I'm Not In Love

You call her up? Check. You like to see her? Check. You keep her picture upon the wall? Check.

You my friend, are in love.

It's about someone who's in love but he's afraid to admit it probably because he's afraid that he will be hurt. I love this song

Everybody's been close but no cigar, this song is about a guy who is denying that he's in love with this girl, if you listen to the song, or read the lyrics on the part that says (it's because) but then never gives an explanation, its cuz his feeling are too complicated to explain to the girl, trust me, When love presents its self guys like us are afraid of it, we'd rather have one night stands, or a girlfriend we don't love except for sex. than to treat ourselves to the real thing, not afraid of commitment, but love.. the guy in the songs pushing her away because he doseen't feel like he deserves real love,,,.and at the same time gets some kind of sick depressing satisfaction from breaking his heart and hers........

I think this is a very raw feeling song. I believe he was rejected by her but yet he is in love with her. He wants the pain to go away denial takes place. He doesn't want her to have the upper hand "don't think u got it made..." He wants her to feel his pain "You'll wait a long time for me.."

The initial love affair has ended. Time has passed. He realizes he doesn't want to be without her. He calls her up, but he is afraid of what will happen if he opens his heart to her like he did before. He doesn't want to get hurt again - the emotions and loss were too overwhelming to bear.

So he tells himself and her that he's not in love and not to make a big deal about it. But he's in denial, and when he tries to explain why he still feels for her he says "it's because..." and he stops. The true answer is too frightening for him to admit.

And in a moment of weakness when he finally faces the truth, he breaks down and cries, but the voice in his head tells him to stop. He has kept her memory alive, she has waited for him, and this is the only way he can be with her - by denying his true feelings.

I see this song through different eyes, I don't think he's in love with her. I think, she is in love with him, and he's telling her that he just needs her company and nothing deeper.

He's just telling her not to misinterpret the little things he does...the picture, the phone calls...and mistake them for love.

Some people "can" have a relationship without being in love, and I think this song explains it beautifully.

The song is obviously about a guy in the following situation: He’s met a girl, maybe had a few dates (or maybe they’re about to have their first date after being acquaintances for a while), and he finds himself becoming infatuated with her. Being the typical male who fears commitment, he enters the textbook “head vs. heart”/“emotions vs. reason” battle. He tries to put aside his feelings for her and convince himself (and her) that, while he may like her and is fond of her, she’s just another in a line of female companions for him, and he’s just going through a “silly phase.” He tries to explain away the signs of his deep emotional attachment to her by diminishing their importance to him, but he isn’t very convincing. I have first-hand, personal experience with this because I’m going through it right now. It’s both exhilarating and anguishing at the same time. I really can’t take much more of this. Oh… and I am NOT in love. Heh heh.

Okay, here's my take since I am living it. The guy is in love, the girl is in love. The guy is emotionally unable to deal with being in love. Commitment Phobic, due to something in his life regarding love, most likely something to do with his mother. There is a break. The girl moves on. He contacts her. When he is with her, he is so overcome with emotion and not equipped to deal with it. He retreats. She is hurt. He is hurt. Time passes, he still can't stop thinking about her. So denies it to himself and her. The voice "big boys don't cry" is a voice from the past. I think his mother. Who was also probably emotionally distant. And was distant/emotionally unavailable to him when he was a child.

Interesting how songs can apply to so many different situations. The gay man theory could apply to someone in that situation. Although I don't think that's what it's about.

This song is about a man who tries to deny his unreciprocated feelings for the woman who left their relationship. He tries to protect his dignity of being the one who was left behind. The saying of "The one who is in control is the one who cares less" is his way of hiding his pain and shame. The unpublished solo vocal section by Eric Stewart also revealed the meaning of the song. The following vocal section was never released since Lol Creme and the band did not like it and cut it out from the final track. " Don't feel let down, don't get hung up. We do what we can. Do what we love". This is the part where he tries to convince himself to move on.

The song is obviously about a guy in the following situation: He’s met a girl, maybe had a few dates (or maybe they’re about to have their first date after being acquaintances for a while), and he finds himself becoming infatuated with her. Being the typical male who fears commitment, he enters the textbook “head vs. heart”/“emotions vs. reason” battle. He tries to put aside his feelings for her and convince himself (and her) that, while he may like her and is fond of her, she’s just another in a line of female companions for him, and he’s just going through a “silly phase.” He tries to explain away the signs of his deep emotional attachment to her by diminishing their importance to him, but he isn’t very convincing. I have first-hand, personal experience with this because I’m going through it right now. It’s both exhilarating and anguishing at the same time. I really can’t take much more of this. Oh… and I am NOT in love. Heh heh.