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Welcome, fellow Buffy fans! This community is dedicated to Buffy the Vampire Slayer. If you haven't watched through the entirety of both "Buffy" and "Angel," there will most likely be a lot of spoilers. Read at your own risk! For as long as there have been vampires, there has been the Slayer. One girl in all the world, a Chosen One...


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Parallels of real life and seeing red

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Trigger warning mentions of rape and sexual assault.

I was 19 during season 6. I didn't watch season 6 as it aired. I was going through too much of my life to watch it live however I did watch reruns over the summer. There have been so many parallels to the trauma I experienced when I was 19 to the trauma Buffy experienced in season 6.

Season 6 ended the last day of May 2002. I had many minor sexual assaults during this time that culminated in a rape on June 23rd of 2002. I ended up not seeing Seeing Red until late summer. Right around the time I was coerced into having an abortion.

Like Buffy, I was lost that year. I was hanging out with people who I thought needed help but they were just pulling me down. Buffy was brought back from heaven by her friends, I was sent to hell by mine. Every time I tried to get away from these people they would call me panicked and in need rescue.

I never fit in and that year I really felt like I didn't belong anywhere. I just left high School and was going to college. I had just moved the year prior from where I lived for 5 years to a completely different state. I felt like I couldn't adjust to life in this place.

I was acting out a lot like Willow. I was always the responsible one. The one everybody else came to. And when I hit my late teens, 18-19, I wanted to go out and do things with people. I was an adult and I didn't have to have permission to do things I just had to tell somebody I was doing things, at least in my mind. Forever being the good girl and finally having a little bit of power a little bit of responsibility and I abused it.

My family didn't believe what had happened to me, just like Xander initially tried to blame Buffy for what happened to her.

Season 6 is about growing up and facing the harshness of this world. And for some reason I was learning just how horrible this world can be at the same time Buffy did.

She defeats demons every week but the hardest demons to overcome are the ones in our own minds.

Season 7 by comparison had so much hope for the future. I'm still drawn to season 7 for that. I can't watch season 6 still. I work so hard to try to leave that chapter in my life behind me and season 6 takes me back 22 years.

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Superlative media like Buffy can indeed have an effect like that.

Probably why certain works (Salo) become controversial in the first place; people either relate to it from personal experiences and want to hold it at arms’ length or fear the imminent revisiting/return of its themes?

So it becomes a kind of self-fulfilling prophecy, but for the individual perhaps more than society.

Well put. I'm sorry you went through all that. I can relate. There is something so universal about Buffy. Her courage and strength helped me get through a lot too.