If you straight-up have no idea what to get your partner, situationship, or friend for the holidays this year, you’re definitely not alone. Sure, you know their general interests, but are they actually going to like whatever you give them? Even worse…what if they’re the type of person who “doesn’t want anything”?
Well, sexual gifts pretty much always take the cake when it comes to the best Christmas presents. Fortunately, Women's Health has got your back with this list of sexy, but not sleazy holiday gifts. Does your friend love massages? Get them this handheld massage tool that they can use on themselves or with a partner. Want to set the mood for your partner? Surprise them with this galaxy lights projector. And, of course, you can never go wrong with a fir-scented candle.
Meet the experts: Carol Queen, PhD, is staff sexologist at Good Vibrations and curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum; Johanna Rief is the head of sexual empowerment at Lovehoney.
While there are tons of options for sexual gifts, I carefully narrowed down the options to only include the best of the best. Check out these 39 amazing sexual gifts to shop in the final hours of this holiday season!
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1. Kinky Truth Or Dare Game
Chronicle Books Kinky Truth or Dare: Pick-A-Stick
Chronicle Books Kinky Truth or Dare: Pick-A-Stick
Call me nostalgic or old-fashioned, but there’s something so impossibly seductive about a good game of truth-or-dare. Tasked with answering a deeply revealing question or completing an adventurous dare, you end up learning a lot about your partner—and yourself. With this Pick-A-Stick Truth-or-Dare game, you’re sure to light a flame, whether for the first time or the 200th.
2. A Slip Dress
Holagift Satin Lingerie Sleepwear
I love a good slip dress, and this one is sure to get things going in the bedroom. Get your partner, yourself, or even a friend in the mood to heat things up this holiday season with this gorg minidress, which costs just under $20 and comes in a few different colors.
3. Sex Toy Gift Box
Lovehoney Lovehoney Dream Wand Sex Toy Gift Box (12 Piece)
A bundle of sexiness, this gift box includes a best-selling vibrator along with a bunch of sensual items. With additions like oils and play cards, it's the makings of some very steam evenings ahead.
4. Lingerie
This gorgeous lace bodysuit will bring all the spice to the bedroom.
"If the couple is a little more reserved, lingerie is a great way to dive into the sexual wellness category," explains Johanna Rief, head of sexual empowerment at Lovehoney. "It’s sexy, fun, and low stakes, because all you have to do is put it on, rather than something new you have to figure out how to use."
5. A Helpful Massage Tool
Love receiving massages but hate giving them? (I feel you.) This hand-like tool helps you knead into your S.O.'s knots and kinks without creating any for yourself. Plus, they'll be more inclined to go to town on your shoulders with this nifty toy, too, so it's a win for both of you.
6. Crotchless Panties
Savage X Fenty Mesh Crotchless High Leg Bikini
Warning: This sexy mesh thong is sure to put your partner in the mood, so maybe gift this one somewhere *private* and not in front of the entire fam.
7. A Lipstick Set
M.A.C. Hypnotizing Holiday Kiss Of Magic Lip Kit
MAC has elite lipstick and no one can tell me otherwise. Get your partner or yourself in the mood for sexy time with this cute holiday set, which features three shades of lipstick with a matte finish. Heck, you can wear this set all year round.
8. Block Square Bra
Comfortable and flexible, this stunning bra really does feel like a second layer of skin. There's minimal support, meaning you get to show more of that natural sexy physique.
9. A Sex Pillow
Help your shy friend take things up a notch by giving them this special sex pillow. "Sex pillows are a fantastic choice for partners who want to explore positions—and for those who could just use some back support!" says Carol Queen, PhD, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations and curator of the Antique Vibrator Museum.
They can use it to elevate their hips while experimenting with new sex positions (for deeper penetration) or lean on it for support during more intricate moves.
10. Non-Sticky Lube
Uberlube Überlube Silicone Lubricant
In search of something a little smaller to keep at bae's? Try this bottle from Überlube.
Nice silicone lube is the stuff of sex dreams—including anal, btw—especially when it doesn't dry up or create a sticky situation. "Silicone-based lube is super-slick and sensual," says Queen. "Reminder not to use it on your silicone toys though."
11. An Oral Sex Simulator
Satisfyer Pro 2 Air-Pulse Clitoris Stimulator
Everyone deserves a good orgasm or two. Brighten up a friend or partner's holiday season with the sexiest gift of all: An oral sex toy that mimics cunnilingus. The Satisfyer Pro 2 (a very fitting name) has air pulse functions and will have them forgetting their ex ever existed in mere minutes.
According to Queen, a good vibrator goes a long way during the holidays since they're "an investment in pleasure and a higher-quality product that shows your partner sexy thoughtfulness and appreciation," she says.
