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Love, Ellen: A Mother/Daughter Journey Paperback – April 26, 2000
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"Mom, I'm gay." With three little words, gay sons and daughters can change their parents' lives forever. Twenty years ago, during a walk on a Mississippi beach, Ellen DeGeneres spoke those simple, powerful words to her mother. That emotional moment eventually brought mother and daughter closer than ever, but it was not without a struggle. In Love, Ellen, Betty DeGeneres tells her story: the complicated path to acceptance and the deepening of her friendship with her daughter, the media's scrutiny of their family life, and the painful and often inspiring stories she's heard on the road as the first nongay spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaign's National Coming Out Project.
Insightful, universally touching, and uncommonly wise, Love, Ellen is a story of friendship between mother and daughter and a lesson in understanding for all parents and their children.
"Mom, I'm gay." With three little words, gay children can change their parents' lives forever. Yet at the same times it's a chance for those parents to realize nothing, really, has changed at all; same kid, same life, same bond of enduring love.Twenty years ago, during a walk on a Mississippi beach, Ellen DeGeneres spoke those simple, powerful words to her mother. That emotional moment eventually brought mother and daughter closer than ever, but not without a struggle. Coming from a republican family with conservative values, Betty needed time and education to understand her daughter's homosexuality -- but her ultimate acceptance would set the stage for a far more public coming out, one that would change history.
In Love, Ellen, Betty DeGeneres tells her story; the complicated path to acceptance and the deepening of her friendship with her daughter; the media's scrutiny of their family life; the painful and often inspiring stories she's heard on the road as the first non-gay spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaigns National Coming Out Project.
With a mother's love, clear minded common sense, and hard won wisdom, Betty DeGeneres offers up her own very personal memoir to help parents understand their gay children, and to help sons and daughters who have been rejected by their families feel less alone."Mom, I'm gay." With three little words, gay children can change their parents' lives forever. Yet at the same times it's a chance for those parents to realize nothing, really, has changed at all; same kid, same life, same bond of enduring love.
Twenty years ago, during a walk on a Mississippi beach, Ellen DeGeneres spoke those simple, powerful words to her mother. That emotional moment eventually brought mother and daughter closer than ever, but not without a struggle. Coming from a republican family with conservative values, Betty needed time and education to understand her daughter's homosexuality -- but her ultimate acceptance would set the stage for a far more public coming out, one that would change history.
In Love, Ellen, Betty DeGeneres tells her story; the complicated path to acceptance and the deepening of her friendship with her daughter; the media's scrutiny of their family life; the painful and often inspiring stories she's heard on the road as the first non-gay spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaigns National Coming Out Project.
With a mother's love, clear minded common sense, and hard won wisdom, Betty DeGeneres offers up her own very personal memoir to help parents understand their gay children, and to help sons and daughters who have been rejected by their families feel less alone.
- Print length400 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- Publication dateApril 26, 2000
- Dimensions5.5 x 1 x 8.25 inches
- ISBN-100688176887
- ISBN-13978-0688176884
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The Importance of Being Different
FIRST OF ALL, WHEN you think about it, we're all stuck here on this planet while it hurtles through space in its orbit. If you imagine yourself free of gravity and floating off in the distance, you get a whole different perspective on us. I imagine us all looking exactly the same -- like little ants, but full of self-importance. We're pretty good at dividing. And we're not bad at multiplying, either. (Sorry, I couldn't resist that. I am Ellen's mom, after all.)
How laughable we would seem from that far-off vantage point -- self-obsessed busy-bodies divided by turf and custom and color and you name it. We're divided by everything from what we eat to whom we worship as God and what name we call Him/Her. We're not just divided by our religious differences: we've gone to war because of them; we've actually killed in the name of God. I'm certain that's not what He/She intended when we were first created and put on this good earth to live and thrive together.
