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Home & Garden I live in an old shoe factory. Just above me, there’s a billboard supported by enormous steel beams and joists that creates its own complicated architecture from street level, when I’m taking my dogs out and happen to look up. The walls of my loft are brick, the floor cement. There are a lot of windows—I am encased in windows—but the lighting is complex; the sun reflects from many different surfaces in downtown Saint Paul. It is not cozy. But it’s cool, cosmopolitan, a great space for entertaining—something I haven’t had the opportunity to do in a long time. I live with two dogs, as I’ve mentioned— Gizmo, a four-pound blonde Chihuahua, and Barney, a 12-pound blonde Chiweenie (the latter being a portmanteau of Chihuahua and, I guess, weenie, or weiner dog). Gizmo prefers

the company of humans to animals, although he seems to favor cats. He has some fight in him, and has lost terrifying and extremely brief altercations with larger dogs, one being a Rottweiler. I purchased Gizmo in another life, over 10 years ago, from a “breeder” on the Ojibwa Reservation who lived in an abysmal doublewide outside of town. Barney I got from a shelter in east L.A.—he’d been found in a box in an alley, and his tail had been crudely docked. Barney is the more temperamental of the two, and will bark—loudly—at anyone who tries to talk to me. I have lived all over the place, and have visited nearly every type of American home you can imagine. The Upper Peninsula still feels like home—not my childhood house, which never really felt that welcoming, but rather like a vessel for fear and sadness, really, which

seemed to haunt the place and swim through its halls like ghosts. Rather, Lake Superior feels like home, and I get a romantic pang whenever I’m close enough to see it. This is not unique, but a fellow feeling shared by many folks who grew up on the water. Home, after all, is where the heart is. I spent most of my life on the Reservation. Apart from that, I have lived in Scotland, Chicago, Milwaukee, Los Angeles, Montana, Portland, Minneapolis, and now Saint Paul. I always visualized a house and a family, putting down roots, but I have, as they say, gathered no moss. I think I’d like to. Anyway, this is the Home & Garden Issue. Your home is an expression of yourself. Look around: What does your home say about you? 





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Theater in the Time of Covid-19 Entering the Orpheum I was surrounded by a gaggle of little princesses—and princes—shepherded by a phalanx of their elders, all masked and hyped for the cold comfort to come, it hit home that I not only had not set foot in a theater since February of 2020, but I was likely the only person in this hemisphere—if not beyond—who had neither seen nor heard of Frozen. The night’s performance burst forth with gusto, swathed in miraculous, astounding effects that the Bard himself would have envied, including Shakespearian fools in snowman and reindeer personas. For any few as benighted as I, Frozen features a princess—Elsa—who flees an infuriated crowd when her untamed magic turns her kingdom to ice; her sister, Princess Anna (“the spare”) whose love, loyalty, pluck will save the day. Added to Anna’s roguish wit was the fact that she’s played by hometown favorite Caroline Innerbichler, the Eagan native well-known from her performances in Fiddler on the Roof and The Little Mermaid at Chanhassen, and many others all the way back to her high school debut in Annie.

It was truly a magical evening, and one left flushed with the hope of seeing a thaw in our own kingdom, as well as that of Arendelle. The Guthrie, opening after 578 days with Heidi Shreck’s memoir play, What the Constitution Means to Me is the story of another young woman in another, closer realm. The 15-year-old Schreck, played here by Cassie Beck, earned money for college by entering debates, giving speeches throughout the country at American Legion halls speaking passionately on the Constitution. Onstage, Beck’s Heidi keeps her teen passion, but is having second thoughts about the Constitution and what it means to her, now as a 40-yearold adult. With an Elsa-like flick of the wrist, she conscripts the audience as Legionnaires, proclaiming, “Tonight you’re all men” —men who are facing an open stage in Wenatchee, WA, Legionnaire’s hall. There’s a podium for the contestant, a Legionnaire official timing her responses, and Heidi, recreating from memory her original speech. The background walls are studded with over a hundred framed portraits of white men. Not attempting to play teen, the adult Heidi in-

terrupts her original spiel to explain how women in her own family, through four generations of domestic abuse, were not protected by the Constitution. By turns serious, funny, ironic, Heidi’s narrative is always free from self-pity, stressing that what her female forebears endured, so did generations of indigenous peoples, trans black women and many others. Imagine, she instructs her audience, a group of people living under a document that recognizes and protects only the rights of white, male landowners. She pauses before adding, “We don’t have to imagine.” In the end a third actor, a young teen woman, debates Heidi on whether the Constitution is worth preserving; we, the “Legionnaires,” must decide the winner. Each of these plays offers female protagonists passionate preserve those things in their kingdom/country that are valuable, seeking equity and justice for all living within their borders, ultimately, to defrost the rigid ties that fetter their people. 










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A STOP-AND-CHAT WITH BOUNCE QUEEN BIG FREEDIA There wasn’t much good news coming out of Katrina-ravaged New Orleans in 2005, but bounce music queen Big Freedia changed that narrative: She returned to the Big Easy to uplift community spirits with her high-energy stage performances. She was already well-known in the area, having made a name for herself on the Crescent City club scene, and she was just starting to break out nationally. Fast-forward a decade to 2016 and she’s a full-fledged star—featured on Beyoncé’s “Formation” and Drake’s “Nice For What” in 2018. In 2021, after a lengthy hiatus due to the COVID-19 pandemic, Freedia is bigger than ever, with a current tour and a new album, Big Diva Energy.

