It’s gonna be tough for quite sometime but it does get easier and even when it gets easier you’ll still have some downs in between. I wish I could tell you how to co parent, all I can say is patience and choose your battles. Always remain calm even when you want to flip bat *** crazy lol (I’ve been there) just let it go. I hope the best for you and the little baby

Same situation here. Except... this is our 2nd baby together. Definetly planned too so that makes it more hard. The day before I found out, we broke up. It’s been very confusing bc this time around, we were more perfect than we’ve ever been. So I guess I’m not sure where things went wrong all of a sudden. Or maybe I do but it’s still crazy to me considering how we were literally just talking about getting married and having another baby. Well, we made one of those things happen and I find myself alone once again and it’s made it a bit hard to be as happy as I wanna be about this pregnancy bc we were supposed to be a happy family this time around. But, I guess things never change. It sucks but taking it day by day is all you can do. I agree it does take a lot of patience.

Life is an experience and a choice. Do not get from you with one look for another or third

I have the same issue to deal with. Except in my case it’s my husband of 4 years (together 7) and our 2nd child. So now I have to coparent with a 1.5 year old and 5 week old. It’s extremely difficult to juggle the two of them. And I’m breastfeeding. And I too have a broken heart. I have been alone since January. And since then every time he’s come to the house to see his kids I can’t even look at his face. It hurts. I’ve not ever gotten a genuine apology for what he’s put me through the last 2 years almost. Not that I’d believe him if I did. He’s a lying cheating narcissist. And had hardly any involvement with his daughter for 15mos while living here and now threatens to take me to court for 50/50 to put my babies in daycare 11hrs a day when he has them. He’s a complete monster and yet I have to coparent with him which is impossible with a narcissist from what I’m reading. They manipulate the *** out of court. Basically he’s now lying to his lawyer too about me to make a paper trail of me looking “bad”. It’s ridiculous. This is not how I expected my life to be either. It’s very painful to live through this.

I hope it’s going better for you?! ����

I understand what you’re going through. I’m going through a similar situation. I’ve been going to therapy and church which has helped me to keep a more positive mindset. I hate that I now have to be tied to someone for the next 18 years that broke my heart. However, I know there will be someone else out there that will treat me way better than he ever did!

I went through the exact same thing earlier this year. It didn't really start to get better until we had an actual conversation about how we both felt about the situation and what we needed to do to give my baby the best life possible. If hes willing. maybe you could try and have that conversation too and maybe you can get some closure with that relationship. Regardless, it gets easier as time goes on. Keep your chin up darling ❤

@mandylee62 thanks for your response. It truly is awful. Nothing he says makes sense or is about the baby. The transparent attempts to make me crazy do and it’s sooo hard to not let him know that. I’m sure in the long run we will be stronger for it, but my heart breaks that I don’t think my child will ever be shown true love by him and that he is capable of using a baby as a pawn to hurt me after all if the physical, emotional and verbal pain he already put me through for years. I’ll share any wisdom I may come upon, but so far killing him with kindness and ignoring the nonsense are my only forms of defense