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Being bullied is, unfortunately, a common experience for many young people, but it is possible to stand up to your bully and stop them. Whether a bully is picking on you physically or with negative words, often they are seeking attention and trying to get you to respond. Stopping them often comes down to not responding and avoiding all contact, but there are other, more direct methods you can use. If the situation escalates too much, you might need to involve other people you trust to handle the situation, like parents or teachers. In any case, remember that this is not your fault and it is totally within your power to stop the situation and stand up for yourself!
1Ignore mean comments. X Research source If they tell the teacher that you ignored them, tell the teacher that they were bullying you and that they are bothering you! (Have good bonds with the teacher(s) to do this) Never make the teacher hate you, they won't believe you and you will end up getting in trouble.
2Tell the teacher, a trusted adult, or friend about any bullying that you or someone else experiences and tell them how you feel about it. X Research source Don't be afraid to be called "tattletale", as you are doing the right thing by telling someone. If you don't feel comfortable telling them face to face, then write them a letter explaining your situation and give it to them. They will then most likely read it and approach you, wanting to assist you.
3Beware of frenemies and back-stabbers. If you think that your 'friend' is a backstabber or a frenemy, stop being friends with this person immediately.
4Run away from a physical bully. When they bully you, instead of fighting back, getaway. Do it for your safety, and if they chase you go to where there are other people. If they don't give up, go to the principal office as soon as you can, or go to a teacher who is nearby. If you don't do this quickly, the bully might see you and tell the teacher lies.
5Defend yourself only if you can't getaway. Don't use high kicks, as the bully will just grab your leg and pull you down. When the bully gives up, don't become the bully by further hurting them, instead just calmly walk away.
6If you are socially bullied and have no friends, learn how to cope without friends and tell the principal as soon as possible.
7Develop a positive relationship with your principal and never be afraid of explaining your troubles. X Research source Be honest but don't be overly dramatic. No principal wants students to get hurt in their school.
8Stay with a group of friends. This helps! When a bully gets close to your group, they can protect you. They can even report the person when they harass you. X Research source The bully may not even approach you. If you don't have any friends, just try to stay as far away as possible from that bully or stay within sight of a teacher.
9Start eliminating problems one step at a time. Become friends with old bullies, or at least neutral friends. Be as kind as possible.
10Once you're down to one bully or no bullies, congratulate yourself. You probably have worked a long time to get here.
11Don't let extra aggressiveness from the bully stop you. Get more aggressive in trying to stop it instead of being intimidated. Talk with people around you, find out who else is hurt by that bully, and help them. Report the bully to the principal. Aggressively fight back (without being too physical). Don't let them see that you are bothered by what they say.
12Stand up for yourself. Someone is bullying you! Don't just stand there and take it, stand up for yourself. This may be a lot harder than it sounds but if you do it, afterward, you'll feel great. If you are not convinced that you have the courage, know what you want to say and who you want to say it to when you are standing up for yourself. X Research source
13Know what to say to the bully. When standing up for yourself, you have to know what to say and what not to say. The right thing to do, no matter how far it goes, is to avoid being mean. For example, if someone says something like, "Nice shirt... not!" to you, or something to diss you, you can say something back, that is not mean, but surprises them like, "Thanks! I like your shirt too!" Don't be sarcastic when saying this, sound genuine. X Research source
14Deal with peer pressure. X Research source Most likely, when you are getting bullied, you will be surrounded by a group. These can be your friends or enemies. No matter who they are, you need to stand up for yourself. X Research source You may hear someone make fun of you for simply standing up for yourself. Some people may not even support the idea of you standing up for yourself.
15Try to end the actual bullying. There are times that you can put a stop to a bullying situation. The greatest step to doing this is standing up for who you are and standing up for your friends. If someone insults you again and you are finally done with the bullying, you can say something along the lines of, "You know what, I am tired of you bullying me! You may be insecure about yourself or just not like me, but that is no reason to do the things you are doing right now." X Research source
16Avoid starting a fight. X Research source Often, bullies want the attention, and get the attention. They want to start a fight and hurt the other person's feelings/emotions. Don't show them, and don't let them hurt your feelings. The person may be embarrassed, but you were too when you were being bullied. Your bully heard what you were saying when you stood up for yourself and in their heart, knows that it's wrong to do what they did. Never let them get in your way!Advertisement
- If a bully is near you, try to keep at least one of your friends close by.
- Be sure to get along with teachers as well as you can.
- Tell the principal as soon as it happens.
- Fighting will nothelp your problems. Be the bigger person and just walk away.
- Don't retaliate to the bully when they hurt you.
- Do not become friends with the bully. They may stop bullying you but they may be backstabbers or bad influences.
- Run to your house if you are getting chased by a bully.
- If someone teases you, don't get angry, just walk away.
- If the bully is annoying you in class time ask the teacher if you can move if he/she will not let you then explain to them why.
- Be confident in yourself, because you shouldn't have to hide the inner you. If someone is still bullying you, then they will realize it isn't working and will leave. Simply smile, and walk around with your head up high.
- If it happens again like outside of the classroom, please report it to your teacher, principles, or guidance and make sure that you tell them the bully's name so that they can talk to them of what's going between you two!
- Don't look down at your self and just know you are amazing and not what they say you are.
- Just ignore the one bullying you.
- Stand up for yourself and try not to fight back. Instead, try complaining to the authorities. If they don't act, don't become suicidal. Instead, be strong and calm!
- Don't let their mean words affect you because they just want a reaction and attention.
- If a bully wants to fight you, don't fight back. Just walk away and tell a teacher or principal.
- Be careful and don't get into a fight with the bully. If you do, then try to not throw any punches and remain on the defensive side. That way, you will not get into trouble with the school or anything like that.
- Tell the bully to not talk to you ever again. And say it with confidence. If you don't, they might just think it's a joke and you're trying to be funny, or they might come back with another mean comment.
- If your bully is friends with your friend... just tell your friend or she might join your bully.
- If an adult is harassing you and you're a minor, report him/her to both your parents and your local police/sheriff department.
- Some bullies do this to impress their friends, or become popular. Don't let them achieve something they don't deserve. Popularity wants you, not the bully.
- If a bully is larger than you, don't hit them. If you do, be aware that it will be you who started the fight and that could get you suspended or even beaten up.
- Never hit the people bullying you unless it's for defense. It will not satisfy your teachers.
- If you are being cyberbullied from a student or co-worker, immediately report this to your principal/boss. Cyberbullying is a crime. X Trustworthy Source StopBullying.gov Website run by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services providing information related to identifying and preventing bullying Go to source
- Do not fight back with a bully. This is what they want you to do, and you will only make it worse.
- Fight then don’t let yourself be pushed around show them they’ve been bullying the wrong person
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- ↑ https://bullyingnoway.gov.au/RespondingToBullying/ReportingBullying/Pages/If-you-need-to-tell-someone.aspx
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- ↑ https://yourlifecounts.org/learning-center/peer-pressure/20-ways-to-avoid-peer-pressure/
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- ↑ https://www.stompoutbullying.org/get-help/about-bullying-and-cyberbullying/are-you-being-bullied