You have a penchant for purses. What’s a favorite in your own collection, and what’s one you can’t wait to get your hands on? Michael Kors is one of my all-time favorites, but I can’t wait to get my hands on the new Tory Burch tote that I ordered. It’s burgundy and I cannot wait for it to arrive!

You always have the wildest looks. Where does your style inspiration come from? What’s one place you love to source your pieces? My looks are inspired by anything and everything I see. I can be at the grocery store, watching a movie, or touring in a new city and get ideas and style inspiration. My secret sourcing spot is on Melrose Avenue in L.A. I won’t tell you the name though; it’s my secret.



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You’re also a gun-violence activist. Your brother was killed a few years ago by gunfire, and you’ve been shot yourself. A documentary on the subject called Freedia Got a Gun—starring you—is streaming on Peacock. Was this a cathartic project for you? I haven’t the slightest idea how to solve the awful gun violence problem we have in America. I do believe in prevention though, and I know that mental health is a very important part of it for our Black and LGBTQ+ youth—all youth. If kids have hope and opportunities, a life of violence will be much less likely. I am very much an advocate of mental health services and support in our communities. What do you have planned for your fans that have waited so long to see you on tour? A Big Freedia show is a big party, so they can expect an even bigger party since we’ve been in our homes. Extra energy, extra Bounce! All I can say is please BE VACCINATED if you come to a show and let us all celebrate safely. Tell me all about your new album. Are there any fire collabs in the works? I’m very excited about my new album, Big Diva Energy. I wanted this to be my album and reflect my voice, so I didn’t get collabs. My homegirl, Boyfriend, is on one track. We’ve worked a ton together this year, but she’s the only one. For more information on Big Freedia, her touring schedule and other upcoming projects, visit  Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyroxtravels





PRIDE JOURNEY: COLORADO SPRINGS Did you know that Colorado Springs is also known as Olympic City U.S.A.? Neither did I. Not only is the city home to the U.S. Olympic Training Center, but Colorado Springs recently celebrated the grand opening of the U.S. Olympic & Paralympic Museum, a stunning state-ofthe-art building showcasing the history of the Olympic games as well as athletes who competed. The 60,000 square-foot facility focuses on the core values of the Olympic and Paralympic movements: friendship, respect and excellence, determination, equality, inspiration and courage. The museum was voted “Best New Attraction” by USA Today and it’s easy to see why. Visitors enter a grand lobby and take an elevator to the top level of the building where they can view a chronological history of the Olympic and Paralympic torches, medals and other items. The museum is divided between the summer and winter games and the selfguided tour includes an emotional video highlighting the greatest U.S. Olympic triumphs, as well as some struggles Team U.S.A. has faced along the way. The U.S. Olympic & Paralympic Museum is within walking distance from the new Kinship Landing hotel, so it’s well worth the visit. After a morning at the museum, grab a quick bite at the hotel’s restaurant, Home Café + Bar. I ordered the North Park sandwich, consisting of roasted pork, caramelized onions, banana peppers and served with a black garlic aioli. It was a messy, but delicious way to begin my stay at Kinship Landing. The hotel is meant to be a gathering place. Many spaces in the lobby are designed so guests can mingle and socialize with each other. The hotel gears towards a younger, more adventurous traveler who is looking to make friends and create wonderful memories along the way. This in no way means the hotel skimps on luxury. The bed was probably one of the most comfortable I’ve slept on. A brief 15-minute ride from the property is the Cheyenne Mountain Zoo, which was recently voted one of the best zoos in the country. While the setting is truly breathtaking, the zoo itself was a bit challenging to navigate. There were a few times my guest and I had to back track and ask zoo staff for directions, as some of the exhibits weren’t clearly marked. Some of my favorite areas of the zoo included the pen-



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guin habitat, as well as the Australian exhibit. Visitors can also purchase unique experiences including the chance to feed elephants and giraffes. For dinner, head over to Paravicini’s Italian Bistro, an old-school Italian restaurant located in Old Colorado City, or “OCC” as the locals call it. The restaurant was featured on an episode of Guy Fieri’s Diners, Drive-ins & Dives, and I can now see why Fieri was so in love with this place. The chicken marsala and side of penne Bolognese were prepared to perfection. I wasn’t expecting a great Italian meal in Colorado, but I sure got one. Colorado Springs is home to two LGBTQ bars, Club Q and ICONS. Although I didn’t have a chance to visit Club Q, I did swing by ICONS, which is located in the heart of downtown. The piano bar is probably one of the best LGBTQ bars I’ve been to in recent memory, not only for the theme, but also the friendliness of the staff and quality of the cocktails. The venue opened in 2020 and features a talented group of bartenders, who also perform throughout the evening, singing a variety of music from old standards to more recent hits from icons including Whitney Houston and Lady Gaga. The next part of my trip focused on wellness and nature. I began the morning with an

