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I Love You but I've Chosen Darkness: A Novel Hardcover β October 5, 2021
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βThereβs some kind of genius sorcery in this novel. Itβs startlingly original, hilarious and harrowing by turns, finally transcendent. Watkins writes like an avenging angel. It's thrilling and terrifying to stand in her wake.β βJenny Offill, author of Dept. of Speculation and Weather
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A darkly funny, soul-rending novel of love in an epoch of collapseβone womanβs furious revisiting of family, marriage, work, sex, and motherhood.
Since my baby was born, I have been able to laugh and see the funny side of things. a) As much as I ever did. b) Not quite as much now. c) Not so much now. d) Not at all. Leaving behind her husband and their baby daughter, a writer gets on a flight for a speaking engagement in Reno, not carrying much besides a breast pump and a spiraling case of postpartum depression. Her temporary escape from domestic duties and an opportunity to reconnect with old friends mutates into an extended romp away from the confines of marriage and motherhood, and a seemingly bottomless descent into the past. Deep in the Mojave Desert where she grew up, she meets her ghosts at every turn: the first love whose self-destruction still haunts her; her father, a member of the most famous cult in American history; her mother, whose native spark gutters with every passing year. She canβt go back in time to make any of it right, but what exactly is her way forward? Alone in the wilderness, at last she begins to make herself at home in the world.
Bold, tender, and often hilarious, I Love You but Iβve Chosen Darkness reaffirms Watkins as one of the signal writers of our time.
- Print length304 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherRiverhead Books
- Publication dateOctober 5, 2021
- Dimensions6.27 x 1.13 x 9.29 inches
- ISBN-100593330218
- ISBN-13978-0593330210
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βIntense, intelligent, and bristly. . . . angry and alive. . . . a virtuoso performance.β βThe New York Times Book Review
βAn audaciously candid story . . . . Watkinsβs book sparks the same electric jolt that The Awakening must have sent juicing through Kate Chopinβs readers in 1899.β βThe Washington Post
βA tour-de-force. . . . Much of motherhood literature can radiate a sort of wounded egotism, as if the greatest crime that society might commit against a woman were to think ill of her. Watkins, though, neither stews nor panders. She just follows her light.β βThe New Yorker
βUnequivocally triumphant. . . . Watkins shows readersΒ β and perhaps proves to herself β that one does not have to choose the lesser of two evils. A woman can want motherhood and the rest of her life.β βNPR
β[A] surreal autofiction masterpieceΒ . . . . Β written in sharp language that is both deeply funny and painful. Completely absent any navel-gazing or self-pity, it is a book that probes questions of family, feminism, ecology, and home, and refuses to settle on easy answers. . . . absolutely original.β βLos Angeles Review of Books
βOur most significant rising writer of the American West. . . . I Love You But Iβve Chosen Darkness is a road trip story gone wild. . . . Itβs career-redefining and absolutely bonkers in all the best ways.β βVulture
βThe brutal, arid, electric terrain of remote California and Nevada crackles across almost every page. . . . trippy and beautiful, slippery and seductiveβa unique psycho-geography of a region that is integral to the American vision and yet seems to have too few literary chroniclers.β βVogue
βA beguiling, biting exploration of motherhood (and personhood) that weaves in rich biographical details and is set in the desert heat of her California and Nevada hometowns.β β Vanity Fair
βDarkly funny and poignant.β βE! Online
βA beautifully arranged tackle box of everything Watkins does best β cut-through-the-bone narrative of family apocalypses; custom blending of the historical, the unimaginable and the impossible; enchanting, terrifying encounters with the American West.β βLos Angeles Times
βDaring . . . Boldly imagined and authoritatively told, this ambitious novel reminds us that Watkins is one of the most visionary writers working today.β βEsquire
βDark and edgyβbut also dazzling.β βEntertainment Weekly
βAΒ wild, hilarious novel, told with a contagious, unchained ferocity. It's a wonderful book by an author who's quickly proven herself indispensable to American literature.β βMinneapolis Star Tribune
