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Leaving Home: The Art of Separating From Your Difficult Family Paperback – September 6, 2011
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Giving up family attachments that failed to meet our needs as children, David Celani argues, is the hardest psychological task an adult can undertake. Yet the reality is that many adults re-create the most painful aspects of their early relationships with their parents in new relationships with peers and romantic partners, frustrating themselves and discouraging them from leaving their family of origin. Leaving Home emphasizes the life-saving benefits of separating from destructive parents and offers a viable program for personal emancipation.
Celani's program is based on Object-Relations Theory, a branch of psychoanalysis developed by Scottish analyst Ronald Fairbairn. The human personality, Fairbairn argued, is not the result of inherited (and thus immutable) instincts. Rather, the developing child builds internal relational templates that guide his future interactions with others based on the conscious and unconscious memories he internalized from his primary relationship―the one he experienced with his parents. While a child's attachment to parents who were neglectful or even abusive is not uncommon, there is a way out. Articulate, sensitive, and replete with examples from Celani's twenty-six years of clinical practice, this book outlines the practical steps to leaving home.
- Print length176 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherColumbia University Press
- Publication dateSeptember 6, 2011
- Dimensions5.5 x 0.6 x 8.2 inches
- ISBN-100231134770
- ISBN-13978-0231134774
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Full of compassion encouragement, this book will prepare readers to leave home and to live a life free of interpersonal failures. ― Library Journal
Ambitious... The writing is straightforward and agreeable. -- Harriette Kaley ― PsycCRITIQUES
Sophisticated and challenging... This book offers guidance and encouragement without the watered-down platitudes found elsewhere. -- Paul Efthim ― New England Psychologist
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- Publisher : Columbia University Press; Reprint edition (September 6, 2011)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 176 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0231134770
- ISBN-13 : 978-0231134774
- Item Weight : 8 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.5 x 0.6 x 8.2 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #373,183 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #360 in Parent & Adult Child Relationships (Books)
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This book starts with a story about a young man who is good looking, talented, and just can't seem to grow into his own independent life--he buys a house right next door to his parents, who never really gave him what he wanted. Why move closer to those who you know aren't going to give you what you need? This paradoxical situation is explained very well.
This would be a great book for people who have chosen a few partners who berated or undermined.
Would be great for ACoAs to get a better grasp on how the inconsistent parenting leads to odd behaviors in the children, now adults.
I will be rereading this book many times and I hope for the healing and change of life that I need. I hope that the deep wisdom and truth resonates to help me continue to change and to stop, once and for all, expecting to find any love in my birth family. It does not exist there, it never did.
Thank you David Celani - just don't have enough words to express my appreciation. I hope that you have another book I can read to help continue this evolution towards healing.
Perhaps not as useful as a therapeutic guide, but certainly enlightening with regards to understanding dysfunctional family relations and their origins, and it has the potential to make you question your own parenting choices. Minimal jargon and easy to read.