incredible yoga class from Dragonfly Paddle Yoga where we did yoga on a paddleboard in the middle of a lake. Get ready to engage your core muscles for this one, or you will be drenched before class is over. The class meets at the boat ramp of a manmade lake near downtown and paddles to an alcove surrounded by lush trees, with mountains soaring in the background. At first, I was hesitant to try to stand on the paddleboard, but as time went on, I gained confidence in my yoga skills (or lack thereof) and was able to stand and perform yoga poses. Some were more challenging than others, but I did get a fabulous workout while enjoying the beautiful surroundings. After grabbing a light snack and latte from Loyal Coffee located directly across from Kinship Landing, head to the Cog Railway and prepare to ascend to an elevation of over 14,000 feet to the top of Pike’s Peak. The entire journey takes a little over an hour but is well worth it. The view from Pike’s Peak is spectacular and was said to be the inspiration for the song “America the Beautiful.” The original railway opened in 1891 and was recently restored, making it the highest in the United States and longest cog railway in the world. Bring your camera for this journey! End your vacation in Colorado Springs with a visit to the Garden of the Gods Resort and Club. Located just 15 minutes from downtown, the resort is positioned on the edge of Garden of the Gods Park and the view is nothing short of extraordinary. Guests can dine on the mesa while watching the sunset over the mountains or wake up early for some sunrise meditation. As soon as I arrived at the hotel, I went for a walk around the property and was overwhelmed by the sheer beauty of the resort and the park itself. My room featured two queensize beds and an enormous bathroom with walk-in shower and separate soaking tub. I really didn’t spend much time there, as I was too busy enjoying the natural wonders. After a few days spent touring the city, I was most excited about my treatments at STRATA Integrated Wellness and Spa. I began my spa day with Functional Neurology, a complex science which uses signals from the body to reset the brain. The alternative treatment is used to properly align the body’s musculoskeletal structure and restore mobility. It’s like a combination of chiropractic and touch therapy. Speaking of touch therapy, I had the chance to experience a wonderful treatment in which the therapist used her hands to help treat aches

and pains. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but the treatment was quite relaxing and something I would do again. I was able to feel the heat and energy from her hands as she ever-so-slightly touched problem areas. My favorite treatment of the day, however, was the Royal Thai Poultice Massage, an 80-minute experience that combines an organic herbal poultice with Thai stretching, and aromatherapy. How’s that for a day of pampering? Begin the following morning with Breathwork and Mindfulness on the mesa led by the STRATA’s wellness coach Kelly Stoinski. It’s

rare that I have a chance to slow down, especially in the morning, but this was a perfect way to end an incredible visit. Colorado Springs is a great place for LGBTQ travelers seeking a combination of outdoor adventures as well as city life. While the city itself isn’t as large as its neighbor to the north, it is very walkable, easy to navigate and everything you need to experience is within a 15- 20-minute drive from the airport. To book your Colorado Springs gaycation, visit Enjoy the Journey! 





SIOUX FARE At last! The wait for the long-anticipated and profusely publicized Owamni, fathered by Sean Sherman, aka The Sioux Chef, is over. I’ve watched it being painstakingly reconstructed from elements marking the riverside home of the former Fuji-Ya and, before that, site of Native ceremonies. The restaurant’s expansive second-story vista captures views of the mighty Mississippi near the Stone Arch Bridge. The slim, contemporary space is dressed in the clean-cut minimalism of blonde wood and a generous wall of window glass opposite a few diner stools facing an open kitchen. Currently dinner is the sole option, but plans to add casual, take-out lunches are on the drawing board. To celebrate our night, we clinked glasses of a petite syrah blend from Owamni’s list of primarily Indigenous wine producers (BTG $9-18), then turned to the menu, curated by categories (game, plants, salads, entrees, etc.). It celebrates ingredients of North America’s pre-Colonial days—thus, none of the pork, chicken, beef, wheat flour and dairy products introduced by European conquerors. From the menu’s game list (sausage, bison tartare, preserved rabbit and other tantalizing starters) we selected a pair of Nixtamalized Native Corn Tacos. They’re built upon a tissuethin, soft and malleable (and thus knife-andfork, rather than finger food) tortilla infused with a come-hither sweet-corn flavor ($6). The first celebrated a petite cache of cedar-braised bison tendrils, flavorful and juicy as you please, joined by a fine dice of sweet apple, threads of leeks and amaranth leaf. Tasty. So was the pulled duck version, built with bits of true-flavored, tender meat infused with sweet maple balanced by a subtle punch of hot chilies and gently pickled bits of squash and watercress. Next, from the trio of salad offerings ($11-



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15, sized for sharing), we chose the Forest version—an unassuming (as it turned out) toss of romaine with small-diced segments of cured duck and turkey. It’s topped with half a duck egg, celebrating its well-timed, glowing yolk. It acted as centerpiece amidst a toss of hominy and shelled peas in a mild vinaigrette. Next

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time, I’d opt instead for a couple of the small side plates offered (cornbread to wild rice; blue corn mush to sweet potato, $6-9). A trio of interesting sandwiches (bison, turkey, garden, $14) caught our attention, as did a Native grain bowl ($17-19), but we proceeded instead to consider the three entrees on offer. First, the popular bison, whose price tag (north of $40) put it out of the range of my pocketbook, then the catch of the day—today, lake trout ($26) and a stuffed green chile ($18). The trout was, in a word, terrific: a thick cut of mild and ultra-moist demeanor beneath its enticingly crispy skin. It arrived marshaled by baby beet leaves alongside wild rice, crisp batons of parsnips and a lovely jolt of sweettart plum sauce. The mild, green poblano harbored chunky sweet potato, sided by hominy and black beans in a velvety and easygoing red chili sauce. A trio of desserts, unlisted but described by our server, led off with what he called a creation similar to chocolate cake with ice cream. Or choose a berry parfait topped with walnut cream or a sunflower-squash tart with mixedberry sauce. In line with today’s trend toward equity, a 15% service charge is assessed in lieu of tips. Is this a restaurant which will draw more than the curious one-timers? Time will tell. I’m rooting for its place in the pantheon of unique local options with which our city is blessed. 


