12 FREE Sample Obituary Outlines for Online or Newspaper
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Writing your loved one’s obituary can be a heartbreaking and challenging experience. After all, how do you sum up a life well lived in a few hundred words?
We’ll help you learn how to write an obituary by giving you a sample outline to fill in with your loved one’s specific information. Since you can approach obituary writing in a variety of ways, we include six sample obituary outlines to consider.
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Even though most obituaries read like a newspaper account of a person’s death, that doesn’t mean that they need to be completely devoid of emotion. Consider how you can personalize your loved one’s obituary to tell others that someone special has died.
Obituary Outlines for a Newspaper
Most newspapers charge a per-word fee to print an obituary. They may also charge more if you choose to have a photograph printed with the obituary. For this reason, some families choose to have two different versions. They print a shorter version in the newspaper to inform community members about the death and let interested parties learn the service details. You may want to publish the longer one on the funeral home’s website or share it in the funeral program.
Read through our three sample outlines for a short obituary.
1. Chronological obituary
Many obituaries tell the chronological story of the person who died. Read our simple outline of this type of obituary.
[Identification of the deceased]: Identify the person who died. Give as many details as possible to identify the person so that readers won’t confuse your loved one’s death with someone who has a similar name.
Many obituaries include the deceased’s full name, maiden name, nicknames, age, and city of residence, like this: Gabriella “Gabby” Michelle (Ruiz) Smith, 83, of Omaha, died in her home on Monday, December 14, 2020.
[Early life]: You may consider including details of your loved one’s early life in the obituary, including place of birth, parents’ names, and siblings.
[Education and/or training]: To help identify the person who died, you may consider including the name of the educational institutions they attended. You may also include information about your loved one’s brief time in military service in this section of the obituary.
[Marriage]: You may consider including the deceased’s marriage details. Give the name of the spouse and the date of their marriage. You may choose to include details of marriages that ended in divorce, or you may decide to leave this information out.
[Children]: Include children’s names at this point in the obituary, or they may be listed later as survivors (or those who preceded your family member in death). Some families lump all children in one category, while others may label certain family members as stepchildren.
[Occupation]: If your loved one’s career was a central focus of her life, this section of the obituary might be rather lengthy. Most people do not write a complete list of jobs but may generally state how the deceased earned a living.
Remember, you are not writing your loved one’s resume. Still, you may want to include any service awards or honoraries earned in the course of your loved one’s career.
[Organizations and memberships]: How did your loved one spend her free time? Write about the organizations, clubs, or groups that they belonged to during her life. You may also want to include hobbies and interests in this section of the obituary.
[Survivors]: Include a list of people (usually the spouse, children, grandchildren, and siblings) who survived the deceased.
[Funeral service details]: Give the details of the funeral service. Include the day, date, time, and address. You may also give specific requests in this section of the obituary, such as what organizations your loved one wished to support as a part of her memorial fund.
2. Interest or special skills obituary
Some families choose to write more about their loved ones’ personality traits instead of their education or careers. Here is an outline for this type of obituary.
[Identification of the deceased]: Identify the person who died in as much detail as necessary. Some people choose to include the cause of death, while other families do not disclose this information.
[Brief biographical information]: Include a brief account of the deceased’s city of residence, profession, and marriage details.
[Description of interests or special skills]: Include exciting information about your loved one’s hobbies or special skills. Maybe your loved one was an avid baker, a rock climber, a member of a cover band, or a poet. Maybe this wasn’t how your loved one earned a living, but it was how they liked to spend their free time.
[Survivors]: You may also include family members who preceded your loved one in death in this section of the obituary.
[Details about the funeral service]: Include all the details for the funeral service open to the public. Do you want all the funeral attendees to wear a specific color to the service? Include those instructions in this section.
