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Dating a younger man...would you do it? How young is too young?

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    So, I'm on vacation here in DC, and lord am I having the time of my life.  Met this  cutie, and I swear he's like a dream come true. BUT HE'S ONLY  22.  I want to weigh the pros and cons of dating someone younger.  So here goes.
    Con
    1. I've never dated anyone younger than I.
    2. He's at least 5 years younger (I said at least, I'm not telling my actual age)
    3. He hasn't finished college yet
    4. He's a starving but hard working student (doesn't have alot of money)
    5. He can be immature
    6. I often feel insecure about the age difference
    7. He attracts allot of both female and male attention
    8. He wants to sleep with me
    9. Not sure if there's a future for us
    10. I don't want to play myself
    Pro
    1. He's 6'3
    2. he's arm candy
    3. He's sooooooo sweet
    4. He's incredibly sexy
    5. He makes me laugh
    6. He's really affectionate
    7. He's part Asian and incredibly exotic looking
    8. I want to sleep with him
    9. I want to see where this can take me
    10. He makes me feel incredible

    So what would you do?  would you date a younger man?

  1. I don't get it.  What's the worst that can happen?  You don't end up together in the end because you find out you're incompatible?  If you don't give it a shot, isn't that the same end situation?  The only way you'll find out whether or not there's an alternative equilibrium is to give it a go, right?

    I've dated a lot older, (like, 11 years, and 17 years for two different guys) just because I feel more comfortable with more mature  men.  I don't have any regrets from it, even though they didn't work out for me (bummer for one of them, he was a keeper!)

    I'm of the persuasion that age really doesn't matter so long as there's mutual attraction and a common desire to see whether a relationship works out.  If not, at least it was fun for awhile and you've gained a new experience.

  2. If you're OK with sleeping with him and having a good time but no future, then there's no problem.  If those things are going to be an issue for you (I'm not saying it would definitely happen that way, but it is probable), then don't!  Personally, I think that if you're old enough to have given birth to him, then you're too old to date him, so I think that would be a good guideline here.  Five years would not be a huge deal just for dating casually.

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    I am currently dating someone 8 years younger and I'm surprised by that fact every day.
    I've only dated the same age or older (11 years older in 2 cases)
    But so far so good, his energy and optimism fuels me on I find.

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    Hot guy interested in me? yes please, i'll take two.  

    Shit, I"d do just cuz he's hot and it'd be a total confidence booster :)  Just cuz you start dating him - who knows it could work, but if it doesn't then you can add him to your trophy wall.

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    LOL...you guys are funny.  I've never had a trophy wall.  I guess its kind of hard because I've never done this sort of thing before.  I do want to sleep with him, but I feel like its wrong to be physical, and not invest anything emotional.  Thanks for the input.

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    From experience -- shag him, teach him something, and make him go home before you get annoyed with him.  Do this as often as you can. If you are lucky, he (and his hormones) will relax into someone you can hang with on a more ongoing basis.  You'll never know for sure until you get past the sexual wonderland.

    • J C.
    • Arlington, VA
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    I say go for it, but as a man who has always had a thing for older women, I'm somewhat biased :) Fortunately though, pretty much everyone in my peer group (I'm 32) or younger is totally cool with older woman/younger man scenarios, so I don't think you'd encounter a lot of cultural hangups over this.

    But really, it seems like the only potential stumbling block might be his immaturity. But if you can get him away from the kegger crowd and get him to hang out with some of your crowd, this will probably take care of itself. If things heat up, inexperience may be an issue, but if you're willing to be a patient teacher, he'll love you for it. The positives you list really outweigh the negatives, so I say go for it.

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    Girl, you're on vacation...quit overthinking this!!!

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    As a younger fella myself who generally goes for an older woman (and often surprise women by telling them my actual age of 23), I say  go for it! Be young, have fun, drink pepsi!

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