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House Beautiful (And Cheap-ish!) BY MIKEY ROX


Upon the initial walk-through of the first home I’d buy, my head was consumed with designing that space, top to bottom, exactly how I wanted. I was so eager to hit the ground running that furniture and fixtures arrived in a succession of FedEx trucks before the real estate agents sealed the deal. No longer culled creatively by a landlord, I had big plans for the bedrooms, bathrooms, kitchen, and outdoor areas. Only one hurdle: I had a conservative budget that curtailed my ostentatious ideas. Ever resourceful, however, I was able to bring my vision to life without going broke. Here are a few ways I did it (that you can too).


A simple coat of paint on drab walls is transformational. Anything but white is fair game in my homes, and I choose colors that will not only complement my existing wares but also inspire my mood on a daily basis. In the past I’ve been partial to a bright-and-cheery sky blue that runs through the main room in all three of my properties, but I’ve also turned walls red, pink, yellow, green, gray and tan. I also have a passion for wallpaper, but not full-on four-wall coverage. I choose one wall to drape with pattern, like behind the living room couch—and I make it count. I select ultra-premium paper from high-end producers. That sometimes costs a pretty penny, but the expense is justified in that I’m only dressing one accent wall and that one accent wall will become the focal point of that room. These days you can find quality prints on removable paper that costs a fraction of the real deal on the front and back ends of the project (traditional wallpaper is notoriously hard to hang and remove). Just peel and stick and peel again when you fancy a switch-up. The price difference between the two variations is in the thousands of dollars. Continued on page 18



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I never look at full price items either. If it’s not on sale, I don’t buy it. Most often, I head straight for the clearance sections or search for deeply discounted floor models. Large area rugs, for example, can extract hundreds from your budget, but lightly tread floor models (that can be washed professionally and inexpensively) are discounted up to 70 percent in some cases. My prized find was a gorgeous six-person glass-top dining table that retailed for $750 reduced to $250 because of a small scratch on the glass. A few months later, West Elm contacted me to receive a new glass top because of a recall on the original for the way it shattered if broken. It was delivered scratch-free and free of charge just because I was willing to take the L in the first place. Bona fide W in the end.



When I had a contractor estimate the cost of a bathroom remodel, I was left mouth agape by the total. He quoted $10k, which was beyond my reasonable expectation and my budget. And that bathroom was small. So I did the next best thing. Instead of a complete revamp, I replaced the vanity, mirrors, faucets, shelving and lighting. I’ve also upgraded the toilet in the past. Elbow grease on the tile brought it back to its original luster, and for less than a grand I had a new bathroom that I also outfitted with a cloth shower curtain, stylish curtain rings, complementary floor mat, color-coordinating towels, candles and art. The reveal was a spa-quality oasis that left me satisfied mentally, physically and financially.


I have a few go-to home retailers I shop when designing my spaces, most of which are accessible to modest budgets. My personal aesthetic leans more toward the styles of West Elm and CB2, but there are plenty of other outlets that will accommodate your design preferences.



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Have I spent hundreds—even thousands—on artwork? Yes. Certainly not thrifty, but I saved up over time for the pieces I wanted. To offset those major expenses, I also make my own art using various resources and materials. I’ve turned postcards and periodical clippings into masterpiece collages; driftwood into conversation-piece jewelry organizers; and I’ve repurposed garage and flea finds into functional items like eyecatching reupholstered chairs. To save even more dough, I keep a file on my computer that includes printable projects, like links for rasterizing favorite photos into frameable, large-format wall hangings (, and the free Charley Harper flora-fauna poster series available via the National Park Service website. There are tons of other search-specific options out there for whatever tickles your decorating pickle.


Plants make a house a home. They’re relatively cheap, space-up otherwise empty areas, and, well, they make everybody feel frickin’ fantastic. I mix real and fake plants all over my spaces to create comfortable, welcoming environments. Keeping them alive, of course, is half the battle, but we’re adulting now and plants are our babies—babies that don’t scream, cry or spit up on you. Let the straights keep those; I’ll take another terrarium, please.  Mikey Rox is an award-winning journalist and LGBT lifestyle expert whose work has been published in more than 100 outlets across the world. Connect with Mikey on Instagram @mikeyroxtravels

