From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

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Sherry Argov’s Perspective

Sherry Argov is the author of Why Men Love Bitches, and Why Men Marry Bitches. Her writing has appeared in countless magazines, including People, Vanity Fair, US Weekly, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Elle, Maxim, and Esquire. Her work has been featured nationally on the TODAY show, The View, MSNBC, Fox News Channel, and MTV.

She is also the producer of an international theater production. Her play topped the Billboard charts for seven consecutive years and has received critical acclaim.

Introduction

Why Men Love Bitches is a relationship guide for women who are too nice. The book’s message is that a bit of disrespect is necessary to have any self-esteem at all. This book isn’t about disrespecting other people but showing less care for what other people think.

The title and the content of Why Men Love Bitches address what many women think but don’t say. Every woman has felt embarrassed by appearing too needy to a man.

Why Men Love Bitches was named one of the “Ten Most Iconic Relationship Books of the Past Ten Years” by Yahoo. It was labeled “America’s Top Relationship Book” by Book Tribe as well. Her work is currently published throughout the world in over thirty languages.

StoryShot #1: What Does Argov Mean By a “Bitch”?

Sherry makes an important distinction between the negative associations with this word and Sherry’s definition of “bitch”. The author uses the word in a tongue-in-cheek way. The “bitch” that Sherry is talking about is not the stereotypical “bitch.” The woman that Sherry is describing in the book is kind yet strong. She has a subtle strength. She doesn’t give up her life passions, and she won’t chase a man. She won’t let a man think he has one hundred percent “hold” on her. She’ll also stand up for herself when he steps over the line. She knows what she wants but won’t compromise herself to get it.

Through this book, Sherry has illustrated why overcompensating always puts you at a disadvantage. Overcompensation is equal to desperation and can also show you are not comfortable being on your own. If you are concerned about showing your worth and how much you can offer a man, this indicates poor self-esteem.

StoryShot #2: Nice Girls Are Treated Like Doormats

Everyone knows a “nice girl.” She is the woman who will overcompensate and is willing to give everything to a man without him having to invest much. This existence can be described as being like a doormat. Every woman, at some point, has been there. Sherry recommends adopting 100 attraction principles to start moving away from being a doormat and becoming a dream girl. In this summary, we are focusing on the nine most important principles.

StoryShot #3: Anything a Person Chases in Life Runs Away

Sherry builds on the idea of desperation by using an analogy. If you run after a man or a relationship with too much effort, this will only put him off. You can never assume you are putting enough effort in to receive his love. In fact, putting too much effort in will actually push him further away from you.

StoryShot #4: Avoid Becoming Needy

Instead of being exceptional, women who are extremely popular with men are often the ones who don’t appear to care that much. Despite all the generic relationship books, relationships aren’t a game. They should not be a battle of those who can manipulate the other best. Instead, relationships are about whether you are needy or self-assured enough to show your worth. Showing a man that you will be an equal partner in a relationship, expecting and giving, is attractive. It shows you are capable of holding your own.

StoryShot #5: Don’t Be Scared to Say You Are Bored

To keep men interested, women have to provide a mental challenge. Being mentally challenging does not mean women should be verbally combative. Women should instead limit how much of themselves they are willing to give up for a man.

The time you spend with a man is telling. After only one week, the “nice” girl will sit in a chair, watching a man do something that she finds utterly boring. For example, watching him playing a video game. She is miserable, but she won’t say anything to him. She puts up with this so that she can be in his company. The “bitch” won’t be scared to explain her boredom. This isn’t bad, as the man will now know he cannot walk all over her.

StoryShot #6: Unpredictability Keeps Men Interested

As well as reacting to desperation, men will also push women to realize how much they are willing to do for them. They will push the boundaries of what they are allowed to do as well. If the woman reacts emotionally and always does so, then he’ll feel in control. If she is unpredictable, she will remain a mental challenge. This unpredictability will keep the man interested. When you become predictable, he’s more likely to give you the same type of love he had for his mother. So, the odds that he will take you for granted increase.

StoryShot #7: Learn How Humans Behave and React

The most important part of being a “bitch” is to learn how humans behave and react accordingly. One of the fundamental behaviors to understand is that men will always want what they can’t have. Men like women who are self-assured as well. So, women should not put themselves down.

StoryShot #8: Maintain Your Confidence

Insecurity can make anybody look ugly. Even the most beautiful woman can look ugly if she has no confidence. As a woman, you should notice that a man pursuing you means he finds you attractive. Remember that and adopt a confident attitude.

StoryShot #9: Don’t Use Self-Comparisons

As well as being self-confident in yourself, you must not compare yourself. Comparing yourself to other women is demeaning. This includes not telling men when you feel threatened by another attractive or impressive woman.

Criticism

It’s important to note that Why Men Love Bitches is meant to be a guide and may not necessarily apply to everyone’s experiences or relationships. Some people may find the advice in the book to be helpful, while others may disagree with the author’s perspectives.

It may reinforce gender stereotypes and promote a narrow view of what is “attractive” or desirable in relationships. The book is written from a heterosexual perspective and the advice is based on the premise that men are naturally more dominant and women are more submissive, which may not be true for all individuals or relationships.

The advice in the book should be considered in the context of your own values and goals. You should be careful not to compromise your own well-being in pursuit of any particular relationship dynamic.

Some readers may find the language and tone of the book to be confrontational or overly blunt. The author uses strong and direct language to make her points, which may not be to everyone’s taste.

Rating

We rate this book 4.2/5.

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