r/SisterWives

What do you think of the way she told Meri? I think her thought process was in the right place at first to give Meri time to process the news but then she went overboard. When Meri said she was fine and happy about the pregnancy Robyn kept saying “Really? Really? Are you reallly happy? I know this is sooo hard for you and so sensitive and you wish you could have more babies!” It got to the point where she was actually just rubbing it in. It actually ended up making Meri feel worse and that she felt bad that Robyn felt this had to be such a big deal. If I were in Meri’s shoes I honestly would just want to find out with everyone else and not be treated differently than everyone else and have Robyn feeling so sorry for me.

Just a thought, I know 3/4 marriages have now ended, but they did remain married (for better or worse) for over 30 years. That's impressive for any marriage.

Putting aside the fact that Christine no longer supports polygamy and putting aside current circumstances of the different wives, who do you think is most cut out to be successful in a plural marriage if they were in a better plural family dynamic?

Personally, I think Janelle. Besides Kody, she is the only one who was not raised in polygamy. Janelle came to the decision to be a polygamist as an adult and likely weighed the pros and cons and decided that it was right for her. She wasn’t indoctrinated like the other wives and made the decision on her own merit. I believe the other wives had much more indoctrination and entered polygamy because it was just what you do, but realized over time and as the kids got older that it is not actually the way they wanted to live (particularly Christine). I also think Janelle genuinely enjoys not having a man around 24/7 lol. I think she really enjoys having her own space and does not struggle with feelings of missing her spouse when they are with another wife. She is also the most “low maintenance” wife and seems pretty flexible, understanding, and easy going— all traits that I feel are crucial to being a sister wife.

Inspired by another thread, I was wondering what you all think:

When any of the adults (K and wives) use the word "intimacy" do you assume they mean "sex"?

Or do you take it to mean something broader, like the emotional closeness of a couple (plus or minus actual sex)?

One thing that is really bothering me as I watch sister wives (I'm on season 6) is the parentification of the older children. Hearing how the adults talk about Logan as " always being responsibile" feels like it was likely a self fulfilling prophecy and I've just got to the episode where the wives go to San Francisco and Kody says he'll be fine because he's got teenage girls to help him. Two examples of many available ones. I understand that it is not unusual for older children to want to help with younger children in a family, but there is firstly a clear expectation of this and secondly there doesn't seem to be any self awareness of the undue responsibility this lands on the older kids who are also in their own right developing children! It's unfair to expect them to get the younger kids ready most morning for school. You can hear the responsibility the older kids have in the way they talk and I can see why most of them have said there are too many children and they don't want any more to be added! I really think the adults should have protected them more from this when they're the ones who decided to have that number of children.

Do you think much of the divisiveness, and rifts between the wives in the early days (pre Robyn) was actually intentionally, instigated by Kody?

I've thought about this before. If he wants to be fawned over and to have sex every night, 🤢 he needs to make each wife believe his marriage with her is the most special. If he's a teenage meangirl, he's going to do that by pitting the women against one another, so they only share, and talk through him ... so he could control it.

That would also keep the women from wanting to pitch in and help, or do things with, one another's kids. If Meri and Christine are getting along and Aspyn is not being parentified, then he's not getting special time with Meri, when Christine is busy, because Meri is busy getting all those kids off to school. Better to keep things seperate, less work for him

I think he created soooo much of that chaos as a strategy.

I also think they all (older OG kids) figured it out, when they got old enough to talk to each other as grown adults. A chance to compare stories and realize that their dad was talking out of both sides of his mouth depending on which wife he was with when he said it.

Season 16, episode 6, 31 minutes in. Cody has handed out the rules for covid protocols if they want to go to Robin's for Christmas. Janelle says it's excessive but she will do it if it means gathering for Christmas. Then in the cut away to his solo interview Cody says "maybe this mistake of her and I not being romantic enough, is a mistake. Maybe we should be more romantic. The fact that she is choosing the boys over me. Maybe it's just that mothering, nurturing... these are adult, supposed to be men. They're adults." So he thinks that if he had a more romantic relationship with her, then she would value him over their kids? Why wouldn't he want to be more intimate with her because he loves her. This speaks volumes.

I’m watching the Flagstaff Covid episodes and Mary is out in the woods talking about how her and Cody’s relationship it’s just a friendship and she wants more and the family stuck with her and then she’s crying over Robyn’s kids and I’m confused on the whole dynamic of the family in Flagstaff. I feel like they really changed from Vegas to Flagstaff.

Does anyone know if anything is happening on Coyote Pass?