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Bachman’s – Decking the Halls: A How-To BY SHANE LUECK PHOTOS COURTESY OF BACHMAN'S “Deck the halls with boughs of holly” sounds simple in theory, but when it comes time to start decorating for the holidays, many people don’t know where to start. That’s where places like Bachman’s Winter Wonderland—Ideas & Inspiration for the Home self-guided tour comes in. People can explore different vignettes of styled rooms and tabletops to get inspiration for their own home or entertaining, and even purchase products that they’re seeing right then and there. Karen Bachman Thull, the Director of Marketing and Corporate Communications for Bachman’s, generally finds that people start by creating a welcoming outdoor space, particularly with spruce top containers that can last all through the winter months. They’re made out of tips of evergreen trees and other greenery for added texture, and when placed in soil that freezes, they act like a dormant evergreen in the winter and stay fresh without needing a water source. “However, until it freezes, you will need to keep your pot or window box watered,” she says. “That’s why November is a popular time to do it: usually the soil isn’t quite frozen yet, and so it’s an opportune time to get it in before it does freeze.” Spruce tops can also transition from autumn harvest décor through the winter holidays. “A lot of people will put silk or dried stems in there, like dried hydrangeas from their garden, during the autumn months and then transition that in December to the more festive elements,” Bachman Thull says. “Maybe it’s pine cones, sparkling globes or ornaments. It’s really a fun opportunity to create a dramatic welcome.” Since the soil needs to freeze, you won’t be bringing spruce tops inside, but that doesn’t mean the festivity has to stop at the front door. Bachman Thull notes that living Christmas trees remain popular. She says, “I think it’ll be even more popular this year as people are still hunkering down and really enjoying the spaces they have and making them special for whatever their gatherings might look like. If you bring a live Christmas tree into your home, remember that those are very thirsty, so you’ll need to water those quite often and have a reservoir for that.”



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If you have an artificial tree, she recommends spending time properly fluffing it and preparing it for lights and ornaments. You might even consider adding additional picks and ribbon to hide more bare spots and fill out your tree to make it appear fuller. “Light your tree from the inside out, meaning start toward the trunk and move out,” she says. “Lights, of course, bring all of the magic alive. And when it comes to lights, the more the merrier, literally. A good rule of thumb is 100 lights per square foot of tree.” When it comes to ornaments and bobbles, her advice is to vary their size and group in clusters of three or five within the same color scheme. The goal is to create different focal points, but still have a cohesive story, regardless of your design style. Whether you have an existing color scheme you use every year, or you like to switch it up with the latest trends, Bachman Thull says you want to pick pieces that are meaningful. “What means something to you and what is something that perhaps you can add to as a tradition?” she says. “A lot of people will choose different ornaments or they’ll have something special that would go on a mantel. It’s not just the tree that can wow—a mantel can wow as well.” There are countless ways to create a statement with your holiday décor—whether it’s with one of the more than 65,000 poinsettia plants Bachman’s grows every year, or welcoming Minnesota’s winter birds to your yard with a seeded wreath. Even placing a fresh garland running down a long table is a simple way to make an impression, although Bachman Thull recommends moving the garland outdoors soon after your event to prevent it from drying out and becoming a hazard. Whatever the final look might be, finding décor and florals that speak to your style is the most exciting part of holiday decorating, she explains. “You have your décor theme and then you’re bringing in fresh accents and that almost happens at the last second before you’re ready to entertain. First you have your décor, then you have your food and beverage, and then you’re bringing in those last festive and special details.” She continues, “There’s really no wrong way to decorate or entertain. Really, it’s such a fun time to express your own style. That’s the special part of the holidays: making it your own.” 

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Schneiderman’s Furniture – Heart Is Where the Home Is BY DALE FITZGERALD PHOTOS BY SPACECRAFTING PHOTOGRAPHY OF MINNEAPOLIS The home is a living thing. We mean that literally and figuratively. Literally, because all physical things are made up of atoms, and atoms are alive. And figuratively, because the home is always evolving along with its owners. The living room, rearranged, provides a different form of energy. The dining set, replaced, creates a new dining room. And since our home is a manifestation of the self—how we express ourselves, who we want to be and how we want to be perceived—it stands to reason that the home is an extension of our personalities: versatile, nurturing, everchanging. You care for your home; your home then provides harmony. That’s where Schneiderman’s—the premier family-owned furniture chain located throughout the Twin Cities and Duluth—comes in. We recently sat down with Susan Strong, Merchandise Manager for Schneiderman’s Furniture, to discuss the lauded chain’s early days, what’s trending in interior design, and the qualities that make this furniture destination unique.

Can you tell us a little about the Schneiderman’s origin story and mission/vision? Schneiderman’s Furniture had its beginnings as a small country grocery store in Meadowlands, Minnesota in 1948. Max Schneiderman was the founder. He and his wife, Edna, ran the store and raised a family there—and eventually the general store became a furniture store. Two of the brothers, Larry and Russell, took over the business and looked to the Twin Cities to expand. We now have four stores in the Twin Cities and one in Duluth. A new store in Coon Rapids is in the planning stage and will open in early 2022. Schneiderman’s is now a third-generation company headed up by Jason Schneiderman, son of Larry Schneiderman. The Mission/Vision is to provide quality service and quality product in beautiful showrooms at prices that won’t break the bank. We believe everyone should have a comfortable home that is reflective of their personal style and family lifestyle. How long have you been a part of the Schneiderman’s family, and how did you get there? I’ve worked for Schneiderman’s Furniture since 1990. My career started at Dayton’s working in the furniture department and I came to Schneiderman’s to work in visual display and accessory buying. At that time we only had two stores with a third store in the works. I am now the Merchandise Manager and work on both visual merchandising and selecting and buying products for the showrooms. I love the challenge



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of seeking out furniture selections that are stylish, comfortable and welldesigned. The best part, though, is putting it all together in beautiful showrooms for our guests.

