Why did God gave us men so much more sex drive/lust?

if no one felt like procreating we'd probably have severly low populations.


it's the mans job to "hurry it along"

its not really true, women often have just as high sex drives.

Windmill said:

its not really true, women often have just as high sex drives.

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agreed!

I believe the problem lies not with our God-given sex drive, but with the corruption thereof bought about by the Fall and the enemy's use of said corruption as a weapon.

Consider a man's sexuality in a purely Godly light; this is harder than it sounds, because a vast majority of men don't know anything other than the misinformation they have been taught. The world teaches than a man's sexuality is for pleasure and domination, to run free and wild. The church has long agreed with this (even if by the simple measure of not disagreeing), and taught that a man's sexuality is inherently lustful and something that must be bought to rein.

You see what this has caused? Good, Godly men believe that within them is something that cannot be reformed, but instead must be suppressed and hidden in shame. This is wholly false and has destroyed many a good man, both when they fail to contain various lusts and when they emasculate themselves by crushing the very thing that God intended to strengthen them.

The easiest way to calm a stallion (male horse) is to geld it; literally to cut off it's sexual organs. Stallions are far more aggressive, have a greater urge to fight and mate. Geldings (a male horse with bits missing...) are quieter, less aggressive and easier to control; but they lack spirit, they have been broken.

A man's sexuality is supposed to give him strength. Strength to protect, provide and to love, strength that must be harnessed and trained in Godliness, not gelded because we fear it. If we truly wish to become Godly men, of purity and strength, then we must learn to harness our sexuality, not banish it to some cage to be starved to death. We must seek to yield our sexuality fully to God and purity; this allows it to grow in the way He intended.

As a man who has fought and continues to fight for purity and Godliness in his sexuality I tell you; this is perhaps one of the hardest things you will do. The world will assault you daily with it's lusts, and the ingrained patterns of a life built in the over-sexualised western world will fight for control of your mind. Yet what I have found, as little purity as I have attained, it is so precious to me. It is this battle that has turned me from a male of God into a Man of God, and I would have it no other way.

You don't hear men asking those questions to a woman - and they shouldn't b/c it would be highly inappropriate. However, a lot of women talk about sex almost as frequently as men do.

I don't think God gave men more sexual desire than He did to women. I think 1) boys are brought up to nurture, increase, and enjoy their sexuality to the maximum extent, and 2) our society is completely over-sexed, and mostly geared towards the guys, which only exacerbates the issue.

I DO think men are wired a bit differently than women, though not to the extreme extent most people would like to believe. I do think men are more visually tuned, when it comes to arousal, but not "way, way more" than women, as is popularly believed.

I think men and women are equally sexual, though they approach it differently.

Pyrogenesis said:

A man's sexuality is supposed to give him strength. Strength to protect, provide and to love, strength that must be harnessed and trained in Godliness, not gelded because we fear it. If we truly wish to become Godly men, of purity and strength, then we must learn to harness our sexuality, not banish it to some cage to be starved to death. We must seek to yield our sexuality fully to God and purity; this allows it to grow in the way He intended.

As a man who has fought and continues to fight for purity and Godliness in his sexuality I tell you; this is perhaps one of the hardest things you will do. The world will assault you daily with it's lusts, and the ingrained patterns of a life built in the over-sexualised western world will fight for control of your mind. Yet what I have found, as little purity as I have attained, it is so precious to me. It is this battle that has turned me from a male of God into a Man of God, and I would have it no other way.

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Excellently put.

20MoreMiles said:

It causes so much imbalance in many relationships..... and when you don't have one, it's just a pain. I as much have to see an attractive lady with big shoulders and automatically the purely sexual lust starts, before even knowing her, let alone marriage after when it's allowed. I don't act upon it, and i don't "choose" to feel it either. What was the purpose of this? Sometimes it drives me crazy!

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Ummmm, God didn't give men more sex drive than women. Women have just as much sex drive as men.

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Then why is it that it is always men watching porn? Men hearing "you're not getting any for a week" ? Men hearing "did you get any tonight?" from a friend?

How often do you hear a man asking a girl those last two questions?

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To your first question: because it's easy for a man to achieve sexual arousal from a visual image; he finds a relatively quick, easy, and secretive way to feel physical pleasure, and it quickly becomes an addictive behavior, often accompanied by guilt, shame, embarrassment, and other emotional problems. And don't be deceived; there are a LOT of women who become addicted to porn as well, though it's not as prevalent as in men because it generally takes more than a visual image to arouse a woman.

To the second question: I'm assuming you're referring to a wife saying that sort of thing to her husband. Would YOU want to have sex with someone you were upset with? Women can't enjoy sex (most of the time anyway) if they aren't feeling it with both body AND heart. So if there's a big fight happening in the marriage, it doesn't make sense that sex would also be happening.

To your third quesiton: Because guys (in general) consider sexual prowess and frequency to equal manliness. Is that stupid? Yes. Is it still the norm? Yes.

You don't hear those sorts of things from women as often, because women don't use sex as an affirmation of their identity the way guys do.

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Then why is it that it is always men watching porn? Men hearing "you're not getting any for a week" ? Men hearing "did you get any tonight?" from a friend?

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I work at a place where I'm the only man for most of the time. And some of the girls do indeed talk like this - bragging about their sexual exploits, talking about how a guy is a 'hottie', etc... I hear it all the time. In fact, I've heard some pretty nasty stuff from women...

As for watching porn, I know for a fact that plenty of girls do (of course Christians, male or female, definitely shouldn't - not that it's good for anyone else to either).

20MoreMiles said:

How often do you hear a man asking a girl those last two questions?

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Discussions like this are between 2 males, or 2 females generally. Some people are more open to the opposite sex, but most don't talk like this to the opposite sex.

Seriously, this is one of my biggest pet peeves, especially with some in the Christian community. Guys would also do well to know this.

Women deal with exactly the same things we do. Their sex drive/lust is just as high, they are no different in this regard.

Alot of guys have trouble with women because they put them on a pedestal, but the fact is, women struggle with sex/lust, and have problems, and aren't perfect, the same as us men. And if anyone tells you diffferent, they're lying to you.

I think he did it so we would seek out a Godly relationship. Being given buckets and buckets of sex drive isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Women lust and have sex drives just as high as men do... As long as we'll flesh and blood, both sexes will have this problem.

I think it should be noted that while men and women have equally powerful desires for affection and intimacy (AKA sex lol), their motives for sex and what they get out of sex, are as different as the two genders. So guys, don't make the mistake of thinking a woman's sexuality, while just as real as yours, is the SAME as yours. And women, vice versa. God made us different, and praise God that He did, lol.

20MoreMiles said:

Then why is it that it is always men watching porn? Men hearing "you're not getting any for a week" ? Men hearing "did you get any tonight?" from a friend?

How often do you hear a man asking a girl those last two questions?

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lol, you haven't heard the things women talk about amongst themselves.

And it would be insanely rude and offensive for men to ask women those questions, just as it would be rude for women to ask them of men. But talking about it amongst their own sex? Yeah... women are just as bad.

I must be one of the few women who thinks my sex life is nobody else's business, including my friends and family.

I don't think there is any correlation between gender and sex drive at all. My last girl was a bomb waiting to explode at all times.

Inkabink said:

I must be one of the few women who thinks my sex life is nobody else's business, including my friends and family.

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Nah, I'm the same. I don't like discussing anything, from "oh, boy and I cuddled and watched movies last night" to "he kissed me! he kissed me!" I like to keep it privte.