3. Obituary that focuses on the personality of your loved one
[Identification of the deceased]
[Brief biographical information]
[Description of the personality of the deceased]: Was your dad the life of the party? Was your mom passionate about saving stray pets? Perhaps your loved one lived a life of service or was an avid traveler and adrenaline junkie. Include details about what made this person special
4. Obituary for a parent or grandparent
If you are tasked with writing the obituary for a person who was a parent and/or grandparent, you would most likely include the names of at least the children in the obituary.
This can be done in a variety of ways. For example, you could include the list of children in the middle of the text if you are writing a chronological account of the deceased. However, others may not mention any children until they write the list of survivors.
Some families lump all children in the same category, while others may label certain family members as stepchildren. Some families may refer to the number of grandchildren (or great-grandchildren) instead of listing out individual names to reduce the number of words.
5. Obituary for a sibling
Use one of the previous outlines to write the obituary for a sibling. Typically, siblings are listed in either the “survived by” or “preceded in death” section of an obituary. However, if you were especially close to your sibling, you may start the obituary in this manner:
Sally Jane Smith, beloved sister and friend, left this world on Monday, September 22, 2020. Sally spent her entire life in South Dakota, where she enjoyed prairie views and wildlife sightings while surrounded by her loving family and friends.
6. Obituary for a partner or spouse
If you wish to highlight a person’s relationship with their partner or spouse in an obituary, you may do so by including details about the relationship.
For example, write how the couple met, where they went on their first date, or an interesting detail about their betrothal or marriage. Besides including the date of when the couple married, you might want to write about anniversary celebrations or trips, and how long the couple was together.
If you are writing the obituary for your partner or spouse, you might include personal (but not too personal) details about what attracted you to them.
7. Obituary for a child
Typically, one would not use a chronological obituary when writing one for a child. Instead, consider highlighting details about the child that made them unique or (in the case of a stillbirth) how their birth was highly anticipated.
Depending on the child’s age, you might write about their personality, such as “she had a fighting spirit,” “he loved everyone he met,” or “her smile lit up the room.”
Depending on the age of the child, you may also want to focus on their interests. For example, you could write about their love for “Paw Patrol, Legos, and Twizzlers” or “80s rock, Spanish class, and cruising with friends.”
8. Obituary for a friend
You may find yourself in the position where you are tasked with writing the obituary for a friend who is estranged from their family. Unfortunately, you may not know any details about the person’s earlier life, so writing a chronological obituary may not be an option.
If this describes the situation you are in, write what you know.
For example, “Everyone knew the party was about to begin when Bob arrived – especially if he brought his banjo. Bob would spend hours entertaining everyone with stories about growing up in the Midwest. He was a friend to many and will be greatly missed.”
9. Obituary for a pet
If writing an obituary for your pet gives you comfort, then you should certainly take the time to honor your pet in this manner.
Pet owners who write about the loss of a pet may write about their beloved companions’ favorite toys or activities. However, many of them focus on the emotions they experienced after the loss.
There are many pet memorial websites. Some require a subscription fee, but others are free. They are typically visited by others who are quick to offer comfort and sympathy as you face your loss.
Obituary Outlines for a Website or Social Media
Obituaries on funeral home websites may be longer than those printed in the newspaper, but other than that, they are often very similar. Read through some sample outlines of obituaries published on social media pages or funeral home websites.
You may also search for websites that will publish your loved one’s obituary for free, especially if the funeral home you chose does not provide that service.
10. Death announcement on social media
[Explanation of your relationship with the deceased]: When people announce a death on social media, they often lead with how they are related to the deceased. Sometimes this is followed with a link to the obituary published in a newspaper or funeral home website.
[Special memories of your loved one]: When writing about a loved one’s death on social media, you may choose to share unforgettable memories of your loved one. You may even decide to write it in the first person or say how you feel as a result of the death.
[Funeral details]: Your close friends and family members will want to know the details of your loved one’s funeral services. It is appropriate to share those on your social media page.
11. Funeral home website obituary
The funeral home that publishes the website may ask that you write the obituary in a specific format, or they may provide an obituary writing service for you.