βWorth the wait. A bracing and reckless piece of autofiction set in the crackling terrain of the American West, itβs the work of a writer at the top of her game, her hand remaining steady even as her narratorβs life spirals exhilaratingly out of control.β βThe Chicago Review of Books
βA dark, and darkly funny, work of autofiction from [a] gifted writer.β βUSA Today
βA knockout of a book. Alternately funny and heartbreaking.β βPop Sugar
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βFunny and fearsome.β βPhiladelphia Inquirer
βIf the evocative name of the book doesn't grab you, Vaye Watkins' stylish prose likely will.β βThrillist
βThe authorβs wry writing style shines. . . . [painting] a detailed, colorful portrait of life after grief, and the powerful cycle of generational trauma.β β Pittsburgh Post-Gazette
βA simply incredible title, and the novel within definitely lives up to it. . . . a compelling portrait of a woman on the brink.β βHey Alma
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β[A] surreal, hilarious, and sneakily devastating hybrid of autobiography and fiction. . . . [with] a voice that blazes with ferocious wit and candor.β βLit Hub
βReckless and defiantly intelligent, Watkins detonates the ties that bind. β¦ Incandescent writing illuminates one womanβs life in flames.βΒ βKirkus Reviews (starred)
βA wily fusion of autobiography and imagination. . . . [Watkins is] reckless, infuriating, ribald, incisive, and hilarious. In the spirit of Edward Abbey, Hunter Thompson, and Joy Williams, Watkins has forged a desert tale of howling pain and a chaotic quest for healing mythic in its summoning of female power in a realm of double-wides, loaded dice, broken glass, and hot springs.βΒ βBooklist (starred)
βThereβs some kind of genius sorcery in this novel. Itβs startlingly original, hilarious and harrowing by turns, finally transcendent. Watkins writes like an avenging angel. It's thrilling and terrifying to stand in her wake.β βJenny Offill, author of Dept. of Speculation and Weather
βThis book is stupendously good. It practically vibrates in its ferocious frankness, and is so funny too that one canβt help but fall for this voice, even in the pain, because of the pain, with the pain. A marvel.ββAimee Bender, author of The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake and The Butterfly Lampshade
Praise for Claire Vaye Watkins:
"The most captivating voice to come out of the West since Annie Proulx -- though it's to early Joan Didion that [Watkins] bears comparison for her arid humor and cut-to-the-chase knowingness." βVogue
"Watkins' vision . . . is mercilessly sharp. She's got a knife eye for details, a vicious talent for cutting to the throbbing vein of animal strangeness that scratches inside all of us." βNPR
"Watkins writes with a brutal kind of beauty. . . . [that] forces us to confront things we'd probably rather ignore, but because we're human, we can't." βLos Angeles Times
"The writing, with its tough sentimentality, is reminiscent of Denis Johnson's, but Watkins has a style of mordant observation all her own." βHarper's Bazaar
"Clear-eyed and nimble in parsing the lives of her Westerners, one of Watkins's strengths is not dodging that the simple fact that love can be tragic, involving, as it does, humans so flawed, so often tender and yet incapable." βThe Boston Globe
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I've tried to tell this story a bunch of times. This will be my last try, here in my garden with Moana, Lucky, Abigail and Boomerang, each naked except for Boomerang, who is cinched into a blue plastic saddle. The "garden" hardly merits the word by the standards of the house-proud resource-hoarding whites I must count myself among. My garden is mostly rock and dirt, wild, needless as Moana with so many sticks in her hair. Lucky and Abigail are Netflix properties. They have no sticks in their hair, for my daughter gave them butch haircuts last time she was here.
The story starts at some point in my daughter's first year, the point perhaps at which I became aware of my inability to feel any feelings beyond those set to music by the Walt Disney Company. I'd banned Disney, its toxic messages and bankrupt values, forbid it my child long before conceiving her. Yet there I was listening to the Moana soundtrack a dozen times a day and digging it, screening the film as often as my infant's budding synapses could bear. No other text moved me as much, with the exception perhaps of Charlotte's Web, particularly the chapter called "Escape," in which Wilbur briefly breaks out of his pen and the Goose, soon to be yoked unmerrily to her eggs, urges him yonder.
. . . the woods, the woods! They'll never-never-never catch you in the woods!
