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 R33ANUHLYN
Joined: 4/16/2012
Msg: 1
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I met an awesome guy from here & we've been dating for just over a month, I feel things have been going fantastically but I can't help but have my doubts. Firstly, I've noticed he checks his POF account, i mentioned it to him a couple weeks ago when i saw he was on (for the record, i have logged on to see if he has taken his account down cause i feel it will show me where his head is), i casually text him saying "any other good fish lately?" he said "haha no, as this progresses i'll eventually just abandon my pof account" (something to that affect). So after that he hadn't been on in a couple weeks. Just saw today that he was on at like 1am yesterday morning which doesn't make sense because i was with him at that time, maybe i was asleep?
Anyway, is it wrong to feel that if he was really into me he wouldn't need this website any longer??? it's a huge bummer to see he still checks it. Why "check" when you've snagged a hot sea-bass like me?? :P
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 2:13:38 PM
Why "check" when you've snagged a hot sea-bass like me??

perhaps he logs in just to check up on you surreptitiously, and since he has noticed you logging in to your account, he has his doubts whether he's snagged you.

why wouldn't he just ask me if that was the case?

perhaps, same as you, he wants to see for himself what the person he's dating is up to. many people believe talk is cheap.
 R33ANUHLYN
Joined: 4/16/2012
Msg: 3
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 2:16:02 PM
i'm 24 & he's 30, we've had talks about what we're looking for and we seem to be pretty much on the same page. Age is just a number, i have the life experience of a 40 year old so i don't consider myself to be "young". .. It is possible he is just doing as i am, checking to see if i log on, but why wouldn't he just ask me if that was the case?
 KWurx
Joined: 10/21/2011
Msg: 4
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 2:23:11 PM
You didn't exactly 'just ask him' so I think it's a little forthcoming that you expect him to do the same. Not to mention women tend to take things way out of proportion so he might be hesitant to ask such a simple question when the expected backlash could be detrimental. Also you're part of my 'generation' and from experience, women our age are the epitome of taking things way out of proportion so there may be that thought there as well. Perhaps you might benefit from taking your own advice and ask him flat out yourself and not subtly either like 'any other good fish lately?'.
 SunshineAngel99
Joined: 10/13/2010
Msg: 5
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Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 2:32:25 PM
Wait..you are concerned about him being on pof after not even a month of dating but you are on pof too no? :P That is the only way to check right? I see a jealous green monster peeking out, so I would say you either accept the current relationship as is, or ask for exclusivity aka him becoming your boyfriend.
 karst_56
Joined: 10/7/2007
Msg: 6
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 2:35:08 PM
If your instincts tells you that you are another notch on his bed post,
then it could be.

When I meet someone and we progress beyond the "5th date" I deactivate
or put my account into hiding, that way if things do not work out, I do
not have to create whole new account.

On the other hand I have the POF app on my iPhone.
I do not stay logged in but it still sends me notifications.
 Aristotle_Amadopolis
Joined: 12/8/2011
Msg: 7
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 2:50:50 PM

Anyway, is it wrong to feel that if he was really into me he wouldn't need this website any longer??? it's a huge bummer to see he still checks it. Why "check" when you've snagged a hot sea-bass like me?? :P

Maybe he thinks that driving with a bird in your car is basically just teasing Darwin and he wants to be ready to move on as fast as possible after your inevitable demise.
 abigail122
Joined: 2/17/2013
Msg: 8
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 3:40:52 PM
OP, I feel the same way and I think it's natural. Unless the two of you become exclusive, there is nothing wrong with what he is doing. But a month of dating would be too soon for me to become exclusive with someone. Also, maybe he is just on for the forums or to check out your pics. I think that a guy that I am talking to does that sometimes. As for me, my profile is hidden because I have never been capable of liking more than one guy at a time so it just makes sense, plus the guy that I am talking to is the only one I find interesting, cool, and actually read my profile and asked me about shared interests.
 pinkmittens
Joined: 10/29/2012
Msg: 9
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 4:22:45 PM
Welcome to the virtual world. The endless possibilities at your fingertips. Why stop after a month. Heck why stop at all when something "better might be outthere". Guess settling down takes more time now with all these possibilities being toted around with you on a phone app.
 PensivePrincess
Joined: 4/13/2012
Msg: 10
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 4:23:14 PM
He might have been checking a message he recieved, out of sheer curiosity. The fact that you called him out on it, regardless of how innocently you think you did so, tells him that you have already assumed instant relationship status with him. It's conterproductive behavior that reeks of insecurty. Generally, you are not in a committed relaionship just because you've been dating him for a few weeks or months. You are not in a committed relationship until he asks you for one. Stop assuming!

Another thing I'd like to address is your assumption regarding age. You stated that you have more life experience than a 40 year old. That is insulting to every 40 year old. You have no idea what other people age 40 have dealt with in their lives. Stop assuming!
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 11
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 4:58:17 PM

Age is just a number, i have the life experience of a 40 year old so i don't consider myself to be "young".


Well young lady. Your original question is one that a "young" one would ask. He's checking on POF cause he's looking for more kitty cat. No matter what you think or believe, you are too young to be considering "long term" with anybody.

At your ages, it ain't rocket science. The boys still want as much as they can get from where ever they can get it. So, enjoy your youth and date as many as you want, without the expectations of being "exclusive" with any of the boys. Don't worry, some of em actually turn into men.
 hotsurferchick4u
Joined: 3/9/2013
Msg: 12
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 5:19:33 PM
{if he was really into me he wouldn't need this website any longer???}
You haven't been dating long enough for him to know if he still needs to be on here or not.
Have you two even decided to be exclusive?? He's likely keeping his options open as should you.
{We've been dating just a month}
Exactly.

I understand that when dating someone (even early on) that it's nice to focus on just that person,
but let things progress naturally without putting pressure on him. For all you know he was just checking
his messages.
Acting insecure will only scare him away and it will really show your young age. Also, at your age you likely
don't know what you want and are putting way too much energy into this guy.

Get busy with other things. Good luck hun!
 Red_Hug
Joined: 2/14/2013
Msg: 13
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 5:31:21 PM
it really depends on what he says to you

if he says he is really into you and is a true gentleman he will stop and for the sake of respect at least hide his account--especially if he says you are his steady.

if you guys are just having a shallow friendship then yeah why shouldnt he check it.
 Sailing78
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 14
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/12/2013 11:28:46 PM

Anyway, is it wrong to feel that if he was really into me he wouldn't need this website any longer??? it's a huge bummer to see he still checks it. Why "check" when you've snagged a hot sea-bass like me?? :P


Can you really complain when YOU still log in yourself? Your profile is not hidden, nor does it make any mention that you've been 'snagged', so maybe he see's the same with you and wonders why you're still here. Obviously you're not all THAT into him, taking these things into consideration...
 ReadBeforeWriting
Joined: 9/30/2012
Msg: 15
Why would he still check his POF?
Posted: 3/13/2013 6:42:59 AM
The more exposure a male has to other females, the better you shall seem by comparison.
View it that way.
I feel that my value shall be made more apparent when he compares me to my peers.
If he DOES see/meet someone he likes BETTER, WHY would I want him anyway?
If she really IS better, I'd defer to her. It makes sense to me that a male should go to the best female HE can get.
If she is WORSE, and he prefers her, he is a fool and I lose respect anyway and stop desiring him as he has poor taste.

Jealousy is really just fear that the other party shall like someone else better and abandon you for them.
Think of that logically and it'll make sense to you.
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