(29F) I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years, I’ve tried almost all of the free ones but use Hinge to this day. Getting matches previously was never an issue, I’ve always gotten less on Hinge compared to other apps but even my experience on Hinge has gotten worse over the past year. Not sure if it has to do with less people using the apps since COVID restrictions are no longer a thing & more people are going out. But I’ve noticed that over the past year, I’ve noticed less matches & when the matches come in more often during certain days, the guys either message me once & never reach out again or they never send that first message after we match. Again, apps have always been known to be fickle but why suddenly worse all of a sudden? Is it my age? I look the same, live in the same city & have even tried using a different number to see if that has anything to do with the algorithms. Even OKC and POF have changed with the users & feels more like bots/creeps versus the typical audience on Hinge (not saying Hinge doesn’t have creeps). A little over a year ago, the activity from guys were more consistent & were more in line with what I was looking for (or so it seemed) compared to the ghosting I’m dealing with now but wasn’t in a place to want to get to know them more at that time. It’s like I get annoyed with the inconsistency in communication/getting matches & when I did get it, I couldn’t be bothered. But we all know more matches doesn’t guarantee it’ll go anywhere; I’d meet guys from the apps in the past that are more in line with what I’m looking for but something about meeting them in person just threw me off even though they didn’t give me the ick or catfish me. Any other women relate to my experiences? Not a cat person so I know I’m going to just end up with a lot of dogs
Hey y'all. I don't have OK Cupid. But I made this Tagged account. I'd love hear what some of the women on here think about it? NO HOLDS BARRED. LOL Am I ugly? Do I sound stupid? Do I look like someone you'd friend zone? Do I look like I only want to Netflix and chill? Etc. Honest opinions?
I have recently discovered that if you stop interacting with the app (i.e. don't open it for a while) they will start matching you with random people that you did not swipe right on. Just more proof that this app is a scam. After discovering facebook dating I have pretty much stopped using okcupid. After not opening the app for a while, It sends me match notifications. I go to look at the match and I know with 100% certainty that I would have never swiped right on this person. In one case, I asked the other person if she remembered swiping right on me and she said that she did not. So OkCupid plays this game. Its all part of manipulating you to keep your eyes on their crappy app. So far I have 82 people that "like" me. I'd bet $10,000 that if I paid for the subscription to see them, i'd find that 99.5% of them are in Kenya or the Philipines or Indonesia. You got me once OkCupid but wont again. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice...can't get fooled again! Facebook dating is much better because people will remain on the facebook platform even if they end up meeting someone. So there is no incentive for facebook to give you the run around. I am getting a healthy supply of real matches. And its FREE! Just ditch OkCupid and use Facebook dating folks its 1000% better!
Recently encountered a strange incident. A man originally wrote ENM on his profile then removed it. We chatted a bit and he told me he wants monogamous. I was very cautious and didn’t believe him in beginning. Also he gave me a fake name, calling himself David, works for Google as software engineer. I didn’t want to date him and agreed I may be open to friendship. I put in some effort and had some conversation exchanges. The things he says is very inconsistent and fishy. We didn’t end up meeting as friends.
Later found out he was dating and slept with another woman, while telling me he is single and didn’t have sex for awhile. Me and this woman was able connect through common avenue and after finding out what he said, His woman sounds upset…Haha. Found out his real name is John, a real person working at Google and he speaks at some public convention.
Overall, This doesn’t sound ethical to me 🤔🤔🤔 What is going on with men? They can’t be honest and respectful?
So hear me out, so many profiles are just scammers asking for Instagram likes and snapchat follows.
Many profiles don't have photos or description.
In my profile, I wrote about I have no interest in dating conservatives, moderates, people who are religious.or people who have or want children. I also mention how I have no interest in matching with anyone who lives in some far off country either. Yet the majority of my messaged are from people either in the Philippines or Kenya and they're practically all conservatives and religious.
How can I be more clear?
Just something that started happening in the last week. Never happened before (for years). Always use my main phone basically (no app), then started getting the ‘Having trouble with our servers’ screen. After a few days of this I checked on my PC and website loaded normally. Checked my phone, nothing, ‘server issue’. 🤷🏻♂️ Is this possibly a method to get people to load the app on their phone? Just tried my phone again 6 hrs later and it loads normally again.
Anybody experiencing this?
I’ve seen a lot of reports of glitches recently, but haven’t seen this exact one mentioned yet.
3 or 4 times in the past couple of weeks, I liked someone without sending an intro, thinking to go back and add it later. But when I did, the profiles I liked were not there, and profiles I did NOT like WERE there. Like the app attributed my swipe to the profile directly before or after the one I was actually going for.