Or maybe it starts before then. Like I said, I've tried to tell it a bunch of times. Each try takes me further from whatever it is I'm after. I finish on an alien shore with a raft of needs, reminded once again that books heal people all the time, just not usually the people who write them. I promise to need nothing from this last try. It's only a yarn for the dolls.
It starts with my husband, Theo. (I've disguised his name because he innocent.)
It starts with Theo in a waiting room reading over my shoulder.
1. Since my baby was born, I have been able to laugh and see the funny side of things.
a.Β As much as I ever did.
b.Β Not quite as much now.
c.Β Not so much now.
d.Β Not at all.
2. I have looked forward with enjoyment to things.
a.Β As much as I ever did.
b.Β Not quite as much now.
c.Β Not so much now.
d.Β Not at all.
"That's kind of evasive," Theo says. "'As much as I ever did.'"
"Do you think I'm being dishonest?"
"No, but . . ."
"But what, Theo?"
The baby squawks. I rock the car seat with my foot.
"I'm just saying a diagnostic like this shouldn't be multiple choice," Theo says. "It should be short answer. Or essay. Don't you think?"
"a. As much as I ever did."
Ten-Item Edinburgh Post-Natal Depression Scale
1.Β Since my baby was born, I have been able to laugh and see the funny side of things.
We tried to find you a nickname in utero but nothing fit so well as the ones we had for your father's scrotum and penis, your brothers Krang and Wangston Hughes.
An app dinged weekly with developmental progress and fruit analogies. Some weeks I wrote my own.
This week your baby is the size of a genetically modified micropeach, which itself is about the size of a red globe grape. Your baby's earholes are migrating this week. Your baby can hear you and may already be disappointed by what it hears.
This week your baby is the size of a medjool date dropped from the palm and left to soften in the dust. Your baby is now developing reflexes like lashing out and protecting its soft places. It is also developing paradoxes, and an attraction to the things that harm it.
This week your baby is the size of a navel orange spiked with cloves and hung by a light blue ribbon on the doorknob of a friend's guest bathroom. Your baby is developing methods of self-defeat this week, among them boredom, urgency, and nostalgia. It may even be besieged by ennui!
Your baby has begun to dream, though it dreams only of steady heartbeats and briny fluid.
2. I have looked forward with enjoyment to things.
Pain-free bowel movements, sushi, limitless beer and pot brownies, daycare, prestige television events, everyone going home.
My sister visits and asks how much a doula costs. Does a person really need one?
No, I tell her, not if you have an older woman in your life who is helpful, trusted, up to date on the latest evidence-based best practices and shares your birth politics, someone who is not all judgmental, won't project her insecurities onto you, is respectful of your boundaries and your beliefs and those of your spouse, carries no emotional baggage or unresolved tensions, no submerged resentment, no open wounds, no helicoptering, no neglect, no library of backhanded compliments, no bequeathed body issues, no treadmill of jealousy and ingratitude, no internalized misogyny, no gaslighting, no minimizing, no apology debt, no I'm sorry you feel that way, no I'm sorry you misunderstood me, no beauty must suffer, no don't eat with your eyes, no I cut the ends off the roast because you did / I did it to fit the pan.
"That's a steal," Lise says. "Seven-hundred and fifty dollars for the mother you wish you had."
3. I have felt scared or panicky for no good reason.
There are little white moths drifting twitchy through the house, sprinkling their mothdust everywhere. I cannot find their nest. I brace myself each time I take a towel or a sheet from the linen closet.
You are born jaundiced. We wrap you in a stiff so-called blanket of LEDs, to get your levels right. She's at twelve, they tell us, without saying whether the goal is fifteen or zero or a hundred-not telling us whether we are trying to bring them up or down. I don't know which way to pray, Theo says. Little glowworm baby, spooky blue light-up insured baby in the bassinet, hugged by this machine instead of us. A gnarly intestine-looking tube coming out the bottom of your swaddle. Jaundiced and skinny though neither of us are. Failure to thrive. In the car Theo agrees that a ridiculously lofty standard. Haven't we every advantage-health insurance and advanced degrees, study abroad and strong female role models? Aren't we gainfully employed, and doing work we do not hate no less? Didn't we do everything right and in the right order? And yet, can either of us say we are thriving? I remind myself it's not so bad, the jaundice, the smallness. Lise says, I was little and look at me! I remind myself of the nick-u and pediatric oncology, which we must pass on the way to our appointments. I remember the apparatus we learned about in breastfeeding class that the lactation consultants can rig up for a man. A sack of donated breastmilk and a tube taped to his pectoral, positioned to deliver milk to the baby as though through his nipple. I comfort myself with the dark, unmentioned scenarios wherein this rig would be necessary.
