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Anne Sheffield

Depression Fallout: The Impact of Depression on Couples and What You Can Do to Preserve the Bond Kindle Edition

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Using the vivid, poignant and personal stories of the members of a website support group she founded (www.depressionfallout.com), Anne Sheffield, the author of two highly acclaimed books on depression, provides an honest record of what happens to a love relationship once depression enters the picture, and offers solid advice on what the non–depressed partner can do to improve his or her own life and the relationship.

Of the millions of people who suffer from a depressive illness, few suffer in solitude. They draw the people they love – spouses, parents, children, lovers, friends – into their illness. In her first book, How You Can Survive When They're Depressed, Anne Sheffield coined the phrase 'depression fallout' to describe the emotional toll on the depressive's family and close friends who are unaware of their own stressful reactions and needs. She outlined the five stages of depression fallout (confusion, self–doubt, demoralisation, anger, and the need to escape) and explained that these reactions are a natural result of living with a depressed person.

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“I admire and recommend this inspired guide to the hell imposed by a partner’s depression and the coping strategies offered.”

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Anne Sheffield is the author of two well received books on depression, How You Can Survive When They're Depressed (Harmony, 1998) which won a a Books for a Better Life Award as well as the 1999 Ken Award from the New York City affiliate of National Alliance for the Mentally Ill, and Sorrow's Web (Free Press, 2000) which deals with the topic of motherhood and depression. She has worked as a scientist at the Population and Development Program of the Battelle Memorial Institute and has run her own consulting firm. She lives in New York City. --This text refers to an alternate kindle_edition edition.

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ASIN ‏ : ‎ B0012GTZBG
Publisher ‏ : ‎ William Morrow Paperbacks; 1st edition (October 13, 2009)
Publication date ‏ : ‎ October 13, 2009
Language ‏ : ‎ English
File size ‏ : ‎ 574 KB
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Print length ‏ : ‎ 304 pages

Best Sellers Rank: #407,722 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #113 in Couples & Family Therapy
- #154 in Depression (Kindle Store)
- #767 in Marriage & Long-Term Relationships

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T. Isaac

Great advice, but no commitment to marriage

Reviewed in the United States on November 7, 2005

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When my wife relapsed into depression, I knew what it was because of our previous experience. But I was surprised at how unprepared I was to respond to her. I found myself sinking into my own depression.

When I went to a psychologist to get advice on how to draw her out and get her to a doctor, I found little help. All his "exercises" for dealing with depression were aimed at working WITH the depressed person, AFTER they recognize their need for help. But he offered little help in the process of convincing the depressed spouse that they have a problem and need to see a doctor in the first place.

This book was a breath of fresh air. It helped me understand what is going on inside my wife's head, and why she reacts to me the way she does. It also helped me to understand how I can gently nudge her in the direction of getting help.

My biggest disappointment with this book is its cavalier attitude towards marriage. Marriage is treated as nothing more than a live-in relationship with some extra legal paperwork involved. The decision to "leave" or "stay" with your depressed spouse is treated as an abstract decision. If you are committed to your marriage, you should skip the chapters that deal with "mending or breaking" the bond.

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Julie B.

Pretty good, but also kind of grim

Reviewed in the United States on June 18, 2019

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I haven't finished reading this yet. I have found it helpful in some regards (such as not feeling so alone in my grief and helplessness as I watch the man I love struggle with depression, understanding a little more about chemicals and the way he "feels," etc.) But I agree with other reviewers that it's not very hopeful (perhaps as a result of the author's own battle with depression?) - it seems that the options are leaving your partner, enduring hell, or practicing some arbitary rules that may or may not work depending on your beloved's needs and end up alone anyway - possibly as the villain in the retelling of your own love story. Bummer. Overall, I am glad to be reading it, but only give it 4 stars because I don't exactly feel steady and empowered after.

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K. Rose Quayle, author of Look Left, Walk Green

Indespensible for anyone in a relationship with Depression

Reviewed in the United States on June 16, 2017

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I first came across this title from the Depression Fallout online forum (which I recommend if the book has been helpful) and it truly helped me during my husband's depression. At the time I was alone frightened and unsure what to do as he refused any sort of help and there seemed to be no end in sight. Without a professional involved, Depression Fallout at least outlined for me what sort of behaviour was typical so I could stop trying to analyze his every word and stop blaming myself for bringing it on. I found it to be practical and having had a history of depression myself, validating. Certainly it took time and effort on both our parts to keep our marriage intact, but without this book I wouldn't have had any direction to even start in. I recommend it to everyone I know with a depressed partner.

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Mary S.

