Who Is Tommy Lee's Wife Today? All About Brittany Furlan, the Ex-Vine Star Who Stole the Motley Crüe Drummer's Heart
Tommy Leeis arguably most famous for two things: One, being the drummer of Mötley Crüe, and two, being Pamela Anderson's husband and co-starring with her (his third wife) in the infamous sex tape that inspired Hulu's new Pam and Tommy miniseries.
While Lee's romance with Anderson was certainly dramatic (and seemingly quite toxic), the onetime bad boy seems to have finally calmed down—and happily settled down—with his fourth wife, Brittany Furlan. He told GQthat he considers himself an "incurable romantic" and gushed of Furlan, "I have my beautiful wife and she is just incredible, man. My face often hurts from laughing so much from all the fun we have. She has that wonderful gift of laughter and I think that's such an underrated quality in people."
Cute! Keep reading to find out all about Tommy Lee and his wife Brittany Furlan, including how the pair met and who else he was married to before she came along.
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Who was Tommy Lee's first wife?
Lee's first wife, Elaine Starchuk, is a Canadian former model and dancer. Starchuck reportedly dated Lee's bandmate Vince Neil as well as Whitesnake frontman Dave Coverdale before shacking up with the drummer. She and Lee began dating in 1982 and married on Nov. 24, 1984—and just one week later in, December 1984, they split, finalizing their divorce in 1985.
Following their divorce, Starchuk dated yet another member of Mötley Crüe, this time Nikki Sixx, as well as Faster Pussycat's Taime Downe and musician Gregg Giuffria before meeting her second husband, Todd Marshall. They divorced after several years.
Starchuk is the founder and CEO of Enlightened Lashes, a lash extension academy and retailer.
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How many times has Tommy Lee been married?
Lee has been married four times, first to Starchuk, then to Heather Locklear, followed by Pamela Anderson and now to Brittany Furlan. He was also engaged to musician Sofia Toufa in 2014, but they split before ever walking down the aisle.
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Why did Tommy and Pam break up?
In Motley Crüe's group tell-all TheDirt, Lee recalled (via Rolling Stone) that when he first met Anderson on New Year's Eve 1994, he was drunk and high on ecstasy. She gave him her number at the end of the night, and then he acted like a self-proclaimed "stalker" until he could see her again. She went out with him one time—and four days later, they tied the knot. She got pregnant with their first son, Brandon, almost immediately afterward—and their second son, Dylan, almost immediately after that. Lee lamented in The Dirt, "Pamela and I got busy having kids so quickly that we never gave ourselves a chance to build a solid relationship. I asked her much later, 'Why didn't we work on our relationship more?' 'We couldn't,' she replied. 'I was pregnant the whole time.'"
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Their marriage took an even worse turn after their sons were born because Lee admitted he was jealous of the attention Anderson showered on the boys. In February 1998, Lee, to hear him tell it, threw a tantrum that spiraled into violence. He claims that Anderson struck him and that he kicked her when she tried to run away from him, and that when he later tried to take their son Brandon from her arms, she fell and broke a nail. Police were called and he was charged with spousal battery. Anderson filed for divorce after the incident.
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According to The Los Angeles Times, Lee pleaded no contest and was sentenced to six months in jail as well as mandatory counseling. Rolling Stonereported that Lee was released after four months in the clink, but went back to jail for five days after Anderson reported that she saw him drinking, a violation of his three-year probation.
If you ask Lee, though, the divorce was Anderson's fault. He wrote in The Dirt that she likely divorced him as "an easy way out of a difficult situation," griping, "As much as I loved Pamela, she had a problem dealing with things. If something wasn't right in her life, she'd rather get rid of it than take the time to work on it or fix it... So the way I understood it, what Pamela did to me was, basically, fire me."
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How long were Tommy Lee and Heather together?
According to PEOPLE, Lee and Locklear met in 1985 backstage at an REO Speedwagon concert, and three months later, they were engaged after Locklear proposed (though Lee later gave her a rock and delivered his own proposal as well). The couple wed in May 1986, but by 1994, it was over. Entertainment Weeklyreported that the eight-year marriage dissolved due to Lee cheating on Locklear while on tour.
Who is Brittany Furlan's husband?
Furlan began dating future husband Lee in early 2017 after meeting on a dating app (stars—they're just like us!), though Furlan said she was initially scared to get involved with Lee because she had just gotten out of a bad relationship with someone who cheated on her.
"It was like a year and I wasn’t feeling just healed yet and then I matched with my husband. And he was just so persistent, he was texting me every day, being like ‘Hey! What are you doing?’ ‘Have you listened to the song I sent you? What are you doing today?’" she recalled on a November 2020 episode of the How to Talk to Girls podcast. She added that they met in person at a Pridefest event and he won her over: "I went on and tapped him on the shoulder and he just gave me the biggest warmest hug and we're just together ever since then."
The couple got engaged on Valentine's Day 2018, when Lee proposed with a heart-shaped diamond ring.
They married exactly one year later on Valentine's Day 2019, announcing their nuptials with a pic on Lee's Instagram showing their pups dressed as bride and groom.
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Are Pamela and Tommy still together?
The couple were on-again-off-again for several years after their divorce, eventually calling it quits for good in 2010.
Who is Tommy Lee married to today?
Furlan, a Pennsylvania native and former Vine star and actress, appeared in the film adaptation of The Dirt in 2019, as well as We Are Your Friends, The Unicorn, American Meme and several short films.
She has also acted in TV shows including PBC and Paradise City. She previously hosted the podcast Worst Firsts With Brittany Furlan, with Lee as her final guest in June 2021.
What's the age difference between Tommy Lee and his wife?
The 59-year-old Lee is 24 years older than the 35-year-old Furlan.
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