Can you speak to current and prospective interior design trends, and how Schneiderman’s stays on-point? We are just back from a trip to the furniture market in High Point, NC—my first trip since the pandemic began in 2020! The market is the best place to get an overview of current trends and what trends are on the horizon. The most prevalent style at this time has to be Farmhouse

style—from European to Modern Farmhouse. People love the relaxed look and the comfort of being surrounded by pieces that have a sense of a simpler past. Another popular trend currently is Urban Organic—cocktail tables made from root balls, dining tables with live edge wood tops, and stone top tables and storage pieces. These types of pieces add a natural touch to the home along with bringing in elements from the outdoors inside. Definitely a Minnesota favorite! Looking ahead, new designs are showing a retro vibe…lots of curves and radius corners, natural and lighter finishes on wood pieces, deepseating upholstery with wide padded arms and sink-in comfort. It’s the 50s, 60s and 70s influence all coming together with an updated modern feel. How would you describe the Schneiderman’s aesthetic? Definitely not glitzy! We carry a range of styles from urban to farmhouse to rustic, but we’re drawn to collections that are well-designed and functional that offer a value to our guests. Even with styles that have their roots in traditional designs, we look for updated fabrics, finishes and hardware, pared back-detailing, and features that enhance today’s more casual lifestyle.

Can you talk a little about the Design Services? We have a great in-home team that takes a collaborative approach to working with guests looking for design help in making selections for their home—whether they need furniture for just one room or an entire house. The service begins with working in the showroom to get a sense of the guest’s style and budget needs before presenting design ideas, including mood boards and floor plans, for each project. Our in-home team then presents solutions that include selections from furniture collections that we carry in stock along with special order options that customize the solution for the guest. The service is complimentary to our Schneiderman’s shoppers. How does Schneiderman’s differ from other furniture boutiques? I think our love of the furniture business comes through in all we do—whether it’s experiencing the design of the showrooms, furniture selections and special order options that we offer, knowledgeable and professional product specialists, and the support of our customer care and delivery department. It all starts with furniture, but in reality it is about creating beautiful, comfortable and functional spaces tailored to the individual. We want guests feeling like the experience was approachable, transparent, and ultimately fun for everyone. 



MCAD Art Sale – Return to Magenta BY BRETT BURGER PHOTOS COURTESY OF MINNEAPOLIS COLLEGE OF ART AND DESIGN I always find myself to be so lucky when I remember I live in the Twin Cities. Sure, when people think of an artsy city they think Chicago or New York, but we really are a hidden gem when it comes to art. Whether it’s performing arts, singing, music or visual art, I love it and there is always something new and exciting. The MCAD Art Sale is the nation’s largest college art fair, and serves as professional development for students and alumni. Cindy Theis, VP of Institutional Advancement, described it as a beloved annual event that “engages MCAD emerging artists with the wider public.” This is the 24th year this event has taken place and is a tradition that has generated close to $4 million for emerging artists. Continued on page 26



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“We’ve certainly achieved a number of really important victories that I was not certain I would see in my lifetime,” says Cleve Jones. “Of course, most obvious among them would be marriage equality. That was something that was really kind of unimaginable for my generation.” Jones (who self-identifies as a product of the anti-war, civil rights, and early feminist movements) has been on the front lines of creating change for decades. The pioneer LGBT and human rights activist joined the gay liberation movement in the early 1970s, was mentored by Harvey Milk, and would go on to co-found the San Francisco AIDS Foundation in 1983 and found The NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt in 1987. Yet, fondly reflecting on his decades of activism and how far we’ve come since, Jones is also quick to throw in a grain of salt. “When Harvey was elected, he was one of, I think, six or seven out LGBT people elected to office—I can’t even count how many we have now,” he continues. “The transgender community has made quite a bit of progress, especially in the last few years. I’m pleased by all of that, but I’m a little concerned that so many people seem to take all of this for granted. And many of us fought hard so that they would maybe be able to take it for granted.” Of particular concern is the loss of gayborhoods—cultural centers and touchstones for the LGBT community that are quickly fading away. “Why am I spending so much time yacking about the gayborhoods? Because it f*cking matters,” Jones says with just the slightest chuckle before getting serious again. “I don’t care where you live, you’ll have



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benefited from what we did on Castro Street. People who live in the tiniest little towns of Minnesota have benefited from what came out of the strength of our community in Minneapolis.” Pointing to the political power and influence that comes with large numbers in certain precincts and being able to win electoral victories, Jones also highlights the cultural impact that comes with living in the close proximity of a gayborhood. “If we lose the gayborhoods, we lose political power, we lose cultural vitality, and we lose the ability to provide the specialized social services most necessary for the most vulnerable among us: our transgender siblings, long-term HIV survivors, seniors, queer and trans kids seeking safety,” he says. “And again, you don’t have to actually live in one of these gayborhoods to benefit from what we’ve learned. In the Castro, we learned early on how to build the systems to serve people with HIV.” As a long-term HIV survivor who was first diagnosed in the late ‘80s (though he says he was likely infected nearly a decade sooner), Jones is disheartened by the way HIV/AIDS is seemingly dismissed by a large portion of the population today. “A lot of people are pretending that HIV/AIDS is over or under control. And yet I’m seeing all sorts of young people coming to me every year after finding out that they are now HIV positive. HIV/AIDS continues to affect a large number of people within our community, particularly in the more marginalized parts of our community.” “In all we’ve learned in fighting HIV/AIDS, I’m surprised that our

