Jelena Dincic
The shoes on my feet (I bought ’em)
The clothes I’m wearing (I bought ’em)
The rock I’m rocking (I bought it)
‘Cause I depend on me if I want it
– Destiny’s Child
Here’s the thing, a strong woman is independent, she doesn’t need a man to buy her what she wants – she can buy it herself.
Nor does she get hired for a job based on her looks but on her competence and determination.
And hey, she doesn’t get ahead in life by sheer luck, but because of her strength and determination!
After reading this article, you may recognize that you’re a strong woman yourself, or maybe it will leave you aspiring to become one.
Let’s look at the 10 traits of strong women that help them get anything they want:
1) Independence
A strong woman is independent; she’s learned from a young age that the one person she can always count on is herself.
That means that she doesn’t sit around waiting for something to happen – she makes it happen!
- If she wants to buy a car? She saves up and buys it herself.
- If she wants to open an art gallery – she works her a** off, day and night, to reach her goal.
It’s not always easy getting what you want but a strong, independent woman who knows what she wants, gets what she wants through hard work.
2) Confidence
It doesn’t hurt to be confident, that’s for sure.
Part of being successful is believing in yourself, and that’s how strong women get anything they want – they believe that they can.
Just think about how hard it is to get anything done when you lack self-confidence – you may convince yourself that you don’t deserve to get what you want or that you’re not good enough or strong enough… and before you know it, you’ve given up before even trying.
3) Determination and resilience
And talking about giving up, strong women know that getting ahead involves hard work, patience, and determination, and that’s why they’re so successful.
I mean, it’s easy to give up when things don’t go your way, when they take too long, or you keep coming across various obstacles.
But the thing about strong women is that not only are they determined, but they’re also resilient.
And when they “fall off the horse”?
They get right back on it, it’s the only way to get ahead.
In short: Strong women don’t give up easily.
4) Competence
Of course, it’s all very well to be strong and determined, but you also have to be competent.
Let’s be realistic – a strong woman may want to run a business, but if she doesn’t have the right set of skills, her business won’t be very successful.
Luckily, she’s also a firm believer in…
5) Lifelong learning
Strong women believe that it’s never too late to learn something new, in fact, they’re of the opinion that learning is a lifelong process.
So, if she wants to run a business but doesn’t have the know-how, she doesn’t let that stand in her way.
She’ll sign up for online courses, consult successful business people, and even get her hands dirty being an intern and learning the craft.
6) Assertiveness
Don’t let anyone (any man) tell you that you’re a bit*h for being assertive!
Assertiveness is what empowers strong women to effectively communicate their needs and desires, but also boundaries.
It’s all about being able to express oneself in a clear, confident, and respectful manner – it’s not aggressive or pushy, and there’s certainly nothing bit*hy about it.
7) Self-awareness
Don’t underestimate the importance of self-awareness, it’s especially important when it comes to getting what you want.
Let me explain:
Self-awareness involves a lot of introspection to arrive at a deep understanding of yourself.
So how’s that helpful when it comes to getting what you want?
Because knowing yourself means knowing what you want.
What’s more, it means being aware of your strengths and weaknesses, which is super useful for coming up with a plan on how to get what you want.
8) Adaptability
Strong women know the importance of being flexible.
As much as we’d sometimes like it to be, nothing is actually set in stone.
People change their minds, timelines get pushed, plans fall through, and sometimes it rains the whole summer.
So, we have two options – either we fall apart, give up, and sulk, or, we adapt.
If we’re strong, we learn how to go with the flow. If one door closes, we know that another will open.
Got it?
9) Integrity
Strong women are nothing without their integrity.
Sure, they could get things the easy way – by forgetting about their principles and throwing morality out the window, but that’s not how they get things done.
Strong women with integrity are committed to their values and principles – yes – even in the face of adversity.
They’re guided by a strong moral compass and act in accordance with their beliefs.
But that’s not all!
They’re definitely not easily swayed by external pressures or societal expectations. Instead, they make decisions based on their own convictions.
And do you know what?
Their integrity not only helps them navigate various challenges, but also earns them the respect and trust of those around them, and that’s how they get what they want!
10) Open-mindedness
Being open-minded is a useful trait to have, especially if you’re someone trying to reach a specific goal.
Here’s how a strong woman who is open-minded gets what she wants:
- Being receptive to different ideas, opinions, and perspectives allows her to consider a broader range of possibilities and options. This in turn helps her make well-informed decisions and achieve her goals.
- Being open-minded usually means being a good communicator – strong women listen and work hard to understand others. And guess what? By valuing and respecting different viewpoints, they can form alliances, negotiate, and gain the support they need to reach their objectives.
- Finally, open-mindedness helps to challenge and overcome biases and stereotypes. You see, women are often faced with various expectations, prejudices, or stereotypes that could work against them. However, by keeping an open mind, they can challenge these preconceptions, define their own path, make choices aligned with their values and aspirations, and overcome the limitations imposed by others.
How to become a mentally and emotionally strong woman?
The truth about strong women is that they are not born strong, they become strong.
They’ve been shaped by the various experiences they’ve had since a young age, but it’s never too late to become strong.
If you want to become a strong woman, be prepared for a journey that involves self-awareness, healthy coping mechanisms, as well as self-compassion.
Here are some steps you can take to become an emotionally and mentally strong woman:
1) Cultivate self-awareness
Get to know yourself – understand your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Pay attention to patterns in behavior and identify your triggers and how you respond to them. Trust me, self-awareness will allow you to make conscious choices and take control of your emotional and mental well-being.
2) Practice self-care
Make self-care a top priority in your life. Take care of your physical health by exercising regularly, eating healthily, and getting enough sleep. Take care of your mental health by taking part in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, spending time in nature, and practicing mindfulness and meditation.
3) Develop healthy coping mechanisms
Find healthy ways to cope with stress, anxiety, and other challenging emotions. For example, you could talk to a friend or therapist, journal, go for a jog, or find creative outlets like art and music. Identify what works best for you and incorporate these strategies into your daily life.
4) Build a support network
Make sure that you surround yourself with supportive and positive people who make you feel good and encourage you. Seek out friendships and relationships that nurture your emotional well-being. You see, having a strong support network can provide valuable perspective, guidance, and of course, comfort during difficult times.
5) Set boundaries
Learn to establish and communicate your boundaries effectively. That means that you need to figure out what is acceptable to you and what is not, and to communicate your limits to others. This will help you maintain your emotional and mental well-being and prevent stress and resentment.
6) Practice resilience
The truth is that challenges and setbacks are part of life, but developing resilience is essential for bouncing back and moving forward. So, try to see failures and setbacks as learning opportunities and focus on your strengths and abilities. Cultivate a positive mindset and practice gratitude for the things that are going well in your life. Can you do that?
7) Seek personal growth
Now, you’re gonna want to engage in activities that promote personal growth and self-improvement. Read books, attend workshops, and seek out people who inspire you. Keep learning and challenge yourself to expand your knowledge, skills, as well as perspective.
8) Practice self-compassion
Don’t forget to be kind to yourself and to practice self-compassion! You need to treat yourself with the same empathy and understanding you would offer to a friend. Remember to celebrate your achievements, forgive yourself for any mistakes you make, and embrace your imperfections as a part of your unique journey.
Remember, becoming emotionally and mentally strong is a process, so be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate this journey.
