Raychel Ria Agramon
So you’ve been dreaming about a certain person for several nights now. And, if you believe the old saying, it’s because they’re missing you.
The question is: Is this really even true?
Let’s find out below.
The basics of dreaming
Before we delve further, let’s first discuss the 411 on dreaming.
As WebMD explains it, dreams are images and stories the mind creates when we sleep. They can be rational, or downright confusing. Given their vividness, they can make you feel a variety of emotions – from happiness to sadness (and everything else in between.)
While dreams can happen at any stage of sleep, they often occur during the rapid eye movement (REM) phase – as this is the time when your brain is most active.
As to why we dream, experts are still unsure of the exact reason. They have a lot of theories as to why it happens, though.
According to research, dreams may help you:
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Solve problems
As a BBC report puts it: “Dreams are thought to be the brain’s attempt to solve life’s problems. There is research that shows that we come up with very creative solutions immediately after we’ve been dreaming.”
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Process information and incorporate memories
According to an Insider article, “dreaming plays a role in processing the information you’ve taken in during the day, consolidating memories and sorting new knowledge.”
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Process emotions
In the same Insider article, psychiatrist Dr. Alex Dimitriu remarked that “Dreams are the mind’s form of self-therapy. We form memories, process experiences, as well as feelings when we sleep. REM or dream sleep is believed to be particularly important in the processing of emotions.”
If you dream about someone, they miss you: 9 signs it’s true
There are many reasons why you dream of a certain person. And, according to many staunch believers, it’s a sign that someone misses you.
Before you jump to conclusions, you need to be on the lookout for these 9 signs that it’s true:
1) Everything seems random
If you dream about a ‘random’ person – someone whom you haven’t thought of for months – then it’s possible that they’re missing you.
And yes, they’re communicating it to you through your dreams.
You shouldn’t be dreaming of them in the first place. After all, those who we think of the most usually invade our dreams.
But it happens.
As a Nova PBS article explains it:
“The REM stage of sleep has long been studied as the key area for dreaming. Because of its role in dreaming, the REM stage, previous research has found, is also a key element to allowing for successful two-way communication between an asleep person and an awake one.”
2) They’re your twin flame
If you’re dreaming of your twin flame, then it’s highly possible that they miss you.
As I explained in my article Twin flame communication in dreams, dream communication “often occurs when twin flames are separated from each other. So when they sleep, their minds struggle to connect with each other subconsciously. That way, they can communicate with each other despite the vast distance between them.”
Needless to say, the connection mirror souls share enables them to communicate their thoughts and feelings through dreams – especially during the separation stage.
When this happens, twin flames pull away from each other even if they don’t like to. It often happens when one views the relationship as ‘too intense,’ or when one isn’t mature enough to continue with the relationship.
So even though they’re far away, “Your twin flame appearing in your dreams is their way of saying they miss and need you. They’re sending unique vibrations that occur in your dreams.”
3) They’re your soulmate
Just like your twin flame, dreaming about your soulmate can also be a sign that they’re missing you. Blame it on soulmate telepathy, a connection that can’t be explained by any rational fact.
After all, “With a strong enough spiritual bond” – like the one that you share with your soulmate, “you will be able to telepathically connect to another person.”
And since “Sleep is when your mind is the most open to telepathic communication,” it could be their preferred way of telling you that they miss you.
NB: If you want to be 100% sure that they’re indeed your soulmate, you’ll be glad to know that there was a way to remove all the guesswork.
4) You feel their emotional state in your dream
You can’t explain it, but you’re pretty sure that you feel their emotions in your dream. And yes, one of these emotions is them missing you.
Don’t be weirded out by this. It’s a sign that you’re clairsentient.
Literally translated as ‘clear feeling,’ it’s wherein you feel another person’s emotional state – without using any of your senses.
You’re more perceptive than an empath though, for you can pick up past emotions as well.
“A clairsentient person gets impressions, both mental and physical, to explain emotions. They might get visual flashes of the events that caused people’s feelings. Entire stories with full explanations sometimes pop into their minds,” explains psychic Michelle Beltran.
That’s why as you dream about them, you could clearly feel that they miss you (or they’ve longed for you in the past.)
5) Angel numbers appear when you dream of them
If you keep on seeing a numerical sequence every time you dream about this person, then it’s a spiritual sign that this person is missing you.
These numbers in your dream serve as “a sign from your guardian angels,” explains Lyndol in her article. “They’re sent to us by our divine guardians to convey messages to us.”
After all, you may not be sensitive enough to the fact that this person misses you.
They may be using twin flame or soulmate telepathy on you, but you may not be as open or as receptive as they hope you’d be.