When it comes to embracing diversity, I tend to think of myself as a relatively "average," "regular" person, not endowed with traits that would make me any more accepting than you or your neighbors. There wasn't anything in my upbringing that caused me to be more tolerant than the next person. If anything shaped that inclination, it is the fact that I became a mother. But I'm certainly not supermom. Rather, I'm probably more of an Everymom, with the same dream that most parents have for their kids -- a live-and-let-live world where all the ants can celebrate individuality and diversity, yet still recognize each other as part of a larger family.
There's nothing new or radical about this image of ants. In fact, it's really just a spin on what is more commonly called the golden rule, something I was taught at the beginning of my education as Everygirl.
That part of my story starts in the depths of the Great Depression: on May 20, 1930, when I was born Betty Jane Pfeffer at home in a rented half of a double house on Dante Street in New Orleans, Louisiana. Despite the Depression and their own poverty, my parents -- my father, William Dick Pfeffer, of German descent; and my mother, Mildred Morrill Pfeffer, of Irish descent -- were happily anticipating my arrival and were planning for me to be the first of their three children to be born in a hospital. But I came too soon, and Mother gave birth at home, as she had with my sister Helen, seven years my senior, and my sister Audrey, five years my senior. So much for that plan. I've often wondered if it was my early entrance into the world that set the pattern of impulsiveness in my life, a pattern that has persisted to this day.
In any event, I am quite sure that being the third-born and the baby of the family shaped my early personality. Where Helen, the eldest, was serious, intelligent, and always thoughtful, and Audrey in the middle was fun-loving and vivacious, I was known as the "littlest," and -- with my thick golden curls and my apple-red cheeks -- I was spoiled rotten, and notorious for never taking no for an answer. I was tenacious. Still am. I consider tenacity one of my great strengths and one of my great weaknesses.
My earliest memories are from about the age of four. What I remember most about myself was how irrepressibly curious I was about everything. By now we were living in a slightly larger rental, not far from where I was born, a raised half of a double on Apricot Street. This house had a tiny backyard with a dirt plot maybe three feet by six feet. To this day, I can still see myself planting nasturtium seeds there and -- with time passing ever so slowly, as it does for the very young -- watching the green stalks inch from the ground, the flowers eventually bursting into bloom.
Some years later, being an impulsive and curious child, when I saw an ad on a bus for cotton seeds, I wrote down the address and sent for them.
A month later, as we were sitting down to dinner one night, Helen and Audrey began to laugh. Mother and Daddy asked them what was so funny.Audrey began, "Have you seen the backyard? She..."
"She? Who is she?" Mother said sternly. Mother thought it was extremely rude to refer to someone present as "she" or "her." Otherwise, Mother said, Audrey could have been referring to the cat or the cat's grandmother. We were taught to refer to company present by name.
Audrey continued, "Betty Jane is growing cotton in the backyard."
That was correct. When the seeds arrived I had planted them on my own, per instructions, and I soon had a small but nice cotton crop.
Mother and Daddy must have thought it a little unusual. But they acted proud. That's how they were whenever I tried new things. The lesson was simple -- it's OK to be curious. Over the years, this quality has endured and may be why I've always had quite a collection of hobbies and creative pursuits. And, even more relevant to the work I do now, being naturally curious has always made me open to meeting different kinds of people.
Copyright 1999 by Betty DeGeneres
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- Publisher : It Books (April 26, 2000)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 400 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0688176887
- ISBN-13 : 978-0688176884
- Item Weight : 12.5 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.5 x 1 x 8.25 inches
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It's so important that messages like Betty's get out to the world. Not just the gay and lesbian world, but the world in general. Simply put - "Love one another."
I can only hope and wish that Oprah or some other high-profile media outlet picks up a copy and gives this book the promotion it deserves.
Isn't it funny how when kids are growing up, we tell them all just how special they are.... And then when they go and show just how special they are - what our responses can be.
Thank you Betty, for writing a book from your heart and soul. Nothing like this could be easy, and I thank you again for telling such a personal story so that it might benefit others.
