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The title says it all really.
I'm constantly worrying about what others think! I've always had this way of thinking, I feel like it stops me from living a normal life
I moved to a new area and my neighbours are noisy all the time, some of them don't think others needs peace or even sleep!
I like to be respectful and not disturb anyone, I want to be able to live comfortably and not worry about making noise, for example...I wait until 9am to hoover or put my washing machine on 🤷♀️ but this week one of my neighbours was drilling at 8.30! I do have severe anxiety which I'm lucky enough to be able to get an assessment next week from my local Wellbeing Team. Thinking back to my childhood, when I lived with my parents and brother, when my Dad was off sick, had Bank Holiday off just booked time off, we were never allowed to make any noise as he didn't like it. My Mum used to go along with it for a 'peaceful life' otherwise he would argue, shout and swear. I feel like there are aspects of my anxiety that have stemmed from my childhood to teenage years. Another example is if my Dad had a nap on Saturday or Sunday afternoon, he would be sleeping from 3pm until 6pm and if he heard us making the slightest noise, there would be shouting and swearing. If me and my Mum were downstairs watching TV with the volume turned down to pretty much 0, he would come downstairs and you could hear him swear under his breath, it felt like breathing wasn't allowed. When I lived with friends or partners, me making noise wasn't that much of an issue so I don't understand why now I'm feeling this way 😕 My friend told me that if neighbours haven't complained to me or to my Housing Association about me then who cares! She also said if they can slam doors, play music, shout, scream and drive like a maniac, sod 'em, I then think 'yeah she's right' and it gives me that small bit of confidence that lasts for 5 minutes!
If you read all this, thankyou! If anyone feels similar to me, feel free to comment.
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Hi, is this whole problem related to you possibly making too much noise and things like that?
I've not been told I'm making too much noise where I live but in the back of my mind, my anxiety gets the better of I think what if all the time
I understand. I'm just trying to get the whole picture of this. Usually people with this type of fear worry how others might think you're a bad person or something to that effect. So your anxiety is purely about possibly making too much noise and nothing else?