I (29M) dated a girl last summer for 2 months. I wasnt in love but saw potential in her. It is really rare for me to be honest, hard to find a girl I match.
She said she had feelings for me, and I really felt that. She acted a way I could tell she had feelings. But she went on a holiday where there was her love from the past who already had a girlfriend. They talked a lot and made this girl not sure about me, so we ended our dating.
I was very hurt, but knew she really used to love this guy. On social media I saw they did not get together, and the guy stayed with his gf.
Not so much time passed and saw this girl on instagram with a completely new guy. They look like they are in love.
For me it is hard to understand how could she have feelings for me, and another guy, then so easily moving on to a new one.
This girl is smart, normal, dont hookup with anyone. I simply not able to understand how can someone has a mind like this.
I dated after her but it is awful, still hurts when I think about her. I simply cannot really move my enthusiasm to another girl once the previous is over.
I feel that my kind of thinking is not normal. She acted like she wanted to be with me, now the third guy won.
How can someone change her feelings so fast?
Dude, I hate how toxic OKCupid is.
And this isn't even a new age thing, OkCupid has always been toxic about age gaps and etc (yes, I'm sure some of you will agree with OkCupid on this... don't care. OkCupid use to force your minimum age up to a max of like 13 years younger than you or something like that).
I was getting likes, matches, and even conversations on OkCupid. Lately, cause prom night just happened with the highschool, I've been seeing a lot of younger girls across my Instagram feed and its gotten me a little thirsty for that. However, I'm not going to try and dive after girls on Instagram (especially since most of them literally just got out of highschool... doesnt feel right to me)
So I went on OkCupid and dropped my age range to see if any younger girls were looking to date. Figure this way its all out in the open, they see I'm older, I see they are trying to date, and we if we match and chat then its clear everyone's down with it.
Within a few days my likes dropped by 20, I haven't gotten any new matches (not even from before I changed the age range) and now even after I brought the age range back up I still am suddenly seeing no picture profiles. like, brah, I know damn well I didn't run out of profiles in SF... I get you are super unpopular now but you arent THAT dry on members OkCupid. Clearly, my profile got flagged because of the age thing and that's just fucking rude.
who are you to tell people how to date, you are just a fucking platform... okcupid... and you sure as shit arent the morality police.
I am trying to get a relationship out of this, but also wanted to know if I should add another group photo.
M(23) . I wrote in my bio that im a dm
A girl writes me an intro about joining my group
Whats now
I have my age range set between 25 - 36 years old. In the last week to week and a half I've been seeing these profiles with the no profile picture default silhouette popping up when swiping in the recommended section. They are always 18 years old and they have the no profile picture default silhouette. Sometimes there would be multiple of these profile appearing at once like I would see 3 in a row or 2 in a row before it goes back to showing me normal profiles. Is this happening to anyone else? I doubt its the app running out of people to show me because I live in a big city and its still showing me people with my preferences, but every maybe 10 - 15 swipes I'll get 2 or 3 of these profiles showing up.
I am 37 m in the United States. Never married with no kids. I have always dated with the idea that it would eventually lead to marriage.
My life ended up going down some unexpected routes. I am happy with the person I am and the path I have taken. But having the traditional marriage with kids is just not really on my plate anymore. It is totally fine. I have just never really casually dated before.
Does anyone have any advice in how to get into casual dating for the first time in your late 30s?
Some parameters to consider. I live with my parents. Moving out is not an option. So, this would always stay casual. And obviously I am not interested in having kids of my own either.
I (29M) ended my 7 years long relationship 2 years ago. After that I hoped that dating will open new doors for me but not really.
I dated lots of women, from tinder or from real life. Very few of them made me enthusiastic, but they really did. Unfortunatelly I put them on a pedestal because of this. They all disappointed me and dumped me because of an ex or a sudden mind change, whatever.
These were last year but still hurt me so much. I did not love them but have seen potential in them.
Since then I am going to a therapist who helps, but I am not sure if i want to date or if I need someone at all. I still feel lonely sometimes, but I cannot feel enthusiasm toward love and romance anymore. It gave me so much pain.
But I feel okay now. Not sure if this is how a “normal” person feels toward dating or is it just a coping mechanism.
What do you think?
And one even has a blue bar at the top of her blurry little pic. I’m guessing she sent a message. Very rarely do I get a pop up saying I missed a match. Anyone else have this issue? Any tricks to get them to show up?
Just curious if anyone noticing they can’t access the site regularly, for a number of days now. Getting the “It’s our fault.” screen regularly, all times of day and night, for a number of days now. Rarely but occasionally loads. Don’t recall this happening before. In Quebec.
Way too many likes, prob many from out of the area. Is it worth to check it to let it sit there??? I know some of these are likely bots but are they all???
