Speed dating as a millennial
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Never tried, but wouldn't necessarily be opposed. Speed dating always struck me as being a little too hectic - I like things more calm and predictable, I guess. That's pretty fascinating that the matches were so different - makes me wonder why that could be. Maybe people's profiles just don't often do a good job representing who they really are?
I think dating apps are geared more towards attractive people. A lot of men don’t take regular photos of themselves and some just aren’t photogenic which makes it difficult for dating apps. Some guys I met didn’t even use social media which makes it hard when vetting people who you meet purely online. I think meeting IRL makes makes you focus less on looks and more on personality/shared interests.
All very good points. Meeting in-person is very different. Speed dating seems especially personality/shared interest driven since you have to talk to people you might otherwise would never approach or consider, too. Not sure there's much speed dating around here, but you might've convinced me to look lol
Where are you from? I am wanting to potentially host one in Aus and make some tweaks to the concept of it to make it more modern as it feels slightly outdated. I also feel like there is a lot of negative stigma towards it too when its technically just the IRL version of online dating.
I’m from the States, sadly, or I’d be interested in seeing your ideas. Wholeheartedly agree about the stigma - it really is just the old fashioned version of online dating. Covid probably didn’t help its popularity, either.
Were there any points where there was just no connection and you had to just sit out the remaining few ninutes awkwardly? That's my biggest fear.
Wish I could go to one of these events but they're all 24+, I don't see why 20-23 year olds have to be excluded
You omitted the most important part from your experience. What was the gender ratio like & were any of the woman plants to waste time/money?
It was an even gender split, they only sold 15 tickets to men and 15 tickets to females so there 30 of us in total. Entry was $25 I think for the night. Not sure what you mean about woman plants??
Often men are much more interested in this kind of thing than women, so the organizers will literally pay women to participate, just to have even numbers. And those women have no intention of actually starting a relationship afterwards. More common when they are charging more than $25 for the men.
Doesn't sound like a problem here, especially since you're a woman.
Yeah you're going to need some sources for that.
I've been to speed dating events. The end result is usually the same, at least for me, in that I don't match with anyone, or anyone interesting, and end up alone.
What do you think would make the experience more positive for you in the future if you were to go to one? Do you think sharing some information prior about what you’re looking for in a partner could be helpful for the event organiser to ensure some participants “meet” your compatibility so that you don’t waste your time? We didn’t give any info besides our gender and name when we signed up which got me thinking that there could potentially be a lot of people who I have no common interests with there.
Going with a friend would be fun, who doesn't take things too seriously in general, but especially dating. Sharing your info with a matchmaker kind of service sounds like a good idea, most I know are super expensive dating coach type services though that charge thousands of dollars to the desperate. I tried such a service a while back and it was ultimately not worth it.
My therapist recommended it multiple times. The thought kind of horrifies me for reasons I can't quite figure out. Maybe I should do it.
i think these are super important today... its an underrated way to meet people. i think they work better today than they did when they were more popular in society (my sister says they were popular in the 90's)
My co-worker met her husband of 12 years this way. I think it’s a great idea and feel like it would be extremely popular.
What, speed dating? And enjoy the humiliation of rejection in a fraction of the time when compared with traditional or swipe dating?
No, thanks.
I signed up for a few speed dating events but they all got canceled because only men signed up and no women.
I'm willing to give this a shot. I'm getting tired of dating apps. Intersting take.
Speed dating definitely seems more realistic than online. You get a more honest view of what and whom you are actually dealing with. It’s much harder to know what someone is really like, and what they actually look like, online.
I guess I’ve always been an old soul who hates technology, but I really feel like it actually destroys the connection that gives humanity hope. But people just don’t act right online, especially on anonymous sites like Reddit, but also very much so in the online dating community
speed dating more fun than online.
I went for an event or two, was good experience, not the crowd at my level unfortunately so decided they aren't used much by the people from my social class (top professionals, NYC).
I've heard League events pre-pandemic were pretty cool: a friend went to a boat party and instead of wasting time on girls made a cool friend from Goldman :)
hearing that now more apps are experimenting with the curating real-world events model (Thursday might be one?), gonna try.
I know you posted this awhile back but how did you go with your matches? I thought about going to one coz a friend told me about it and I’m curious. What tips would you give on introduction for a men and women?
Well I’m glad to hear it worked out well. I’m definitely open to trying. I’m sick of dating apps too and really don’t know what else to do at this point. Maybe I’m old fashioned but there’s just something about connecting with someone in real life as opposed to a screen
Oh this sounds interesting, I would feel overwhelmed by so many introductions at a time but I would try it anyways
I’m contemplating trying it this weekend
M 33, 5.5. I have had no success with dating apps but I have been very tempted to try speed dating. My only fear is that all the men will be taller than me or in way better shape and I will be comparing myself to them and also the girls their will be comparing all the guys to find the most attractive one.