So, as an alternative, your angel is sending you this number as a way of “letting you know (and providing confirmation) that someone is missing you.”
After all, your angel knows what’s good for you!
6) You feel a phantom touch in your dream
Dreams are so vivid that’s “why we can hear, feel, and see in our dreams similarly to how we do when we are awake.”
That’s because “when we are dreaming, the thalamus is active, sending the cerebral cortex images, sounds, and sensations.”
So if you feel that the person is touching you when you dream, you may be experiencing what experts call a phantom touch.
And yes, it’s one of the psychic signs that someone is clearly missing you.
“It’s almost as if they’re there with you, even for a brief moment, as your energies connect and bridge the gap of distance and time,” confirms author Xandar Gordon in his Love Connection article.
7) You hear their voice in your dream
As I’ve just mentioned, we can hear, feel, and see things in our dreams – as if they were happening in real life. So if you keep on hearing this person’s voice in your slumber, take note for it’s another psychic sign that they’re missing you.
As Xandar goes on to say in his Love Connection article:
“Thoughts become things. When someone is sending out strong vibrations into the universe, you’ll be able to pick up on them.”
8) You find a white feather in (or after) the dream
It’s weird enough that you’re dreaming about a person – repeatedly, I might add. And if a weirder sign – such as a white feather – keeps on manifesting in (or after) your dreams, it’s another spiritual sign that this person misses you.
As a Love Connection article explains:
“A white feather is known to be a sign that someone, somewhere, is missing you. (It) symbolizes a token from a person who wants to send you a message but can’t quite yet. This sign means that their love and affection for you are pure and they must surely have great intentions for you.”
9) You get moody right after dreaming about them
If you find yourself getting mood swings after dreaming of this person, then it’s a spiritual sign that they’re missing you.
“They’re having intense thoughts and feelings about you. The sudden transformation in your emotions comes from something outside of your everyday experience,” explains Xandar in his Ideapod article.
3 signs that your dream is just a dream – nothing more
While dreaming about a specific person may mean that they’re missing you, it may also suggest the opposite.
A dream may just be a plain dream, especially if you’re experiencing these signs:
1) You dream about an event that has already happened
As mentioned above, dreams can help us process information. So if you keep on dreaming about a person – in an event that has already happened – then it may be your brain’s way of helping you digest this fact.
It’s possible that you didn’t fully understand what happened. That’s why your mind keeps on replaying the scene over and over again – so you can eventually make sense of the event that transpired.
Likewise, you may be dreaming about this because something that’s happened in this event may help with what’s going on in your life currently.
As dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg explains in a Bustle article:
“The subconscious mind will often pull a particular memory or person, etc. from our past when something is happening in our present. There was a lesson from then we need to apply now.”
2) You feel some strong emotions as you dream
If you’re lucky enough to remember your dream – and the strong emotions you felt as it played – then it’s another sign that your dream is just a dream.
As I’ve talked about earlier, dreaming is a way for the mind to process emotions. If you felt happy to see them, then you may be the one who’s missing them – and not the other way around.
And, if you felt sad when you dreamt of them, then maybe it’s your emotions’ way of clawing out from the box in which they are imprisoned.
Maybe you’ve had a bad breakup with this person. If you’ve been suppressing your negative feelings for so long, then dreaming about them may be the mind’s way of telling you to face this reality once and for all.
3) The person is just a representation of what you feel
Even if you’re dreaming of a specific person, it doesn’t always mean that they’re thinking about you. In some cases, they may just represent some unresolved issues deep within you.
Explains Dr. Carla Marie Manly in the above-cited Bustle article:
“In Jungian psychology, every person in a dream represents some aspect of the dreamer. The person who ‘shows up’ is generally symbolic of some aspect of the dreamer’s self; other people are simply conjured up by the psyche to offer a symbolic representation of a certain theme or issue.”
For example, you may constantly dream about a partner who abused you throughout the course of your relationship.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that they miss you. It could just be your mind’s way of dealing with the pain.
As a Healthline article goes: “If you’ve experienced trauma or abuse but haven’t fully acknowledged or processed the experience, you might notice recurring dreams that reflect your emotions related to what happened.”
They’re appearing in your slumber because your mind wants you to put an end to these issues, seeing that you’re only pushing them further in.
What should you do?
Well, the answer depends on what you want to happen.
If you want to get in touch with the person who’s missing you, then, by all means, do. Granted, of course, this is a person worth reuniting with.
They may be your twin flame or soulmate. They might actually be waiting for you to make a move, no matter how trivial it may seem.
Who knows – this could lead to a new relationship!
That being said, if this someone does nothing but just cause you trauma, I suggest looking the other way. Remember: not everyone who misses you deserves a second chance.