A box on the birth certificate paperwork says, I wish to list another man as the baby's biological father (see reverse). I see reverse, curious what wisdom the hospital has for such a situation, what policies the board has come up with to solve this clusterfuck of the heart, what discreet salve for-profit medicine might offer the modern woman's roving loins, but the reverse is blank.
Theo has hymns and spirituals, but I can remember only the most desperate lines from pop songs.
If you want better things,
I want you to have them.
My girl, my girl, don't lie to me.
Tell me, where did you sleep last night?
4. I have been anxious or worried for no good reason.
Lise says, "Your phone is ringing."
"What's the area code? There are certain area codes I categorically avoid."
"What about home?"
"Especially home."
In my Percocet visions, our blankets are meringue-thick and quicksand, suffocation-heavy, the baby somewhere in them. From the toilet I shout it out.
"She's not in the bed," Theo says from the hallway.
"How do you know?"
"Because she's in the bassinet."
"But how do you know she's in the bassinet?"
"Because I am presently looking at the bassinet and I see her in there."
But how does he know that he is truly seeing?
5. I have blamed myself unnecessarily when things went wrong.
A postcard arrives from Lake Tahoe. Addressed to the family but meant only for me. Funny how some people feel like home.
6. I have been so unhappy that I have had difficulty sleeping.
On video chat people say things about the baby I don't like-she seems small, she seems quiet, she is a princess, she will be gone before we know it-and I slam the computer closed. After, I send pictures of the baby and small loops of video, to prove I am not a banshee. I am a banshee, but cannot get comfortable with being one, am always swinging from bansheeism to playacting sweetness and back. The truth is I cannot play nice and don't want to, but want to want to, some days.
7. I have felt sad or miserable.
I can hear the whispers of my own future outbursts. I wiped your ass, I suctioned boogers from your nose, I caught your vomit in my cupped hands and it was hot! I pruned the tiny sleep dreads from your hair and blew stray eyelashes off your cheeks. I can feel the seeds of my resentment as I swallow them. When you couldn't sleep I lay beside you with my nipple in your mouth. For hours I did this!
I can feel lifelong narratives zipping together like DNA, creation myths ossifying. You would smile, but only if you thought no one was looking. Your hands were always cold, little icicles, but pink and wrinkly as an old man's, little bat claws, little possum hands. Your dad cut off the teensiest tip of your finger while trying to trim your nails, and after that we let them grow. That's why you have socks on your hands in all your pictures, to keep you from scratching yourself. When we took the socks off, you had little woolly worms of lint in your palms, from clenching and unclenching your fists all day. We have a machine that rocks you and another that vibrates you and an app that very poorly replicates sounds from the world you've not yet heard-breakers and birds, rain on a tin roof. Robo-baby, I worry you'll become, since you like the machines so much more than me.
8. I have been so unhappy that I have been crying.
Ours is not even a bad baby! She's chill. She sleeps so much I have to lie to the other moms, pretend to be a different kind of tired than I am, commiserate lest they turn on me. In truth ours sleeps through anything, even two adults screaming at each other crying begging saying things they can't take back making up and screaming again-our baby sleeps through all of it, waking only when we stagger into bed.
Creation myth, his: He broke his collarbone falling off a fence. He was trying to get to the neighbor girl.
Creation myth, hers: When they brought her baby sister home from the hospital she tried to put the bundle in the trash.
9. I have thought of harming myself.
But more the profound pleasure of sitting in the backyard on the last warm day of fall, you and your dad on a bedsheet on the grass, me in a lawn chair because I cannot yet bend in the ways that would get me to and from the grass, in my lap a beer and a bowl of strawberries.
