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Love & Will Reprint Edition
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"An extraordinary book on sex and civilization....An important contribution to contemporary morality."―Newsweek
The heart of man's dilemma, according to Rollo May, is the failure to understand the real meaning of love and will, their source and interrelation. Bringing fresh insight to these concepts, May shows how we can attain a deeper consciousness.- ISBN-100393330052
- ISBN-13978-0393330052
- EditionReprint
- PublisherW. W. Norton & Company
- Publication dateJuly 17, 2007
- LanguageEnglish
- Dimensions5.5 x 0.9 x 8.2 inches
- Print length352 pages
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The implications of this distinguished book for education and culture are profound. -- Harvard Educational Review
This volumewritten in a brilliant and impeccable styleis an excellent analysis of life and love in the modern period. -- Chicago Sun-Times
Wise, rich, witty and indispensable....It should have led any list of important books. -- John Leonard, New York Times
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- Publisher : W. W. Norton & Company; Reprint edition (July 17, 2007)
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- Paperback : 352 pages
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- Lexile measure : 1290L
- Item Weight : 2.31 pounds
- Dimensions : 5.5 x 0.9 x 8.2 inches
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Rollo May (1909-1994) was an influential existential psychologist and the author of Love and Will, The Courage to Create, and The Discovery of Being.
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In general comments elsewhere about Existential Psychology (a 'school' of psychology he helped 'father'), psychoanalyst Rollo May sees psychotherapy as more than a cure or remedy; serving rather to broaden the client's ability to create meaning. Love and Will has helped me to do that -- to perceive, create and deepen meaning in my life.
The book was originally written in the late 60s during the sexual revolution, which was spurred on by widespread distribution of the birth control pill and the resulting opportunity to (further) separate love from sex in much of our culture. Love and Will may appear at first blush to be a mere response to the sexual revolution, arguing as it does that separating sex from love exacts a terrible toll in apathy. But the meaning of May's ideas are both broader and deeper, and reading his content as primarily about sex, or Eros, or even Love -- each among the major subjects addressed here -- gives less importance to this work than it merits. In the formulation about sex, love and apathy, for example, his most urgent focus is on apathy! I don't mean to deny the importance of sex, Love, Eros, or of these to his work; I mean to broaden the importance I attach to what May has written here, and what I think he contributes more generally.
When May speaks of Eros, he speaks most profoundly of it as a "daimon," a term which he debated vigorously, for example, with the great pioneer Carl Rogers, who insisted on misreading into it a simpler notion of "demonic!" But May's concept of the daimon was different. In Love and Will, May defines "daimon" as "the urge in every being to affirm itself, assert itself, perpetuate and increase itself...." So May's "daimonic potentialities -- notably the daimonic urge of Eros -- are the source of both our constructive and destructive impulses -- and normally both" -- e.g., toward creativity and love on the one hand, vs. toward rage, paranoia, compulsive sexuality and oppressive behavior on the other. Love and Will has for me held this revelation -- the notion of the same core urges within our psyches being for both good and ill, depending on how we channel them, and often for both. It is fascinating to read a giant like Carl Rogers himself struggle with the subtlety of reconciling both the good and evil within the same daimonic impulse. It exemplifies for me how the power of May's subtle insight works.
Among my challenges in initially chewing through Love and Will was his Chapter on Love and Death. I had to return to the chapter several different times before I could make my way through it emotionally. Here, May applies his broader notions of the meaning of anxiety in their most frightening setting. May makes the case the truest love can be experienced only in the face of death -- i.e., with the awareness of death's possibility, the evanescence of life and love. How well we know this from all our tradition of art and literature -- Romeo and Juliet, Tristan and Isolde loom so large! Yet how urgently we deny its applicability to our own lives. A skilled deployer of biblical and mythological references, nowhere is May's use more telling than in his noting the banality of love between the immortals in Greek mythology, compared with the fire that infuses those gods' relations with mortal lovers.
In his discussion of Will, May quickly distinguishes Will from the straw man version of Will many of us were raised with, which he calls "Victorian Will Power." Will power and 'nose to the grindstone' are decidedly not what May means by Will -- "Victorian Will Power" is an artificial social convention for denial or even repression of one's wishes. It neither entails Free Will, nor the genuine consultation of one's own wants, wishes or hopes about anything.
