o. Male here. I have had a pof account for more than 14 years. I did ok on it when I was younger, even though I was a social moron (moreso than now).
Now I'm a bit older in my 30s and out of my shell, game dialed in, can talk to random women like normal at will without being weird even if we're both in masks sometimes they just rip it off. Life is better but I'm curious...
As it became easier to meet/date women IRL, it seems for me meeting women online is FLAT OUT IMPOSSIBLE. I know some dudes that got some serious James bond persona that feel the same way. Even when a girl initiates the convo, I get ghosted after my first one or two responses 95% of the time the past year.
Has me and my friends' E-game got worse as our real skills got better? Or is this a nationwide problem? Maybe things are too oversaturated on the girls' end of things so they in plus ultra picky guard up mode? Idk Thoughts?
Ok, so this has been a journey i always avoided dating sites and apps, infact I've only ever met a girl off the net twice, both times ended in disaster, this last time my now ex-roommate was all like yooooooo, Neft do the tinder and plenty of fish thing, you won't regret.
After a few days of thinking it over I say "what the hell" and I dive in.
First day on PoF I found a few real people, my second day... I found three escorts... Let's just say I am licensed by my state currently so that provided some awkward yet hilarious entertainment.
Day three: oh my god so many fake accounts and bots telling me to add them on Kik and snap for webcam shows and premium snap.
I even ripped apart their websites and sent them their own credit card widget back as its own link, that provided me with entertainment, one person after I did that even said "ok, forget the site just cashapp me 100$" like bro, I have an IQ of 200 I'll send you a pic of 100$ instead with a caption that says Cashapp sent.
They didn't exactly appreciate my humor.
Time goes on, I meet two girls things go well, we start talking off the App I'm like aight, let's see how serious they are, made plans to meet, the day of the meet for the first one immediately out of the gate.
"I can't afford gas and my tire is blown"
This one claimed to have her own business, later on that day she also tells me she can't afford food.
I decide to reverse image all the pictures she sent me, each picture is on a diff twitter account, im like aight, she a catfish but the food thing might be real.
I questioned her some more, she's just having a tough week and only needs food that day to make it to her next pay - like I get it times are tough so I paid for her dinner.
Like I felt for them ik what it's like to go hungry.
Several failed attempts later, it always being "gas money" and me claiming I can't pay it when let's be honest I could and can.
Month goes by with them texting me daily, every meet up attempt failed spectacularly, so I questioned them more tonight, about 10-20 minutes ago actually....
They showed me a screenshot of a crypto investment fund acc having 3000$ USD, at first glance it's like aight, you just need to get passed the next week to cash out, however I looked at the bottom part....
Recent deposits 0
Total deposit 0
Like girl, did you just try to source edit someone who used to browse Intel exchange and RC chats on deep web?
I call her out on it, instantly she gets defensive and states I know nothing about the platform and it resets when it updates etc.... Even if that's true the past transactions part would still at least have a date listed if anything.......
The other girl now she was one hell of a treat and by treat I mean she tried stealing my identity.
Asked for my license. Asked for my FB account. Asked me to make a green dot bank account for her use. Asked me to verify her cashapp account for her. Asked me to let her use my PayPal account. Asked me for my social security.
I said no each and Everytime and this girl even tried getting me to take out a 500$ loan and just give it to her.
Later on in the conversation she admitted she didn't have a green card as well but was residing in America currently...
I reported it of course, I know it may not be the popular thing but like I don't want to risk a 1% scenario where I know about it and get in trouble somehow and then lose my license and my job and no I'm not talking about my driver's license.
So I wanted to least get on POF tonight since Ive been single my whole life and had a pof account since 2016 in hopes a woman would talk to me.and I hadn't been on in sometime so Apparently Today My account was removed due to a violation but the thing is I have never Spam, Solicited or did anything Wrong i barley Be on the app in months all i did was Like the women in hopes maybe I could get a Like or something Did someone report me?
I have tried 4 times to sign up for POF at the website and every time i get to this one point where i type in the key words for my Profile and hit next it rounds me back to the beginning and i have to fill it all in again. If I back out and try to sign in again it has me start over.
Is there anyone out there that knows what's going on? Thank you in advance.
So I’ve had this a little while now. Don’t go on it very much as my notifications are turned off and I often forget about it. Basically, this results in lots of ‘likes’ & ‘matches’ from the last time I put like 5 minutes of swiping in that ‘meet me’ or whatever it’s called. But I’m having this issue on occasion with some profiles where we’ve both ‘matched’/‘liked’ each other but I can’t then message them because whenever I click message, it comes back with “***** is looking for a different type of person. Why don’t you message someone else”.
At first, I thought it might have had something to do with “looking for”, “seeking a man”, “for dating but nothing serious” so I changed all of them to match the latest profile (I had decided to investigate why this was happening as this is like the 5th one in the past month). But still, just the same response.
If people are interested the latest age difference was 26 to 23 years of age. Some of my previous ones have been like 26-21, 26-33 etc. I’m 26 years old.
If it is an age thing, then why the f is it even possible to match with profiles that would have this issue? It doesn’t make any sense and it’s just a waste of everyone’s time (including the profile you can’t even message because they’ve still viewed yours and matched you). Is it definitely an age thing or is there any other reason it could be? It’s becoming a little irritating now and I’m contemplating deleting it.