I really liked this book ... not because I am at all interested in gender or can empathize specifically with that, BUT because it was so damn honest I had tears reading the prologue & 1st chapter! I could FEEL the humanity coming from her words ... & even surrounded by ALL those family members, the abstract loneliness hit me hard & just stayed with me. Perhaps it is because I am going thru a horrid divorce from my husb of 20 years (I have 2 teens) & he left me for his married w children Assistant. He has always confused me & refused to open up no matter how hard I tried. I thought he might leave me for a MAN but never a WOMAN! And especially NOT when I was half-dead from an Autoimmune Dz (Lupus) that was caused by the stress of living with ...someone I somehow didn't KNOW after 21+ yrs! TALK about a "Life change"!I cried when I read Caitlyn say she was so alone bc I feel even moreso, if possible. He moved us out to middle of nowhere, gave me no money (I was too sick to work for last 9 yrs) & trapped me, basically. He said If I ever tried to leave him that I would "sleep in the gutter, ALONE, without my children". So I stayed. I didn't tell anyone how bad it was, that he treated the children/I like objects that he loathed (treated our poor kids like "chores he didn't want to do") then blamed me for everything and pulls this crap after I supported him in his career & had to give up mine. SomeONE had to be there for our children and it wasn't gonna be HIM!Sorry to digress. The point is that I GET IT. I get the no pleasure in life, to have your body turn against you in a totally different but never-the-less profound way. I got all of it. And it gives me HOPE that there's something beyond, something out there that will spell happiness for myself & my children too.Sometimes I think none of us are "genders", honestly, in spirit. I could be wrong but it just seems to not matter after a certain age in life. You just want someone who is going to accept you for all you are & not turn on you instead. (Though I could see how the wives would be confused & hurt). It is hard to reconcile that we are all just "drops in the great ocean of life", not so important as our ego's make us out to believe. The money, the vehicles & houses - it is just "stuff", I agree. But when you don't have any, you are as I was, "at the mercy of others", sadly. I sometimes think this is really a passing, this life. But why do some of us get SO short-changed whilst others float thru life presumably so happy & giddy, with wonderful spouses, families that are solid & seemingly without the health problems that hit me when pregnant w 2nd child (at age 33) that my husband didn't want. Now he states that he was "too young" for children. At 27 yo when we had our first child, that sounds to me as just a poor excuse. He wasn't around for our kids & they never bonded to him. I couldn't tell if that was the case with Cait's older kids as adults but it would seem to me that it takes a bigger person to admit error, apologize & LIVE whatever is left of this crazy life!As irony would have it, i went into remission when my "wonder-husband" moved out! So the life I thought would end quite soon goes forward, a "changed forever" person after this year of INSANITY (divorce still not over & he and the Girl are both wearing wedding rings!)😐I'm not sure for the better at this point as it has been traumatizing for the kids. I can't "UNDO" what their father had done. I can only try to "rise above it" and hopefully move on & to a better, happier existence.I'm not sure if Cait feels this way or not but I wonder HOW the world ever got this crazy when I thought it was easier some time ago? I know that our situations are vastly different but honestly, is there such a difference between a magnitude 6.9 & a 7.0 Earthquake??! Of course, the answer is that it depends on where it strikes but my point is that it is EARTH-SHAKING & LIFE-ALTERING! Hence, our "lives"... and WHO KNOWS how much longer they'll go on with all this WW3-talk?I have learned to hold on tight, try to smile at everyone I meet & to not take everything so dang seriously! I NEED to learn how to ENJOY LIFE again ... bc my children/I have not had that experience (I haven't been truly happy for 13 years😌). I hope God gives me the opportunity (to LIVE & to NOT let Lupus take me totally down), to prove to my teens that life isn't all bad & there IS kindness in this world! Good ppl. And it doesn't MATTER if male/tamale, any specific color nor religion! We all just need to HELP EACH OTHER!👍😊Best of Luck Cait! Keep being true to yourself! Sorry if I sound like one of those speeches you gave all those years☺️. Truthfully, you inspired me to become my "Authentic Self"! Thank you for that! 🤗Hugs!