I’m currently in the Clovis Flagstaff area right now while watching I’m confused on what’s happened like how the family breakdown happen like I can tell that Kody definitely had wives whose houses he preferred to go. He’s always kind of seems to have a problem with Christine but I’m truly not understanding why he’s like I don’t even think I wanna be in polygamy anymore. The families an obstacle like why the wife seem to be getting along I know that Mary has always had a problem with Janelle, but Janelle and Christine seem to get along now its like nobody’s getting along and I’m confused if I missed the conversation or something

I stumbled upon a post suggesting that the 6-bedroom rental, where Robyn hoped God would find them a home, was likely staged. If something as seemingly minor as that was scripted, it raises questions about the authenticity of other aspects of the show. What other storylines in the show were possibly fabricated or scripted by TLC?

Edits:: Also, Aurora getting her ears pierced!! In an older family photo, she’s wearing dangly earrings. Also, I do realize that reality TV is not reality at all. I just wanted to discuss specific instances where it was obvious that the storyline wasn’t based on real-life events but was invented for the show.

I think it was season 11 or 12 but they had the older children play a game where they recalled memories from the show. No thanks, keep the future storyline rolling.

I realized that those who were most materially impacted by Christine leaving the family (Janelle, Janelle’s children, Christine’s children), were the ones who were most supportive of her choice. In other words, the family members who were closest to Christine and would be most affected by her move, were the ones who reacted in the most level headed and empathetic manner to her decision.

On the other hand, those who had the stronger negative reactions to Christine leaving (Meri, Robyn, and Kody) were in many ways the ones who had the least to lose by her choice. Their reactions appeared to be a projection of their own insecurities (Meri and her refusal to leave Kody, Kody and his ego, Robyn and her need for a “cohesive” family), rather than sincere disappointment and worry in the changing family structure.

Thoughts? I found great irony in this while doing my rewatch.

The flush of falling in love with a new person...with the butterflies, the excitement, the sexual thrills of someone strange/new.... how can it compete with an established relationship, a wife/husband who's been there for years? Seriously. The new love will get all the attention, and the old person will just be 'tolerated' on the sidelines. I really don't think humans are built to compartmentalize their love relationships like that. When you fall in love with someone new, it kind of takes up all your head space. Let's be real.

All these couples are inviting new persons in their lives, saying that it's all about spreading the love...blah blah blah. But in reality, the new love will probably always win and get all the attention, and the older ones will be left on the backburner. That's what happened with Kody and his wives, Garrick and Danielle, and that's what's probably gonna happen with all these seeking sister wife/husband relationships - once one of them actually secures a new partner. What do you think? Can you give the same amount of attention to simultaneous romantic relationships - successfully ?

Im watching season 14 where Kody presents the mega house to all the wives and Robyn immediately says it's too small in the interview. Kody gave her 3500 square feet. Am I nuts -- why do these women need 5000 square foot houses?

Hi all, I need some help. My friends and I are doing a PowerPoint night so I am of course going to educate them on the chaos that is Kody brown. I’m wanting to give them his top 10 worst/narcissistic moments and would love some input for those wanting to help please!Thanks!!

This might be half a joke…but I’m wondering if there’s a slight bit of truth to it. I’m doing a rewatch and finally got to the episode where they inexplicably decide to move to Flagstaff. I missed several seasons of the show and could never understand what could’ve happened to make them leave the perfect situation in Vegas. I assumed I missed something big. Now that I’m here I’m just as confused. I can’t believe the OG3 went along with this insanity.

I just watched the scenes where their Coyote Pass offer is accepted. He’s freaking out that it’s actually happening, that now he’ll have to work on property, miss out on time with his kids, actually move, etc. And my question is…given how things have ended up…did Kody think this would be his way out because he didn’t think the OG3 would actually sell their homes, move their kids, leave their other kids / grandkids, etc. I know it’s probably not the case but I just kind of laughed to myself because at points along the way he seemed kind of shocked that the women got in board so quickly. Basically like, “Oh crap…I didn’t think they’d actually come with Robyn and I.” Lol.

I know in his “presentation” he said “We all go” or whatever. But I wonder if he really believed all three of these three strong and opinionated women would actually go along with this.

Update: Okay now I’m even more sure of this theory because in the next episode he’s talking about how proposing one big home instead of four may cause then to leave him. Which of course he does. Like last ditch effort? Lol.

If you have Max, there’s a series called Evil Lives Here (crime type series, really good). S2E3:My Brother the Devil is about Warren.