[Identification of the deceased]
[Funeral details with special requests]
[Early life of the deceased]
[Marriage and children of the deceased]
[Career information]
[Memberships and organizations]
[Other interesting information about the deceased’s interests, hobbies, or personality]
12. Biographical sketch of the deceased
Some people choose to throw out the rule book when writing about their loved ones. For example, instead of writing an account of their loved one’s life that reads like a typical newspaper article, they may write a biographical sketch of the person, using specific examples of things their loved one said or did. They may also write about how the person made others feel.
Your social media account is a perfect platform for this type of writing. You may also consider writing a more personal statement on the life of the deceased to share with family members and close friends without the help of social media.
This type of obituary may feel a bit more like a eulogy. Consider using this outline example:
[Introduction]: Although you can format your biographical sketch any way you want, you might begin the essay with your purpose for writing it. You may want to write about your loved one so that you don’t forget the details that made the person special. You may also want to write about a deceased family member, so their descendants will understand what made them so special.
[Personality trait No. 1 (with examples)]: Describe your loved one in your own words, but then give examples and stories to make this person come alive in your writing.
[Personality trait No. 2 (with examples)]
[Personality trait No 3. (with examples)]
[Funeral information]
Places You Can Post an Obituary for a Loved One
You can post the obituary for a loved one in many different publications and on many different websites. However, if you have no experience in funeral planning, you may not be familiar with the steps required to publish an obituary.
Here are some places you can post an obituary for a loved one:
Newspaper
Some families choose to spread the word about a loved one’s death by publishing an obituary in the local newspaper (or perhaps multiple newspapers). It’s important to note that most newspapers require that the obituary be submitted by a funeral home or cremation provider. Additionally, most newspapers charge a per-word fee to print obituaries. Depending on the newspaper’s circulation, you may have to spend hundreds of dollars to publish the obit. In addition, there is often an additional fee if you wish to include a photo alongside the obituary.
Most newspapers will publish the obituary of your loved one in the print and online versions of the publication. In addition, some newspapers partner with Legacy, an obituary website.
Online memorial websites
There are quite a few memorial websites that allow you to create a remembrance page for a deceased loved one. Some of these websites also assist families with end-of-life event planning. This remembrance page may include the obituary of the deceased. In addition, these pages can be shared, and visitors are encouraged to post memories and photos of the deceased for all to see.
Funeral home or cremation provider websites
Most funeral homes or cremation providers post the obituaries of those under their care. Some staff may assist you with writing the obituary, while others will publish the obit you provide. Some charge an additional fee to write or post the obituary, but others include these services in their basic package.
Some funeral home obituary websites link to larger ones, especially if the funeral home is part of an extensive network with locations throughout the country. An example of this is the Dignity Memorial network of funeral homes, cemeteries, and cremation centers.
Industry publications
If your loved one was known in an industry or within a specific alumni group, you might consider publishing the news of their death within the publication.
Social media
You may consider writing the obituary about your loved one and posting it to your deceased loved one’s social media account. Even though this option is free, there is a benefit to posting the obituary of a loved one to a larger public forum because not everyone is connected on social media. If you wish to share details about the funeral, you’ll need to find a way to reach a wider audience.
Look at Obituary Examples Before You Write One for Your Loved One
As you sit down to write your loved one’s obituary, spend a few moments looking online for obituary examples.
Which ones appeal to you? For example, do you prefer more intimate obituaries that describe the person’s personality or concise ones that read like a newspaper report of a person’s death?
What formats would work best for your loved one's life? For example, does it make sense to write in chronological order, or would you rather begin the article in some other way?
Finally, remember to have someone else who knew your loved one proofread your writing for factual errors and grammatical mistakes. Regardless of what type of obituary you choose to write, you’ll want to ensure that this eternal testament to their life and passing is fully ready for print and reflects them in a way that you’re content with.