As we all know she has become an icon in the world today, but it was great to read from her mothers point of view and to find out that her father was still a very big part of her life as she does not speak of him. I love Ellen, I think she has a heart as big as the world and would give it all away in a minute if she thought it would change the world. She is so very giving in so many ways, I hardly ever watch her show that I do not cry sometime in the hour. I do not get to watch every day , but I do DVR. I would recommend this book for any parent who has just found out that they have a gay child and having trouble accepting. I do not have a gay child that I know of , but I do hope(and I think that I would) that if any of them came to me and advised that they were gay I would be just like Betty DeGeneres.
I liked where Ellen's mom stated she had to grieve what she had lost as far as the dreams she had for her daughter. I did that as well. The book is helping me understand it and what to do and what not to do.
I love this book!
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Je ne sais pas si ce livre peut intéresser et/ou aider beaucoup de monde en France caf il est en anglais et n'a jamais été traduit en français.
Mais je pense quand même que des personnes parlent anglais en France, la preuve, et que ça peut soit intéresser des personnes par curiosité, par intérêt soit en aider d'autres et tant mieux.
Aussi c'est pour cette raison que je vais vous "expliquer" l'idée de base de ce livre.
Betty DeGeneres est la maman de Ellen DeGeneres qui, à l'époque où se livre à été écrit était comédienne, actrice, pas connue de tous. Aujourd'hui aux moins États-Unis, mais dans le monde aussi, elle est connue de tous pour être la présentatrice du célèbre talk-show "The Ellen DeGeneres Show".
Donc Betty DeGeneres, après le coming-out de sa fille Ellen en 1997, est devenue la première porte-parole non LGBT pour "The Human Rights Campaign's National Coming Out Project".
Elle a choisi d'écrire se livre pour aider les personnes à faire leurs coming out, les aider s'ils l'avaient fait et avait été rejeté par leur famille.
Elle voulait aussi aider les parents qui, comme elle, apprennent plus ou moins brutalement que leur/leurs enfant(s) "ne sont pas qui ils pensaient". Les aider à se remettre du choc, à accepter et à continuer à vivre comme avant (puisque finalement, c'est toujours la même personne qui est en face de vous...)
Dans ce livre elle raconte sa naissance, son enfance, adolescence, l'amour, le mariage, les enfants puis Ellen. Jusqu'au jour où elle lui annonce qu'elle est gay et là elle nous explique, avec beaucoup d'honnêteté, le processus psychologique qu'à été le sien, ce qu'elle a fait, pensé et dit.
Pour ceux que ça intéresse, je vous laisse découvrir la suite.
Sachez que si vous avez du mal à faire votre coming out auprès de vos parents, ce livre peut grandement vous aider.
De la même façon, si un ou plusieurs de vos enfants, un frère, une sœur, un ou une ami(e), un cousin, une cousine, un proche où je ne sais qui d'autre vous a annoncé son homosexualité et que vous avez du mal à l'accepter, lisez se livre s'il vous plaît. Ne rejetez pas quelqu'un que vous aimez parce qu'il est différent de vous, parce qu'il est homosexuel.
Si vous comprenez l'anglais, lisez au moins se livre avant de prendre une décision attive que vous pourriez regretter trop tard.
PS: Je précise que dans le livre papiers une dizaine de pages de photos se trouvent au milieu du livre. Ces photo ne se trouvent pas sur la version Kindle (même sur Kindle en couleur comme le Fire).
I thought that the book was really inspiring because it showed how Betty came up accept her daughter through more knowledge about homosexuality. She then went on to help other gay people and their families by becoming an activist who spoke about her experiences with Ellen to help others in similar situations to her. She sends a strong message to parents about accepting their children if they are gay because its not a choice they have made it is just they way they are and being gay doesn't change who they are just the person they love.
Thoroughly enjoyed reading this book, I couldn't put it down! A very inspirational lady and well told story.