May's exploration of this realm takes us through his idea of "Intentionality," (often misused as a mere synonym for intention).. May's Intentionality focuses heavily on our way of perceiving and knowing, interdependent with our way of intending. We see what we see based on what we intend about it. If we can form no intention, we literally do not perceive! Don't we all have examples of bumping into something right in front of us that, somehow, we literally did not see because we did not have it in mind, i.e., had no intention about it? May's illustrations are more elegant... In one charming example, he describes how we might see a piece of paper in terms of its surface texture if we intend to draw on it, but perceive it in terms of its sturdiness if we intend instead to make a paper airplane from it -- so intertwined are intention and perception. May's theory of Intentionality builds from this foundation on up.
As elsewhere, May's approach combines practical, real life experience with reference to etymology and philosophy to reinforce the human understanding of how we humans think and understand our reality. Again and again, I have found myself enlightened and enriched by what he has shared.
These are just a few glimpses into a book rich with insights I return to again and again in the 30+ years since I first received this book as a gift in 1979. I recommend it to you for yourself, or as a gift -- not necessarily to read in a single sitting or week, but just as well for noshing and chomping. It need not be consumed as one integrated thesis, even though -- as one fine review here notes -- it will hold up quite well that way.
Make this fine book yours, use it as you wish so long as you actively engage your own mind, and it will serve you well.
In the fewest words possible Love and Will is showing that to overcome our current Collective Crisis in anxiety, Identity and alienation and the disease of loneliness in our Culture:
One must regain a connective consciousness that rejoins human relations via feelings relatedness expressed in emotional connection between intentionality, desire and freedom to reach and grasp the other.
To reach this level of connection and maintain feelings of togetherness is Eros, which when related to sexual instinct creates a union raising consciousness that deny reactions of separation.
This arises once a person engages his daimon, which represents one’s repressed emotions as well as the possibility for growth and new feeling awareness.
Once these emotions are re engaged and are no longer dispossessed out of consciousness, the individual has access to new possibility of being and action.
SUMMARY:
What a few sentences can’t convey is how May see’s sexuality and sensuality expressed in current culture. What the Myth of Eros and it’s personal relation to all meaningful relations is.
Also Just how repressed emotions are expressed in the Daimon of every individual, and just what is meant by Daimon ( angelic expression as well as Demon expression imbedded in the psyche’).
Moreover to understand his use of intentionality in relation to his meaning of Will and how intentionality…born of infant wish.. has meaning in decision of a person to move toward his future in a new awareness of affectual connection.
That is how feelings become the primary mode of relatedness.
All of this new feeling action must have a myth to bring into focus and allow for the life enhancing capabilities that is currently lacking in today’s society.
May shows how this ‘Love and Will’ is lost overtime w/o Myth that creates meaning in the lives of us all by showing how Myth in the past was the womb for Love.
In the meantime Repressed emotions will destroy Culture as it is in Violence and loss of meaning which destroys first connectivity in feeling with man to man and undermines all existing Culture significance. Not to mention how Culture destroys man by ignoring inner needs and reinforcing repression.
May shows that Greece and Rome and all civilizations break down due to this loss of meaning and affectual feelings that can no longer sustain itself in the rise of anxiety, depersonalization in the individual which forces emotional relatedness to be repressed which via violence breaks down the state. Culture Breaks down as the man looses touch with his capacity for self trust.
Rollo May’s master work describes the breakdown of Culture, the Dark Age we are entering or we are in and what is needed to regain Human dignity and integrity in the deterioration of the times and points to a path of healing hoping for a new Myth of man.
Bottom line is that May points out that w/o Will, the ability to wish and through intentionality allows us to decide our Future which is the essence of Loving Life.
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His thoughts on will were even more exciting, since it really opened my ideas to a sensible way of thinking about will. If this was possible to be written in the sixties, all that nonsense that so called philosophers wrote about the problems of free will since really becomes utterly inexcusable.
If you need a reminder of what it is that makes us human in this increasingly confusing world, (and he wrote this when the world was not yet digitalised) do yourself a big favour and read this NOW.