‎Pillow Talks on Apple Podcasts

157 episodes

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

Pillow Talks Vanessa & Xander Marin

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.9 • 257 Ratings

Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!

    Come on a Double Date with Us! (“Know Ya Boo” Part 2)

    Come on a Double Date with Us! (“Know Ya Boo” Part 2)

    Welcome to our 2nd round of “Know Ya Boo” (bonus points if you get the Parks and Rec reference). Grab your partner, pull up a chair, pour your favorite cocktail or mocktail, and come on a double date with us!
    You guys gave us 50 questions, and our job was to guess each other’s answers. The results had us in stitches from start to finish. Make sure you listen all the way through to get the scoop on which one of us comes out on top.
    Afterwards, you can play your own version of Know Ya Boo with your partner. DM us with how it went, and if you beat our scores!
    Thanks Cozy Earth. CozyEarth.com and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS

    • 54 min
    What To Do When It’s Been A While… (The Dry Spell Episode)

    What To Do When It’s Been A While… (The Dry Spell Episode)

    What do you do when it’s been a while…
    When you don’t remember the last time you had sex. When the idea of initiating feels even more awkward than usual. When you’re not sure if your partner is missing it the same way you are.
    In this episode, we’re breaking down why dry spells happen in the first place and telling you exactly how to get back on the horse. We’ll even answer the big question… do we NEED to have sex?
    Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow.

    • 38 min
    Am I The A*****e? In-Laws Edition

    Am I The A*****e? In-Laws Edition

    We’re back again with another edition of Am I The A*****e. This time around we’re talking about your trickiest in-law related situations.

    We’re covering stories about dietary preferences, back-handed compliments, dinner table mishaps, and so much more.

    If you’ve ever wondered if you’re the a*****e when it comes to your in-laws, our unfiltered takes are here to help you decide.

    Links & Resources:
    Visit our Homepage

    If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

    Thanks StoryWorth. Get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/pillow

    • 1 hr
    How To Stop Feeling Resentment In Your Relationship

    How To Stop Feeling Resentment In Your Relationship

    A few weeks ago we asked our community if they felt resentment in their relationship and only 29% said no!

    Resentment doesn’t feel good for either partner, and it can lead to things like more stress, less sex, and lots of other serious consequences in your relationship.

    We decided it was time to create an episode breaking down what resentment is, where it comes from, and how to overcome it in your relationship.

    Links & Resources:
    Guide: Mental Load Workbook (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/)
    Visit our Homepage (http://vmtherapy.com/)

    If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!

    • 48 min
    The Secret Foreplay Technique You Don’t Even Know About

    The Secret Foreplay Technique You Don’t Even Know About

    Imagine this… you’re crawling into bed at the end of the night, thinking, “Hmmm sex sounds nice.”
    We hate to break it to you, but you’re too late! You needed to have been planning for this much earlier in the day. You needed to be using our unique approach to foreplay.
    Most of us think of foreplay as the stuff we do for 30 seconds before we move on to intercourse, but it’s so much more than that. Today we’re telling you about the magic of all-day, non-sexual foreplay.
    Links & Resources:
    Course: Art Of Initiation
    Challenge: The Connection Challenge
    If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
    Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.
    Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/pillow.

    • 42 min
    Breaking Down A Text Fight

    Breaking Down A Text Fight

    You’ve had a fight over text message with your partner, right? Most of us have! Maybe you sent a text to your partner that was a little too snarky, or maybe you read too much into a message. Odds are your text fight did not end well…
     
    Today we’re breaking down a real text fight one of our followers sent in. It started off as a fight over facial hair, but like most fights do, evolved into something much deeper. We covered topics like body confidence, broken trust, and validation. We point out the things they did right, and the ways things went oh so wrong. You’ll get a fascinating sneak peek into another couple’s conflict, plus tons of communication tips along the way.
     
    Links & Resources:
    Our Instagram: @vanessandxander (https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander/)
     
    If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
     
    Thanks, Green Chef! Go to GreenChef.com/60pillow (http://www.greenchef.com/60pillow) and use code 60pillow to get 60% off, plus 20% off your next 2 months

    • 55 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
257 Ratings

257 Ratings

emsiemuffin ,

Amazing!!!

I found this podcast after reading Sex Talks and I LOVE IT. It is very approachable and I love how the topics cover a large variety of relationships topics. I take something away from every episode and it has already had a positive influence on my relationship with my husband. Love love love!!!!

agent nipps ,

love this podcast

I love the language used and the way information is presented and relayed, so informative, friendly, non intimidating, non shaming, just really good vibes from this podcast. I’m also reading the book ‘sex talks’ with my partner and I feel so seen! this book was exactly what I was needing! thanks guys!

Feudgirl ,

Amazing

You two have such a great way of making sex talks easy! The dynamic you give to us listeners is fantastic and I appreciate you “touching” on so many subjects!

I feel as a woman in her 40’s I am just finding out who I am sexually as it’s felt like we were really pushed/groomed by so many outside factors in life to believe sex was about mainly the man and his pleasure… now it’s a new world and I can’t wait for the second half of my life to be about both of us!

Please never stop talking sex!!!

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