This morning, a piece of news was like thunder on the ground, stirring up waves:
, a model couple who always regarded themselves as affectionate, Feng Shaofeng and Zhao Liying, unexpectedly divorced!
I am not a person who pays particular attention to entertainment news, after all, I am not young anymore. According to my vague impression, they did the same a few years ago when they suddenly announced marriage and pregnancy.
Throughout the years of the entertainment industry, there are not a few celebrity couples who have been playing the love card at first, but ended up in a hasty divorce. Just count them:
Yang Mi and Hawick Liu, Ai Fukuhara and Hongjie Jiang, Yao Chen and Xiaosu Ling , Ma Yili and article , Li Xiaolu and Jia Nailiang... etc., are all divorced suddenly. The dog food sprinkled when they dispersed is still vivid, and the children are still young. The short marriages of these celebrities
really complied with the poem. This marriage is like "a spring dream is not long, and there is nowhere to look for the clouds", leaving only the spectators to sigh for a while.
In fact, not only the couples in the entertainment industry are easy to divorce, divorce has become a common phenomenon in this era.
Every middle-aged person over the age of 35 will find that news of divorce of friends continues to spread around him, and there are many loving couples who have always had the best relationships, which is shocking. There is no lack of bloody plots, and more are peaceful breakups.
Through the increasingly common divorce phenomenon, I have the following inspirations.
gathers little and more, and is the number one enemy of marriage
After getting married, they form a family. A home should have the breath of fireworks to be complete.
After work every day, I bring out the hot soup from the kitchen, and the whole family eats and chats around the table. The days go by and the heart gets closer together.
On the other hand, if the husband and wife fall apart for a long time, each is busy, and there is no time to take care of each other, and they don't know how they are at work and what troubles they have in life. After a long time, the relationship will inevitably fade, and the other party will gradually become unnecessary.
Why are so many celebrities divorced? The simplest reason is simple:
The nature of work has led to years of filming outside, and there is very little time at home, which is quite lonely at first. There are many Yingyings and temptations around me. I think about it. Know that things are easy to happen.
Even the official announcement today is no exception. They themselves said:
This is why we often see the news that "one party is filming, the other party is filming, and the other party's crew members". , By the way, check a post is true.
But even so, it still can't stop the fact that there is little gathering and more separation, and the feelings are unsustainable. For many stars, the emotional drama at home will come to an abrupt end after a big drama is filmed.
For ordinary people, for the sake of family stability, we must not be a long-term business trip maniac, overtime maniac, and entertainment maniac. If there is no guarantee that even going home to sleep for a long time, the intimacy of husband and wife will of course be lost. If
is due to the nature of the job (firefighters, doctors, etc.), you should also try to make up for your usual debts during the holidays, and be mindful and honest to give your partner a sense of security and satisfaction.
For long-term separation of married couples due to work, we must find a way to solve the problem of different places, discuss together, and exchange one party’s sacrifice for long-term reunion and stability.
Don't believe in the nonsense of "As long as there is love, distance is not a problem". People are animals first, but animals will be lonely and unbearable, and they will crave warmth and company.
. Even if the two of them are handsome and want to get married as soon as possible, they must get married as soon as possible. People in the world have completely different perspectives. In a marriage like
, any completely different views and attitudes towards things will lead to emotional rifts.
This kind of crack may be fine in the short term, but in the long run, it will definitely break out many years later. There are many determinants of
, such as economic conditions, native family, education level, etc., given that it is difficult for us to take a person’s heart and take a closer look, a safer method that is not easy to step on thunder is :
Don't look for people whose background is too different from your own growth.
For example, in the article I wrote before ("The Sorrow of Poverty Alleviation Marriage"), the male protagonist thinks that it is only right that he has money to help rural parents, while the female protagonist thinks that his parents' subsidy is to feed the dog, which is typical Marriage rift caused by the disagreement of the three views.
Before you get married, you must talk to each other about your views on various things in life, and make sure that the three views of both of you are on the same channel.
If you find that you like fish but he likes cats, he likes the sky and he loves the ocean more, and the contradiction is too big to be reconciled, then you should leave each other's life as early as possible. The three views are different and don't need to be strong.
Marriage is most afraid of boring gourd
We all know that we all know that we have to sit down and communicate with each other so that we can solve the differences and understand the difference.
But some people just don't like to talk. They are dull, and they refuse to express themselves when they ask him anything. They secretly think that they only need to express their heart with actions. A typical representative of
is Chen Yu in "Thirty Only". It is really a true portrayal of many men, who just relied on his ability to cool down the hot days.
Whether his wife is depressed, acting coquettishly, or trying to be affectionate, he is a dead fish, posing a lazy refusal to communicate.
He is indeed a good man. He knows how to care about people in his actions, but he always makes surprises behind his back and cares quietly. Who will notice?
Humans are more advanced than animals. We have a talking mouth. This is not a decoration. If you have an idea in your heart, you have to say it so that others will know it.
There are also some couples around me. The emotional rift is deep, and the marriage is on the verge of collapse. In the original intention of saving, we outsiders split up to chat with them, only to find that-
they dislike each other, most of which are just misunderstandings.
For example, a wife complains about her husband, saying that she has a fever while lying in bed and the other person is not indifferent.But the husband said that he just didn't want to disturb her and let her take a good rest.
For example, a husband thinks that his wife is disrespectful to his mother, saying that his mother has brought them children for so many years, and his wife always pays for granted.
The wife is very wronged: have you ever thought about who bought the clothes she wears, the mobile phone she uses, and the air conditioner in her hometown?
There are many things, but it is a trivial matter, and it will pass quickly; if you are bored in your heart, it will ferment and swell, and it will explode one day.
The growth rate is different, which is a difficult problem for marriage
If one of the couples retreats in career and economy, this is not even the same for the other party.
If one party climbs high and fast, it is easier to see better people on a better platform. The experience and vision will be very different.
The other party turns around in place, and seeing the other party getting better and better, the growing gap will give rise to anxiety, suspiciousness, and low self-esteem.
are evenly matched, you are strong and I am strong, you are enterprising and I have self-confidence, this is the best appearance of marriage.
A typical example is the Yao Chen and Ling Xiaosu. When they were in love at university, they were both poor students. Not long after they got married, Yao Chen made a big hit with "Wulin Biography", but , Ling Xiaosu, and were still tepid, and it didn't take long for the two to fall apart.
Therefore, I have always tried my best to oppose the female friends around me to bring a baby at home full-time, and I also oppose the practice of resigning and rest (except for mines at home).
In his thirties, the other party’s career has developed the fastest for a few years, but you actively choose to press the pause button for yourself. The gap between the two will definitely increase and the conversation will become less and less on the same channel. , How can such a marriage last?
Of course, even if two people have their own careers, it is impossible to keep in step at all times. It is normal to have strengths and weaknesses.
The strong side should take into account the feelings of the other side, and at the same time share resources in the career and extend a hand; the weak side should also build up self-confidence, catch up, and try to narrow the gap.
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