community has not taken on more of an active, visible role in addressing the challenge of COVID-19. After all we learned, don’t you think we have something to bring to that fight?” He continues, “It’s difficult for me to see so many of the same mistakes playing out again. Obviously, the diseases are very different, but some of the mistakes we’ve made around it are so very much the same.” In particular, Jones highlights the racial disparity in treatment and access to health care as the most damning similarity between the two diseases. “In parts of this country, we have reduced HIV transmission to almost zero, and that’s primarily among white people who have good health insurance,” he says. “We see that same thing with COVID: the terribly disproportionate impact on communities of color, particularly African Americans, Latino, and Indigenous communities. This is deja vu all over again. Higher infection rate, higher hospitalization rate, higher death rate…” he trails off before noting the similarities between HIV deniers and the COVID-19 conspiracy theorists. “In my mind, I’m hearing the echo of all of those people who screamed that HIV didn’t exist and that the medications were poison.” He calls out how events in the last five years indicate how all the progress made could be undone in the blink of an eye. Specifically, he noticed a decline in activism after marriage equality: “I would like to see conversation that’s about intersectionality, go beyond individuals, personal identity and be applied to actual issues. And I’m not seeing much of that.” He adds, “The community has largely embraced, at least with our slogans, the concept of Black Lives Matter. I’m sorry, but fighting racism takes a lot more than putting up a poster in your window or showing up at a rally. I feel that a lot of times folks think, ‘let’s just add a stripe or two to the flag,’ and that makes it all better. And it does not. If we really want

to play a useful role in dismantling systemic racism in this society, I think we need to do a better job.” In particular, Jones calls out several intersectional issues that also impact the LGBT community in unique ways: immigration, gun violence and suicide, health care disparities, and minimum wage and labor unions (he currently works as an organizer for the hospitality workers’ union UNITE HERE). “I absolutely believe that every one of us has a contribution we can make to the movement,” he says. “But when I talk about the movement, I’m not just talking about LGBT, I’m talking about the global movement to peace and justice. And we are a part of that, but I think in recent years, in some sections of the community, we’ve kind of lost sight of that.” Cleve Jones is calling on everyone to “find their place among the ranks of all the ordinary people out there who thought about a better world.” Regardless if a person is young or old, regardless of race or gender, Jones says everyone has a talent to bring to the movement. But it comes with a caveat. “I’m not looking for allies. I’m looking for co-conspirators. I’m looking for partners and collaborators,” he says with a sterner voice than usual. “I want people that are going to stand shoulder to shoulder with me.” Looking back on his life, the 67-year-old notes how he might be getting older, but that’s not stopping him. “Despite it all, I’m lucky. I still have a lot of very good friends that are alive. I have a partner. I have a step-dog. I’m grateful to be alive. And I would just like to continue to be somewhat useful. I don’t have any desire to just retire and go away.” He continues, “If anybody were to look at my life and take away one thing, I would hope it would be that I did make at least a little bit of a difference and that I had a good time doing it.” 





Seniors Helping Seniors – Help Is Not A One-Way Street We are relieved when someone reaches out a helping hand in our time of need, but the giver gains as well. Not just a do-gooder flush, but a certain intimacy in the knowledge that we will all, in the circle of time, need one another. It is a further boon if the giver and receiver speak the same language and have similar life reference points. I once observed a young technician administer a word association test to an elderly, bed-ridden client. When the younger woman said, “Bars,” the elder replied, “Post Office!” The young woman rolled her eyes and scribbled furiously, not realizing that in the client’s youth, post office employees were separated from the public by barred grilles. Seniors Helping Seniors is aware of and is serving this need for shared understanding that infuses but goes beyond a basic desire to help, offering caregivers who have traveled a similar road, have shared experiences, play Parcheesi and Canasta, and know the name of Nick and Nora Charles’s fox terrier. A home service agency that today covers 150 territories in 31 states and international locations, Seniors Helping Seniors employs some 6,000 caregivers world-wide, 85% of whom have entered into their second half-century. Minnesota boasts two offices—one based in Plymouth, covering most west Minneapolis suburbs, the other in Austin, providing senior care for the state’s southeastern area. (There remain yet more opportunities for other, different areas of the state.) Administrator Carley Chana explains that all of the Seniors Helping Seniors offices are independently owned, so that services offered may vary by location. Specifically, the Plymouth location offers non-medical, in-home services that include companionship, light housekeeping, outdoor chores like snow shoveling, personal care services, Alzheimer’s and dementia care, respite care, transportation, and more. “In the future,” Chana says, “we anticipate adding home health services such as health monitoring, medication management, wound care, injections, blood draws, and more, as well as facility-based care such as assisted living, nursing home care, memory care, and adult day care.” The care extends beyond the client to those



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closest who want the best for their loved one, but who themselves need respite. The client sees new faces, family members can relax and refresh, and the caregiver benefits from new faces and gains insights into their own future. Extremely important is a client’s ability to retain autonomy.

“Seniors Helping seniors has been a godsend for our family,” writes Susan B. “After our mother was diagnosed with progressive dementia, we needed help to keep her in her home as long as possible in line with her wishes. The skilled and compassionate ladies that cared for her (when we couldn’t) went above and beyond expectation and have been a true blessing for us and especially for her. They became an extension of our family, and for that we will always be grateful.” The very name Seniors Helping Seniors implies a peer relationship between client and caregiver. The brand, Chan explains, was founded by Kiran Yocom, a young woman who grew up in a Hindu family in India, but attended a Catholic school. She began donating money weekly at Mother Teresa’s charities, and when she met Mother Teresa, Yocum’s life was changed. Teresa’s teachings inspired Yocom and her husband, Philip, to start Seniors Helping Seniors in the United States in 1998.