Validation for the non-depressed partner

Reviewed in the United States on January 27, 2013

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Anne Sheffield's "Depression Fallout" has provided validation for me, as someone who has lived with a depressed person (untreated and then under-treated) for several years now. She does an excellent job of describing the rejection and confusion one feels while watching a once loving spouse disappear into this illness, even before you know it's depression that's causing the problems.

I also appreciated the section about making the decision to stay in the relationship or to leave it.

Some may chafe at her use of the term "emotional abuse," but I agree with that assessment. That the depressed person doesn't always know that they're hurting their partner does not make their behavior any less abusive in its effect.

My only quibble is that when she occasionally reverts to the first person in describing depression, it can be jarring. That's a minor point, though. Overall, if you are living with a depressed person or even suspect you are, this book will go a long way toward showing you that you're not imagining things.

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Lindsay Burke

There is hope!

Reviewed in the United States on December 28, 2016

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This book is very informative and helpful for those trying to keep their heads up in these lonely waters. It will help you gain insight into your parntners thoughts and give some direction toward pulling out together. Take what works for you and get on that road up and out of depression quicksand.

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T. Noland

Extraordinary read!

Reviewed in the United States on January 11, 2007

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As one who has been or is suffering from the fallout of depression, I can say without a doubt this is the best book I have read and I've read quite a few. It involves not only the depressed person, but speaks to the loved ones who are in agony and turmoil right along with the depressed person. I have read this book more than once and go back to various chapters from time to time. I most highly recommend this book to anyone who thinks they are a victim of "depression fallout"!

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Comfort

Information Saved My Mind!!!

Reviewed in the United States on February 29, 2008

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It's been almost 8 years in a relationship with a depressed spouse and finally a breakthrough for what I go through daily as a supportive spouse. Many times I wanted to call it quits because of the confusion, resentment, anger and demorilization I felt being on the other end of the depressive cycle. Now I know millions who support face the same challenges and there are tools to cope or help to move on in life. Great information compiled from various points of view. This book literally saved my mind.

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Singer

I wanted more research-based info

Reviewed in the United States on March 28, 2021

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Good information, but the book isn’t very well written. I feel like I could learn as much from reading the comment board on her website. The info didn’t feel well-researched or scholarly. It was helpful, though, to learn of others’ experiences.

However, I though her advice was unprofessional - she suggested you dress nicely and maybe make a nice meal when you’re wanting to talk to a spouse about his depression. I think therapists might - hopefully - suggest a more authentic approach based on research rather than a 60’s approach to what men like.

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K Yon

Help if you love someone with depression

Reviewed in France on July 30, 2023

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This book will be a great help for people who love a sufferer of depression. Written by a psychologist who suffers from depression herself and therefore understands both sides, the book draws on material from an online support group. You will feel reassured as you realize you are not alone. Learning how much of what you are experiencing is typical will help depersonalize some of the issues. You'll benefit from helpful insights at the same time that you realize that everyone's path through this minefield is unique, as is the destination.

Kim

I could have passed

Reviewed in Canada on March 24, 2023

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This book was recommended to me. It arrived in perfect condition.
I did not find it particularly helpful to me.
Depression has so many aspects to it. The person who recommended it to me, loved it.

Anthony Ward

Helpful although it over-simplifies

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on July 25, 2013

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I found the book contained a lot of useful material that serves a very important purpose in making you aware that many other partners of depressed people are going through similar experiences. It also has a number of practical tips on how to handle a depressed partner. However, it is rather too inclined to rely heavily on anecdotal material as being of general application. I also found it lacking in one important respect - that it assumes relationship issues are pretty much attributable to the depression. I guess that depression probably is a very important contributor in many situations and that it is also probably true that partners of depressed people are apt to blame themselves too much. However, just because one partner is depressed it does not mean that the relationship is otherwise free of issues or that the non-depressed partners should absolve themselves of thinking about how their own behaviour or that of other family members may have contributed to the difficulties. As ever, real life interactions are so incredibly complex it is very hard to identify, untangle and explain fully what is causing difficulties. That said, you can only do your best and you have to start somewhere and this book was very helpful to me in piecing together my thoughts about what has been happening.

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Slamas

I highly recommend anything written by her

Reviewed in Canada on August 17, 2017

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This book helped me to understand what my husband was going through but especially myself. It was written in a way that breaks down your emotions and put order to the craziness of your thoughts. Sometimes when your dealing with someone who is depressed the focus is on them. Anne puts some focus and understanding on the person who stands by them and can become depressed because of it. I highly recommend anything written by her.

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Mary

Glad to recommend

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on October 4, 2014

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Really helpful book for those of us who live with someone suffering with Drepression. We know our lives are also deeply affected by their depression, but finding ways to cope and live free is hard; many helpful, tried and tested ideas here, helps too to dispel the isolation that we live in. Glad to recommend.

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