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In 1982, Erika Schickel was expelled from her East Coast prep school for sleeping with a teacher. She was that girl—rebellious, precocious, and macking for love. Seduced, caught, and then whisked away in the night to avoid scandal, Schickel’s provocative, searing, and darkly funny memoir, The Big Hurt, explores the question, How did that girl turn out?
Schickel came of age in the 1970s, the progeny of two writers: Richard Schickel, the prominent film critic for TIME magazine, and Julia Whedon, a melancholy mid-list novelist. In the wake of her parents’ ugly divorce, Erika was packed off to a bohemian boarding school in the Berkshires.
The Big Hurt tells two coming-of-age stories: one of a lost girl in a predatory world, and the other of that girl grown up, who in reckoning with her past ends up recreating it with a notorious LA crime novelist, blowing up her marriage and casting herself into the second exile of her life.
The Big Hurt looks at a legacy of shame handed down through a maternal bloodline and the cost of epigenetic trauma. It shines a light on the haute culture of 1970s Manhattan that made girls grow up too fast. It looks at the long shadow cast by great, monstrously self-absorbed literary lives and the ways in which women pin themselves like beautiful butterflies to the spreading board of male ego.
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''Takes the vagaries and vicissitudes of the human heart and elevates them to the level of social, even political, inquiry. Erika Schickel is not just an interrogator of her own psyche but an interpreter of the times -- the current era as well as the decades that led us here.'' --Meghan Daum, author of The Problem with Everything --This text refers to the audioCD edition.
About the Author
Erika Schickel is the author of You're Not the Boss of Me: Adventures of a Modern Mom. Her essays and criticism have appeared in the Los Angeles Times, Los Angeles Review of Books, LA Weekly, Bust magazine, Salon, The Daily Beast, Huffington Post, The Chicago Tribune, and more.
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- Language : English
- File Size : 618 KB
- Publication date : August 10, 2021
- Date First Available : January 1, 1970
- Publisher : Hachette Books
- ASIN : B08PV3S5WC
- Best Sellers Rank: #872,470 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- #387 in Parenting Teenagers (Kindle Store)
- #1,402 in Parenting Girls
- #3,941 in Biographies & Memoirs of Women
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Erika Schickel’s vivid, brainy yet vulnerable, often hilariously heartfelt writing deftly exposes the well-known, yet often overlooked taboo subjects of women’s lives. Whether she’s divulging the boredom of mothering small children, exploring the breakthroughs of psychedelics, or exposing predatory boarding school teachers, she does so with heart, honesty, and humor.
She is the author of The Big Hurt (Hachette Books, 2021) and You’re Not the Boss of Me: Adventures of a Modern Mom (Kensington Books, 2007). She has taught memoir and essay writing at UCLA and privately. Her work has appeared in The Los Angeles Times, LA Weekly, LA City Beat, Salon, Ravishly, Tin House, Bust Magazine, and The LA Review of Books, among others.
She is also a trained actress, performing on-camera as well as off. In addition, she’s written and performed a number of one-woman shows and a radio play for the LA Theatre Works series: The Play’s the Thing. Erika lives outside of Los Angeles, CA.
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Erika comes from a family of writers. It was natural that she would follow a similar path. She was enamored with her father, well-known movie critic Richard Schickel, and novelist Julia Whedon. While she maintained a close relationship with her father, there was something a bit amiss. Her mother remained aloof, not providing the stability a young girl needs. When trouble arose, Erika was shipped off to boarding school. Sadly, school administrators could not fill the missing parental role.
Left to her own devices and without a consistent home to visit on breaks, Erika felt even more alone, leaving her vulnerable and prey to being taken advantage of. And that she was.
This is a pattern that would be repeated later in her life, when she was again susceptible, not knowing that she had been a victim of abuse in her teens.
From an elite Manhattan school to a secluded east coast boarding school, Schickel is made a victim of boys and men well before there was a name for the MeToo movement, then shamed for their actions rather than the other way around. The ramifications of abuse and dishonor follow her into adulthood when she succumbs to a man whose power exceeds her lack of self-worth.
Schickel’s candid ability to look back on her younger and more recent days, to analyze her marriage, infidelity, parenting, and relationship with her parents is insightful, deep, and not without self-critique. She has a lot of guts in putting herself out there with this book – laying herself bare, not shying away from her mistakes.
THE BIG HURT is a powerful look at a woman who owns her misfortunes, who is not merely the victim but also recognizes the trauma she endured, while summing it up sans sugar-coating.
We all deserve to be loved and love, healthily, be happy, be fulfilled with our life, and share ourselves wholly. I breathed a sigh of relief for her evolution as I read.
But there’s also a determination to not let the story end there. Eventually the narrator dedicates herself to "the task of diving into the wreck," the hard work that humans must do if we want things to change, in our own lives and in society as a whole. Altogether, I highly recommend this book! It's a great read - there’s pain here and humor and love, and the power of one woman speaking the truth of her life.
When I finished The Big Hurt, I wanted to start over again right away. Rarely do memoirs seem so brave, or so necessary. Schickel measures the patterns of her life choices as well as the consequences that those choices have brought to her and to her loved ones. She has achieved a real feat of reckoning and memory here, crafted with a profound literary skill. Buy it and read it to share her journey.
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And if certain readers have a problem with that, she has a message for you, and it’s on the front cover.
The message for everyone else is built into the book title.
What I recognized as a reader?
That careless parenting opens portals to all kinds of addiction. That a surfeit of predators waits on the other side. That empathy can be a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
What I noticed as a writer?
Her raw, magnetic, unvarnished voice, as if she’s confiding in a Lidia Yuknavitch who would never judge. Her suspenseful weaving of past and present. Her ability to offset depths with heights. Her luminous language.
I kept my seat through the first chapter and by the end stepped out of the ride sad, angry, euphoric, hopeful, wiser. This story shifted my world view for worse and by far for better.