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MIL got me nothing for first Mother’s Day

missingmycoffee33

Anyone else’s MILs get them no gifts for Mother’s Day? I only received a card that was very generic and seemed last minute. I got her 3 gifts related to being a grandparent for mothers day.

I’m certainly not expecting anything for future mothers days, but it would have been nice to be acknowledged for the first one. she always calls my baby “the best thing and only thing that makes her happy” ��

I wasn’t expecting much but for my 1st Mother’s Day maybe even flowers would have been nice.

Maybe I’m wrong in thinking here? She made the celebration all about her, barely acknowledged it was my first Mother’s Day.

Let me know if I’m totally in the wrong here and I’ll try to change my thinking! ��

I don’t understand MILs.

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savvvymom

I didn’t even get a text or a phone call but I’d rather it be that way!

grumpyberry

My MIL never gets me anything. Maybe a text to say "happy mother's day". I don't normally get her anything either. Maybe pick up a card for my DH to give her if I'm already out.

My DH and my kids do small stuff for me (cards, flowers, candy). I don't expect anything from anyone else.

I also chose not to spend the day with anyone if I can avoid it! We might eat with our moms one day close to mothers day. On the actual day, I try to do as little as possible.

raccoonmama

I don't think it's typical for anyone other than your spouse/children to actually get you a gift for Mother's Day - I'm sure it happens, but I wouldn't say it's the norm or soemthing to expect. My husband got me something from him and the kids and celebrated me, but my mom and MIL both just told me Happy Mother's Day and that was it and totally in-line with my expectation. In my experience and social/family group, it seems typical that you get your mom a gift and card, and maybe cards for grandmothers, and then just simply wish other moms Happy Mother's Day (so only gifting up to your own mom).

It sounds like her card was more than I would personally expect, but every group is different. It is weird to not acknowledge you as a mother at a celebration though. It's polite to wish you Happy Mother's Day and include you as one of the mothers being honored.

samb11

I don’t think you should expect gifts or even a Happy Mothers Day from anyone other than your spouse and kids. You’re not her mom, why would she get you a gift? It’s nice when people wish you a Happy Mothers Day, but I would not expect or hold it against anyone who doesn’t.

You also shouldn’t get her a gift, she’s not your mom and she’s not your kids mom! Next year don’t get her S**t!

Also, I wouldn’t celebrate with her on actual Mothers Day anymore, you’re also a mom now so it should be a day about you not her. Your husband can go visit her the day before or sometime during the day by himself.