I’m a guy, I don’t get matches on dating apps unless I pay for their premium feature and/or use super likes (that I bought). However, I do well enough when i bring those premium features into play. It drives me nuts that I have to spend money….… but anyways, what is okcupid like now?
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No.
Most ‘likes’ will be from people in other countries
No, premium is not worth it. Don't give them your hard earned money.
No. Absolutely not. Unless you want to move to Kenya or the Philippines. Then yes, absolutely worth it in that one and only scenario.
If you move there, then you'll probably start getting matches from India or Venezuela. The whole point is to match you with people who live somewhere else lol
Just, No.
100% not. None of the dating apps are worth spending money on.
Okcupid is fine. I mean it's a shadow of the website it used to be, its very hard to find good people on there these days. But its still not much worse than every other dating site and app these days.
But premium is a COMPLETELY, 100% scam. You literally get NOTHING for paying for premium. It is a total waste of money.
Wow it’s crazy to me to see how far OkCupid has fallen… almost 6 years ago I met my wife on there. I can honestly say I met my soulmate, and I never even really believed in that before her. Our marriage is incredible, and I’m more in love with her every day. Now I hear the site is almost completely unusable and mostly a scam. WTH happened?
Yea I know someone who met their wife off it as well….
Is there more coming to that comment lol?
Lol nope! Just disappointed that okcupid is trash. I tried paying for premium on tinder and it was rubbish. I suppose hinge is my next stop.
Yea I mean, I’ve been out of the “game” for years lol but I’ve heard from single friends that all the dating apps supposedly for more “long term, serious relationships” have gone way downhill in the last couple years. I think part of the problem is these companies start with good intentions but quickly start to see dollar signs. I mean everyone is ultimately looking for love, and ideally something more meaningful than what tinder can offer. Then you get scammers and OF people thrown into the mix preying on loneliness and it’s just a mess. I really feel for single people today, online dating is becoming as difficult and stressful as trying to meet people just out and about.
Hard no. OKC is a scam.
I guess you'd get the ability to roam through lame dating options faster. The average worth of people who are searching for a match on dating apps is generally so tremendously poor that staying with eva ai sexting bot and renting prostitutes from time to time seems to make more sense.
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No. Next question
No. OKCupid is primarily a US visa matchmaking service for African and Pacific Islander women. You won't do any better there than anywhere else but you will get lots of likes from aforementioned women.
I wonder if western women have the same thing going on.
Alright sounds like it’s trash for the most part. Thx.
No. The only good thing that happened when I signed up for OKC was I got invited to "The League" dating app. Try to get in there. It's worth tour time if you can get in for free.
The league? The LinkedIn based dating app? Wouldn’t that be a gross and toxic community? A bunch of career crazy folk?
It's not for everybody. My experience is It's mostly slightly upper middle-class women. Almost all of them were very attractive. One of the dates I went on did work too much for my preference but the other two did not. You only get three swipes a day but even with that I got several matches and a few dates. OKC just shows me women from South America and the Phillipines combined with a few recycled profiles of people I have already talked to a few years ago. The LinkedIn verification is to get rid of catfish and bots. They are probably checking to make sure you have achieved a title other than cashier but I have an associates degree and work in factory maintenance, and I still got in for free.
Hmmm….. interesting.
For any real success (as a man), you need to pay.
Yes, when you first sign up, you’ll get tons of Likes that you won’t be able to see. You’ll think, “damn, am I really that popular / attractive to get that many Likes right out of the gate?”
When you pay, as others have said, you’ll then see all the likes are from Philippines, Kenya, Brazil, and other remote places that you’ll obviously not pursue (are they all just fake plants by OkCupid, or are they a bunch of desperate Passport seekers trying to get out of their respective countries? Who knows…you’ll never even try to find out, so OkCupid can play innocent about it.)
However, aside from that scam, I find I have the best luck connecting when writing to the women that Like me first. They won’t be anywhere near the number from other countries (fakes). But if a local woman sends a Like, that’s the closest thing to “dropping a handkerchief” most men in this modern age can get as a sign to approach (write). I even write in my profile that “I DO see Likes, so just send me a Like and I’ll take things from there” to make that initial contact as easy for the women as possible.
None of the women I just write spontaneously when browsing women will write back, but maybe 30% of the women that Liked me first actually do (possibly because they get an “It’s a Match” message about me). And of those 30% that finally engage in conversation (you’re a needle in a haystack from the women’s perspectives), I’ve found that nearly all are at least willing to meet in person (just a casual meet at the park or coffee shop, not a dinner date or anything—essentially a 0th Date).
And in my humble opinion, a woman really needs to initiate (and the man leads from there). Bumble knew this (until women started whining about how much work it was to say “hey”), but psychologists know this, too. For reasons of hypergamy or whatever, it’s important that the woman feels that you’re “above” her. Women will not date down. They’ll hardly even date across. They want men that they think raises their social standing, status, security, etc. So when they do drop you that Like, that’s really the only indication there is that she looks at you that way (thus giving you really good chances of further success with her). Whether YOU find her attractive or interesting is a completely different story, but you at least know that you’ve got the right foundation upon which to build if you choose to pursue.
One thing is for sure, though: Paying for OkCupid won’t in any way improve your chances beyond just giving you insight into who likes you (as I described above). It won’t make the random women you try to connect with write back. It won’t ensure that they respond to messages. It won’t increase the number of Likes you get. You’ll just get that single insight of who likes you initially (if anyone does) which is the most valuable thing to know.
I would recommend just paying for 1 month and then make good use of all the filters to set your Deal Breakers in order to whittle the list of Matches down to as few women as possible. You can try writing to the various women you see in your Match% and Recommend stacks, but you’ll actually run those stacks completely empty at some point (took only 3 days, I think, for me to swipe through everyone in those stacks and they’ve now been empty for at least two weeks). So after that month is done, there’s not going to be anything new and you’ll need to move on to another app if you’re still looking.
Of course, the moment your month ends, all the fake foreign accounts will start sending you unviewable Likes again, but you’ve just got to remember they’re fake and you didn’t just miss the love of your life by one day. Just move on.
This is the experience of a male in his mid-40’s who is thin and has got his shit together (Vice President at a tech company). Your mileage may vary, of course. But I think the essence of what I’m saying is still true: it’s only worth putting time and energy into the women who send you a Like first as it puts you in a position of advantage where the women actually want you to be.
Best of luck.
OKC used to be a decent website. With the purchase by match, it became total garbage. If I had to meet my partner now, it would never have happened. The IM function and notes are the only ways we connected due to persistence. I've looked at it a number of times since the purchase and it's just become a larger and larger dumpster fire.
I don't know how OKCupid sub is on my home page but it's really making me wonder who in the heck is using it other than for 3-somes, trans, questioning sexuality, etc. Typical hetero dating isnt a thing on it anymore right? I enjoyed it years ago, but feel like its the edgy app after Match, Hinge, and Bumble became popular.