12. A Galaxy Projector
Need to set the mood but you don't know how? I present: the galaxy projector. Not only does it have 33 different light effects for every type of vibe, but it's also a Bluetooth speaker and white noise machine in one. Plus, it's remote-controlled and has a timer shutoff.
13. A Sexy Book
Dark Erotia Novels Short Stories for Women
Reading is a great form of foreplay, tbh. These dark, erotic short stories are sure to turn you and your partner on, or would make a great gift for a friend who's a reader.
And if this one doesn't seem up their alley, there are plenty of other sexy, literary options out there. "There are so many ways you can go here—erotic stories, sexy art books, info books about specific kinds of play, and brain candy for those who think big-picture thinking is sexy... each one opens possibilities for both play and talking about sex," says Queen.
14. Lace Robe
A sexy robe is a must-have for the holiday season to me. This one is super cute, comes in 18 colors, and has over 31,000 ratings on Amazon, so people must really love it. In fact, people say it's comfy and high-quality—all for a price of under $20!
15. A Cleanser And Oil Set
Luna Daily The Everywhere Wash + Care Mini Set
Luna Daily makes amazingly gentle products for the *downstairs* area, so if you're into showering with your partner and want to get a little extra sensual, take these with you. You can use the oil afterward to massage your partner as well. (Pssst...both of these products are also travel-friendly, so if you're going on vacation during the holidays, well, you know what to do.)
16. A Butt Plug Kit
Lovehoney Jewelled Metal Butt Plug Set
This butt plug is kind of fancy-looking, right? It's a beginner- to intermediate-friendly toy for those interested in anal play—including those in your life who might be interested in exploring that prostate pleasure center.
17. Briefs
Give both you and your S.O. the gift of briefs. He gets the briefs, while you get the view of him in the briefs.
18. A Lace Bra
Love, Vera Unlined Underwire Balconette Bra
Everyone with breasts should have a good lace bra, IMO. I don't think they'll ever go out of style or stop being sexy. This unlined one is absolutely gorgeous—I love the color—and people say it's super comfortable.
19. A Sexy Card Game
ARTAGIA Card Game for Couples
Out of ideas of how to spice up sexy time? This game will do all the work for you. Choose cards under the "talk," "flirt," and "dare" categories, and see where the night takes you.
20. A Massage Candle Set
Massage Oil Candle - 3 Scents Bundle
Using a massage candle is a really great experience, and an awesome way to kick up your (or a friend's) sex life. I have this set at home, and not only does each scent smell amazing—sometimes I light them just for the fragrances—but they feel so good massaged into the back as well.
Queen recommends adding in a blindfold if you want to spice things up a bit. "Playing with these can stay sensual and massage-focused, with the extra thrill of not knowing where touch will happen because of the blindfold. And it can lean kinky, if you decide you want it to."
21. A Techy Pleasure Console
A pleasure console that doesn't look like a cock ring might be the way to go in the name of sexy holiday gifts. It'll spice up your partner's solo time, and can even be controlled by an app.
If they're a tech lover, trust that they'll be down to give this one a try.
22. Wine Glasses
Getting intimate with your partner is extra sexy with wine—and, of course, gorg glasses to pour it in. These modern ones come in a set of four and are perfect for your favorite reds, whites, and rosés.
23. Cutest Vibe Ever
What better way to express your love than with a 10-speed vibrator shaped as a heart? This strikes the perfect balance between sentimental and practical. Ideal, no? <3
24. A Sex Toy Kit
Lovehoney Wild Weekend Mega Couple's Sex Toy Kit
Turn your holiday weekend into a wild one with this 11-piece sex toy kit that comes complete with a G-spot vibrator, vibrating rabbit ears, butt plug, rabbit vibrator, penis stroker, anal beads, jiggle balls, a rabbit cock ring, and a cock ring set. You'll have fun just figuring out how to use it all together.
25. A Fir Tree-Scented Candle
Outdoor Fellow Winter Fir Candle
Nothing says sexy time like a candle—so, I obviously had to include a fir tree-scented one, since this is a holiday gift guide, after all. This scent is one of my all-time favorites, and the base of this candle is made of an apricot and soy base, so it burns clean.
26. A Sexy Bath Bomb
Perfect for a baller on a budget, get your partner a not-too-suggestive bath bomb and a bottle of bubbly and let them do with them what they will. Waterproof sex toy, optional.
27. Luxe Cuffs
Fleece Lined Garment Leather Wrist Cuffs
Nothing spices things up in the bedroom quite like handcuffs, and these nickel-pleated leather cuffs are as chic and minimalist as they are sexy. Slip them onto your (or your partner’s) wrists or ankles with consent, and let the fun begin.