10. Things have been too much for me.
On Christmas Eve the Ann Arbor Whole Foods is a teeming, jingle-bell hellscape. I take deep belly breaths. I decide to play nice for once, an exercise, my Christmas gift to the universe! I strap the baby to me and do not pretend not to notice when strangers gape at her. I stop and let them say oh how cute and even oh how precious and when they ask if the baby is a boy or a girl I do not say, Does it really matter? nor, A little bit of both! nor, You know, I'm not sure, how do I check? And when they ask how old? I do not say, Two thousand eight hundred and eighty hours, nor, A lady never tells. I round up and say, Three months today! I wag the baby's hand and make the baby say hi and bye-bye. I spend too much money on stinky cheeses and chocolate coins, stovetop popcorn, armfuls of fresh-cut flowers, muffin tins I will never use, pomegranates that remind me of home. I do not use self-checkout, the misanthrope's favorite invention, and when the nosy checker asks me to sign my name on the electronic pad I do not write 666 or draw a big cock and balls and instead I sign, in elegant cursive, the baby's name. And outside I do not look away when more lonely people ask me with their eyes to stop so that they might see the baby and touch the baby and instead I do stop, in the fresh snow padding the parking lot, let them hold the baby's hand and tell me how I will feel in five years or ten years or twenty years or this time next year, let them tell me where I will be and what will be happening and how I will cherish every minute.
Vagina Dentata
Theo took the baby to her first Christmas Mass. I stayed home to read a little and masturbate a lot. How I'd missed masturbation! I'd beaten off like a maniac throughout the pregnancy-watched filthy porn with headphones on so the fetus wouldn't hear-but this was my first self-love session since giving birth.
It wasn't long before I noticed something alien in my vagina. A node in the wall. Left side-my left-about half a finger in. My first thought was birth injury, though I'd had a c-section so that didn't track. The node didn't hurt, but it also didn't heal. It seemed over time to harden. I did some research. A vaginal dermoid cyst, I decided, a condition so rare and unlikely I would never ask my doctors about it. They already thought me drug-seeking and insane.
Cyst. Such a soft, sisterly word, all air. It allowed me to nearly forget the nub for months, until the day my daughter cut her first tooth. Absently letting her gum my index finger, I felt an edge and recoiled. I put my finger immediately back in her wanting mouth and found a spearhead of enamel. I thought: if this is tooth then that is tooth. More research revealed that vaginal dermoid cysts are in fact sometimes teeth. I found mine inside me that night and pressed it, confirming.
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- Publisher : Riverhead Books (October 5, 2021)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 304 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0593330218
- ISBN-13 : 978-0593330210
- Item Weight : 1.1 pounds
- Dimensions : 6.27 x 1.13 x 9.29 inches
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I enjoyed this book. It's a novel but based heavily on the author's life and I often wondered which parts were true and which were exaggerated, like when she takes acid before giving a presentation at a high school for which she didn't prepare and so has the students lie on the floor and listen to Pet Sounds by The Beach Boys. haha, the book is filled with outrageous incidents like this.
I admire her for showing her worst self. She's very self centered and driven by her physical wants, trying to find meaning in her life, a bit too brainy and creative for the common man. She doesn't follow the rules.
There are parts of this book that did nothing for me. The letters from the mother to her niece specifically. It could be just me.
But even though this might not have been my cup of tee, I'm mostly positive. I bet you'll like it better than me!
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Told in first person, the book opens as Claire is struggling with postpartum depression and at the same time questioning if her marriage is still viable. She goes to Reno for a few days to promote her latest novel, only she canβt get back on the plane to come home. Instead, the writer embarks on a journey through her past, trying to reconnect with memories of her parents and reconcile the impact of the life she grew up in. While I liked much of the book, I also felt parts dragged. This was particularly true of a series of letters written by her mother as a teenager. Even now, Iβm not sure what they added to the story. If youβre in the mood for something really different give π ππ°π·π¦ π π°πΆ π£πΆπ΅ πβπ·π¦ ππ©π°π΄π¦π― ππ’π³π¬π―π¦π΄π΄ a try. I guarantee youβll have a unique reading experience!
Thanks to Riverhead Books for a finished copy of this book.