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So recently me (18M) and a friend (20F) where chilling at another friends crib, and we both ended up sleeping there and we had to share a bed.
Long story short, we cuddled all night, she inniated it, I really didn't do anything. I think she might have wanted sex, she was being kinda suggestive, but I was tired and didn't really want to cross any lines since she is a good friend and didn't want to do anything she didn't want or make her uncomfortable.
The next morning she basically friendzoned me, said she valued our friendship more then any flirting and only liked me as a friend. She said she was drunk and enjoyed the coziness and that she didn't remember starting it anymore cause she had some blackouts.
I don't understand? Why did she friendzone me when she started it? Did I do something wrong? And after this I still feel like she's flirting with me regularly, treating me different then other friends.
Can anyone please help me understand?
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She made herself available to you and you didn't act. Now she's insecure and feels a little rejected so she pushed you away before you could push her first.
Unfortunately there is usually no way to turn this one around. Live and learn.
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So recently me (18M) and a friend (20F) where chilling at another friends crib, and we both ended up sleeping there and we had to share a bed.
Long story short, we cuddled all night, she inniated it, I really didn't do anything. I think she might have wanted sex, she was being kinda suggestive, but I was tired and didn't really want to cross any lines since she is a good friend and didn't want to do anything she didn't want or make her uncomfortable.
The next morning she basically friendzoned me, said she valued our friendship more then any flirting and only liked me as a friend. She said she was drunk and enjoyed the coziness and that she didn't remember starting it anymore cause she had some blackouts.
I don't understand? Why did she friendzone me when she started it? Did I do something wrong? And after this I still feel like she's flirting with me regularly, treating me different then other friends.
Can anyone please help me understand?
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You missed the opportunity bud and you probably won't get another chance unless you're both drunk as skunks some time in the future.
Women have this thing where they don’t want to feel like they’re too easy or being a whore. So her putting out so hard without reciprocation made her feel that way & embarrassment set in.
I do want to add that I completely understand why you did what you did and there may be many who tell you that you’re a fool, but many guys have been in a situation where they were oblivious to something so obvious in hindsight.
Just keep it in mind for the next time a female friend does something blatantly flirty.
If you didn't want to fuck/date her what's the problem😂
You mean just the fact that she also now says she wants to be only friends yet still flirts ? Ya that's annoying but how is that any different than before , did she not flirt w you before ?
If so then she's probably just trying to turn the tables back on you sexually to salvage her ego, trying to get you to want her so she can then reject you too. Or a small chance she's genuinely into you now/confused, but not likely, women's sexuality is a lot of their self worth unfortunately, despite how much they insist the opposite, so tbh i would be sleeping with one eye open and expect some bad gossip like saying you had a small dick when she rubbed against you or future payback in some way, you know what they say about hell hath no furry😂
Tbh you've got balls kid, i would never sleep next to a girl i rejected lmao , i woulda been scared to be stabbed or lied about that i assaulted her, there's a reason guys take the floor or couch in that situation. It's a known double standard that men can't reject women's advances, there are rules, and you shit all over them. What do you have to say for yourself?
Well I wouldn't have minded fucking her, and yeah she used to flirt with me before this as well. And I didn't reject her, she rejected me. I was just uncertain about what she wanted. Or I was just oblivious, probably the last.
In that case maybe she did it on purpose and is just ego tripping. Women are most powerful before having sex with a guy and they know it, that's why they like to push and tease and get the absolute closest without crossing the line, they wanna squeeze it for as much as you'll possibly tolerate.
If you showed that you'll tolerate it and she's still flirting, then you might have plenty more blue balls to look forward to and small chance of fucking. You did the right thing if she rly was drunk even tho it sounds like she was lying.
No good deed goes unpunished, last time a girl tried that on me and said she wanted to cuddle but specifically said she did not want sex yet was rubbing my hands on her boobs and grinding against my dick i just left to go fuck another girl. But it took me a few identical experiences to yours and seeing a few of my friends get false sexual assault accusations to put a hard stop to sleeping with women at all unless they're 100% clear they want sex. No shame, happens to plenty of us
She wanted to have sex with you and you don’t follow through. I totally understand why friend zoned you