"Moving into kink and BDSM is a fun and exciting new territory for couples that are more experienced with pleasure products," says Rief. "Kink and BDSM adds more levels to pleasure by playing with senses, restraints, and power dynamics in a relationship."
28. Perfume
Brown Girl Jane Bahia Eau de Parfum
New perfume, new you. Getting a new perfume changes everything, tbh, and whether you need a new one or you're trying to upgrade your friend's collection, this one is a great addition. With hints of peach nectar, water lotus, and orange flower essence, anyone wearing this will smell amazing.
29. A Leather Dress
Good American Strapless Faux Leather Tube Dress
This leather dress is ultra-sexy and is the perfect date night look before taking things back to the bedroom. It's strapless and made of faux leather, so it can be worn year round, but you might want to add a pair of tights if you're wearing it in the wintertime.
30. A Vibrator Necklace
Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace
Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace
This sleek vibe doubles as a necklace that anyone can totally wear in front of their grandmother without her knowing its true function. Better yet, get it for your grandmother. You go, grandma.
31. Audio Porn Subscription
If you didn't already know, audio porn is a thing—and it's becoming pretty popular these days. Hook your friend up with over 500 sexy stories with a Dipsea gift card. And for the nights when they're feeling less frisky, the app also provides wellness sessions and sleep guides.
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32. A Box Of Chocolates
Godiva Chocolatier Belgium Goldmark Assorted Chocolate
No, a box of chocolates is most certainly not a lame present—especially when it's as decadent as the ones in this box. Godiva is the best, and there's a ton of different yummy flavors to enjoy with or without a partner.
33. Sexy Battleship
Are you into Battleship? Well, I have great news for you in that case. This game is called "Love Battleship" and it comes with both foreplay and intimacy cards. Get ready for things to become a bit spicy.
34. Sexy Dice
Take a regular game of dice, and raise the stakes a little. This set of four comes with 34 positions, giving you a total of 96 steamy foreplay options.
35. Polaroid Camera
Polaroid Originals Polaroid Originals Now I-Type Instant Camera
Polaroid Originals Polaroid Originals Now I-Type Instant Camera
If your friend or partner has ever wanted to do a sexy photoshoot, this Polaroid camera can bring that fantasy to life. Plus, you wont have to worry about the hassles that come with expensive digital cameras.
36. Dark Chocolate Body Paint
HIGHONLOVE Dark Chocolate Body Paint
Help your partner take their art skills to the next level with the edible dark chocolate body paint. Made with real cocoa powder, this set comes with a heart-shaped bottle and a matching paint brush.
P.S. Dark chocolate is an aphrodisiac, so use it wisely.
37. Ball Gag
If you (or a friend, or a partner) are into the ball gag kink, this is an awesome gift for this time of year. This one is a fishnet ball gag, so prepare for things to get a bit extra spicy.
38. Light When You Want Me Naked Candle
Light When You Want Me Naked Candle
You can never have enough candles, and you can light this one when you're trying to let your partner know subtly that you're ready for some action. Plus, it's customizable in a variety of scents, such as apple maple bourbon, cinnamon sugar donut, and black sea.
39. Remote-Controlled Vibrator
We-Vibe Moxie+ Wearable Clitoral Vibrator
When it comes to vibrators, remote-controlled ones rank highly in terms of hotness. "Remote or app-controlled toys are great for couples to use to play with power dynamics, control, and even edging," explains Rief. This one is wearable and bluetooth-connectable, so your partner can watch them pleasure you with the remote while you experience it for yourself.
Want to go beyond the tangible gifts?
Actions speak louder than presents, after all. So, here are a couple of sexy ways to keep on giving this holiday season:
1. Ethical Porn
Did you know there's such a thing as ethical porn? Well, there is, and you can’t find it on PornHub, but you can find a lot of options on the Sexual Health Includes Pleasure (SHIP) site. SHIP is a non-profit organization dedicated to providing resources around inclusive sexual health. Gift your sweetie some seriously quality porn this holiday season and feel good AF about it.
2. Sex-Positive Charitable Donations
Want to give a charitable present this year? Check out queer youth-saving Trevor Project and the sex-educating masters at the CSPH.
Addison Aloian (she/her) is the assistant love & life editor at Women’s Health. Outside of topics related to lifestyle, relationships, and dating, she also loves covering fitness and style. In her free time, she enjoys lifting weights at the gym, reading mystery and romance novels, watching (and critiquing!) the latest movies that have garnered Oscars buzz, and wandering around the West Village in New York City. In addition to Women's Health, her work has also appeared in Allure, StyleCaster, L'Officiel USA, V Magazine, VMAN, and more.