“I am so grateful for the kind, caring support of my sister from Seniors Helping Seniors,” shares MichelJoy D. “After my parents died, I didn’t know how I could manage my sister’s care. Seniors Helping Seniors was recommended by a friend in the area. From the first phone call, they have provided everything needed. They even provide the services of the same person, every week. Al treats my sister just like his own sister. He has cared for her after foot surgery, cleaned her entire apartment, driven her to doctor/dentist appointments, taken her grocery shopping and to her hair dresser (you know a girl just has to take care of how she looks!) and checked up on her when needed. I never have to worry about her because I know that Al and Seniors Helping Seniors are there. To us, they are all saints!” Our world is aging as well as warming, and those with senior loved ones now will be needing services themselves in the not too distant future. Seniors Helping Seniors has been addressing the problems and concerns of families and clients for over three decades, spreading a net of care and consistency to many families around the globe. They’re ready to help with current crises, or to help plan for a smoother transition into the future.  For further information concerning services or lending a hand, visit

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I told him. His body stiffened. His fire dimmed.

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His ample manhood shriveled. — We finished showering silently. He jumped out first. Was half-dressed before I’d toweled dry. He uttered not another word.

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The silence saying so much. My previously elated heart sunken, I thanked him for his hospitality Politely let myself out Wishing I was ten years younger.





RELENTLESS In mid-October, the Texas legislature passed HB25, a law that bans transgender students from competing in K-12 sports according to their gender identity. This was the fourth attempt to get the law voted in; the three previous attempts had failed after over-the-top resistance by transgender rights groups and their allies. Texas now joins nine other states (amounting to 20% of the country) that have enacted similar trans sports bans this legislative season. That was on top of 100+ anti-trans bills being introduced into more than 20 state legislatures just this year. I have two takeaways from Texas’ supreme act of oppression. The first is the utter degree of contempt that Texas legislators have for transgender humans. Moreover, I’m willing to bet that none of those legislators have ever even spoken to a trans person. This new law yet again demonstrates how trans people—who lack any significant political power in Texas or anywhere else—are convenient red meat for those who are intolerant of anyone who is “Other.” Texas legislators will tout how they’ve protected cisgender athletes (mainly cisgender female athletes) from a purported grave harm owing to how hormones or genetics supposedly create an unfair advantage. (For the record, there is no such harm— trans athletes have no real distinct edge over cisgender athletes.) They’ll label themselves as being on the frontline pushing back against culture change that’s sure to rot all things dear to people who are fearful of losing the “real America” they love. More pointedly, those legislators will fundraise off this new oppressive law. Socially conservative PACs and constituents will reward the legislators. No doubt there will be a push for more transgender-marginalizing efforts; several years ago, Texas attempted to enact a “bathroom bill” to ban trans people from using public restrooms and I’m certain this will prompt efforts to introduce another such bill. My second takeaway is way more ominous, reflective of the evil—yes, that’s the right word—at play here. It’ about how relentless the oppressors have been: they failed three times to enact an anti-trans school sports bill, yet they took up the gauntlet one more time. Think about that. Transgender humans and



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their allies repeatedly fought oppressing trans children athletes in Texas and yet their elected officials persisted until they succeeded. Consider all of the work involved for those legislators—the long hours, the doubling down, having to endure emotional testimony and phone calls from the parents of trans kids. The legislators ware calculated and coldblooded. For them, human dignity didn’t matter one iota. At this point, let me divert by adding a personal note. My original draft of this piece continued on for several hundred more words about how the oppressors are winning in their efforts to reshape America. Because I was pretty blunt, that column was deemed too political, and I was faced with a choice of whether to stand my ground or revise the column. What my editor didn’t know is that on the very day that I submitted the original “too political” column, I gave a talk titled “Bridging Divides: Reflections on Grit, Resiliency and the Four Commonalities” to a worldwide audience. In that talk, among other things, I spoke of the need to approach all humans with good empathetic hearts as a way to get past “othering” people. More pointedly, I urged against demonizing those who are intolerant of humans who are “Other.” When we demonize, we’re no better than those who oppress us. It then becomes one vicious circle of people hating people. As I considered my options about the origi-

nal column, one thing became clear: I will not be a hypocrite. I can’t demonize people in print while at the same time urge against demonizing in speech. Thus, I’ve concluded that we can’t give in, we can’t be like the oppressors. We must find a better way to persist, to defeat those who so easily seek to lessen, if not erase, us. In other words, we must be relentless too. Relentless in empathy and compassion for all humans. Relentless in speaking up against injustice and oppression. Relentless in risk-taking to protect those who lack voices of their own. And, finally, relentless in pushing for the greater good, for understanding that it’s all about the children—my children, yours, the kid in your life if you’re childless, even the children of the oppressors. The children—whoever they are—represent the best we humans have to offer for a better future. We cannot give up. We cannot allow those who control everything to also control us. I vow to do this work. Please join along and help me to get in front of people to share this critical message. Thank you.  Ellen (Ellie) Krug, the author of Getting to Ellen: A Memoir about Love, Honesty and Gender Change, speaks and trains on diversity and inclusion topics; visit where you can also sign-up for her monthly e-newsletter, The Ripple. She welcomes your comments at ellenkrugwriter@