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I’m 32f talking to a 50m who is very physically attractive to me, but I also like him cause he is genuinely a nice guy I have fun with.
I live in an area where a lot of women throw themselves at “high value” men, so I feel like he is used to “yes” women who won’t hold him accountable etc…but I feel like I have a lot more to offer him than sex.
I know he is attracted to my body, but I can’t help but feel degraded because I know I was raised to be and think like a wife and not a mistress and it’s hard to just accept since I genuinely like older men & have caught feelings. I never ask for anything more than his time…but I also feel like he is comfortable with being a forever bachelor…
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For the love of God, talk to him. Mature men are not going to be intimidated by a woman being forward.
What do I say though lol I’m not trying to be his wife or GF even.
Ask him, “I like spending time with you. Where do you see this relationship going?”
The answer, whether it’s the one you want or not, will be apparent. The ball will then be back in your court, to direct where the “relationship “ goes.
I left out the fact that we met in January and I just found out last week that he had a baby in April.
OP - My current gf is 31 years my junior. She approached me one day and invited me to have coffee with her. At first it was just a friendly conversation. Then mutual flirting started. From there it just because more. Was I attracted to her physically? Absolutely... but I've never been after just s-time. There has to be more for me and that is what she wanted to know by talking with me.
My advice? Have a conversation with him. Talk about your feelings for and about him. Listen to his responses and "read" his body language. IOW approach him the same way you would approach any other man and determine if his wants,/needs/desires align with your own.
One of his lady friends told me he’s not the relationship type and I should just have fun and gain the experience but I still want more
If you want a relationship with an older man, this dude ain't it. You will only become extremely disappointed in the end if you try with him. For a time he may act the way you want him to... but eventually he will revert back to what he is... a player. Even his friends are telling you don't try to have anything more than a superficial physical situationship with him. Trust me... if you try you'll end up hurting yourself. DON'T DO IT!!!
I left out the fact that we met in January and I just found out last week that he had a baby in April.
I think you know you can do much better than this guy. He's only going to crush your heart. Being smart about relationships also means knowing when you've been dealt a horsesh*t hand and folding early. At the very least find someone you think will respect you.
Be point blank and very up front and just ask him what he is expecting from what you currently have. You will either be pleasantly surprised, or get the answer your dread, but one that will ultimately save you time and wasted effort. Just be prepared to be brutally honest with him if he asks what you want.
I left out the fact that we met in January and I just found out last week that he had a baby in April.
Talk, talk, talk—why do people not talk any more?
I left out the fact that we met in January and I just found out last week that he had a baby in April.