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I am 27 and I have two major events happening in my life: my parents recently got divorced, and I am transferring from community college to a university. I am terrified of growing up and the unknown.
I am worrying that my youth is almost at an end. I don’t know how to cope. On one hand I am excited, it’s just the fear of the unknown and change.
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I'm 30 and I struggle with anxiety, especially the unknown or when it comes to big changes.
What helps me get through it is to remember all of the amazing things in my life that have occurred because I left my comfort zone, or pushed through a scary change.
Sure, there's the initial periods of discomfort and awkwardness. But almost all of my best memories or pivotal life moments came from putting myself out there and being uncomfortable.
I almost never regret doing the things that initially seem scary to me, they always lead to learning new things, meeting new people, experiencing cool things, becoming a better version of me.
You will get through it and come out the other side with a new view on life. Best of luck ✨
I know how you feel. I transferred from a CC to a uni last year and I was definitely terrified of the unknown. But the good news is it’s actually not much different at all! Universities are also better equipped to deal with all kinds of things, like a lot of them provide free psychological services for students, you could look into it to help you deal with your anxiety and worries.
Also, unis typically foster much more of a “community” feeling than community colleges (despite the name lol). My suggestion is to try and hang out on campus just to get into the vibe of it – take in-person classes, get food at cafes on campus if you have them, find cozy spots to study, a lot of people also recommend clubs based on your interests (it’s not really my thing but it might be yours!). It all felt scary and foreign to me at first, but this is my second semester at a uni and I’m actually having a good time being in this environment. It’s a very unique opportunity – take advantage of it! :)
I'm curious about your sentence "I'm worrying that my youth is almost at an end" . Can you expand more on that?
I feel like 30 is like “the age”. Like it looks old written out. I have met so many youthful people in their 30s though.
I read something recently that talked about aging as the process of finding yourself. That as you get older, you learn who you are and stop doing things that don't suit you. Do you feel dramatically different from how you felt when you turned 20?
I'm 31 and I can honestly say that I feel no different as a person than I did even 20 years ago
There is this dumb idea that people are supposed to have everything figured out by 30 and be successful at their career. Or that your 20s is the only time in your life where you are allowed to have fun and be playful. That my friend is capitalist and ableist bullshit. The message behind that pressure, is that you will never be happy if you don’t achieve measurable outward economic success. But we know that money doesn’t make you happy, as long as your basic needs are met, it is the quality of your relationships that make you happy. You are also free to do fun things your entire life and they absolutely are not any less fun when you are over 30. You also don’t have to do all the fun things there are to do.
You are dealing with a lot, give yourself some grace and patience. Understand what goals matter to you personally, not what you are supposed to be doing at your age. And take small steps to work towards your goals. You do not have to reach any of those goals before 30.