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Evening Seddit, looking to find casual sex hookups/ friends with benefits arrangements through POF. Came back from University recently and work a steady to 9-5 to options generally come few and far between and I'm really not a fan of soloing bars to cold approach. I can approach to some extent but generally I don't like doing it.
My question is what's the best way to engage the possibilty of sexual encounters through POF? Problem is most explain explicitly that they are not on it for the sex but is it best to set up dates with more than sex intention and then leave it after that or is it better to just be upfront about intentions?
Ta all X
Get off POF and into Tinder.
Tinder seems completely dead now...
I'm told I'm attractive by girls, have good pics with a suit, doing things, etc. And I get maybe 1 match a day, with 9 out of 10 matches being bots.
When tinder was the shit a year ago, I would get 10 legit matches a day at least
Refresh your account. Delete your acct and recreate.
I'll have to try that.
To be fair though I was getting the good results in a different city, I now live in a military town so I'm sure that is having an effect on my output as well.
So you just compared results from two different cities? If you're still in a big city, Tinder has hundreds of matches available.
yeah Tinder has a lot of girls using it like Twitter to boost ego. It lacks so many options that could make it better. Such as being able to favorite matches, sort by age, using pictures outside of FB etc
This girl who i was hanging out with friends was doing exactly that. She would make dates with no intention of going. She was 7/10 at best ..I called her out on it for being a bitch to those poor dudes
And be sexy.
Tinder is awful for it. Almost all of the girls on there have absolutely no intention meeting with somebody from there. From the hundreds of matches I've had probably 3 meets?
Some of my friends seem to get all their dating through Tinder. They be sexy though.
Rule 1: Be attractive
As someone moving into a big city for school, from a small beach-town tourist trap, I hope my luck is better than yours.
Bulllllsssshhhiiiittt. Tinder is amazing for sex.
Or pick some hot model as your profile pic.
Tinder Rule #1: Be hot.
Tinder Rule #2: Don't be not hot.
Sometimes those girls who specifically say they don't want sex are the easiest to bang. Here's the approach. Never talk about sex fist before meeting. Get her to meet somewhere near you place. Use body language when meeting her. After 30m-1hr into the date commence kino. If the response is good go in for a kiss to lay groundwork. Stop there. Convince her to come back with you specifically stating that you will be good. Once in your place go in for it rather swiftly. Escalate until your using tricks to get her wet, rub over pants, dry hump. Commence sex. Congratulations you just got laid off POF.
Can confirm: Every girl I have had sex with (first date, no less) from online dating sites has had some form of disclaimer in their profile about how they don't want a one night stand, not looking for hookups, etc.
I will just present facts. POF indicates that men who put on their profile they are "seeking a relationship" receive more emails by some huge margin over men who are seeking something "casual". Another study found men who put they are seeking a relationship receive 42% more emails than men who don't. What does that tell you?
You are on a dating site. Sure some women are there to hookup but most want a relationship. It doesn't mean you can't have casual sex with women on PoF, it's just more difficult when a woman thinks that's all you want.
I do not condone lying and I'm certainly not telling you to lie. But if you present yourself on your profile that you are just looking for just sex, you can expect a lot of unanswered messages and an empty inbox.
If you are all about transparency you should use Tinder, Craigslist, or adult sites like Adultfriendfinder.
Number one way to hookup on POF: Be attactive.
Girls will message you looking to hookup.
Not attractive? Get your ass to a gym.
Online dating limits ur option severely, it would be smarter to save up and move into a city