A hands-free orgasm is when you have a sexual climax without using hands. As long as you are not using your hands to stimulate your body, it is considered hands-free. This type of orgasm can be achieved solo or with a partner.
According to certified sex and dating coach Myisha Battle, MS, in MindBodyGreen, you should approach exploring a hands-free orgasm with a sense of curiosity to tap into any pleasure sensations you feel in your body.
How Does It Work?
There are many ways to achieve a hands-free orgasm. Both people with a vagina or penis can experience a hands-free orgasm.
Here are ways to try to achieve a hands-free orgasm:
Humping and grinding. People with a vulva or a penis can grind or hump to pleasure themselves. You can use blankets, pillows, or couch cushions to rub against. Use the friction to reach orgasm. You can also use a vibrator to grind on.
Orgasmic breathing. This is the practice of breathing intentionally and specifically to achieve orgasm for sexual pleasure. Using orgasmic breathing can also help elongate your hands-on orgasm. You can do this in a quiet, comfortable place. This method will take practice, but can be done with a partner, too.
Use sex toys. To achieve a hands-free orgasm with sex toys, you’ll want to try vibrators that go in underwear for people with vulvas or cock rings for people with penises. Remote controlled vibrators can be done with a partner. Dildos with suction cups can be helpful, because you can attach it anywhere to use it and have an orgasm.
Try water play. This can be pleasurable for people with vulvas. If you have a shower head that detaches you can use that and direct it to your clitoris.
Practice kegels and muscle clenching. This technique works for people with vulvas and penises. Using your pelvic floor, you can do kegel exercises to increase arousal and stimulate your genitals. Try clenching and unclenching repeatedly to stimulate your prostate or clitoris.
Myths About a Hands Free Orgasm
Myth: Only women can have a mental orgasm. A mental stimulation is a useful tactic for having a hands-free orgasm. Both men and women can have a mental orgasm. It’s all about stimulating yourself in your mind. Some sex researchers have referred to the brain as the major sex organ.
Myth: You don’t need to masturbate if you’re in a relationship. Masturbation is a normal part of most people’s lives. Even people in healthy relationships will masturbate. There are many reasons that a person will masturbate for the sensation or stress relief, that doesn’t require a sexual exchange with their partner.
How to Try the Hands Free Orgasm Safely
A hands-free orgasm can happen with a partner, or you can do it solo. For a fun twist, you and your partner can try to achieve a solo hands-free orgasms together. It’s important to know how you regularly orgasm. Hands-free orgasms can be challenging to start with.
Before you start, you should get aroused in order to achieve the orgasm. You’ll want to focus on the sensations, and be relaxed and comfortable.
It might be a good idea to try a hands-free orgasm on your own first before trying it with your partner. Either way, you should try to talk about a plan with your partner for how you see this experience happening.
The first time you try to reach a hands-free orgasm, it may not work. Just be patient with yourself and your partner. Even if you don’t orgasm, it’s all about the pleasure you feel from it.
The best way to have a hands-free orgasm is to practice. Finding the right technique for yourself takes time and patience. In the meantime, you can become more mindful of the sensations you're feeling by edging, which is getting close but not quite achieving orgasm.