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I can't leave her.
I am struggling greatly with the fact that I'll have to leave my 15 month old daughter when I go to give birth to her baby sister (Due August 2nd). There's so much change happening in our lives atm, and she is, as any 15 month old should be, very attached to me. as I am to her đ I almost wish i wasn't pregnant right now. my heart aches, and i can't stop crying. She will stay with my sister inlaw, who is wonderful, but my little girl is not giving her or anyone the time of day. She just isn't having it. đđđ
I also am so so sad and unsettled about leaving my baby boy (heâs 2.5 years old right now). Iâve never left for more than 6 hours and we cosleep overnight so I just donât even know where to start when it comes to preparing. I am having a c-section and am really hoping that I donât have to stay any extra days. Iâm so nervous about it, honestly he will do better than I will I think. âšď¸
đđđ I keep thinking to myself that I will literally escape from the hospital if they dare try to keep me longer than just a few hours. We co sleep also. I've literally left her twice in her whole life for a maximum of 1 hour, that's all. I really pray our babies cope better than us. đđđ
my daughter will almost be 2 in September and I feel the pain too! Last time I stayed 2 nights for my c section ��
I feel the same!! My little guy will be 17 months and we are so attached to each other. I feel so awful that I canât get super excited about the whole thing because I donât want to leave him.
đđđ How do mothers do this! This very situation makes me not want any more children. I am done.
Start letting your SIL watch her more and moreâŚshe will start enjoying being with your SIL and become much more comfortable. Then when you have to go to the hospital you wonât be as stressed about it. I do get it though. I have to leave my 16 month old son with my MIL and mom. Which I trust them 100% but still it makes me sad knowing Iâll be away from him for that long.
i think even just seeing her once a week is good enough. dont stress about every other day.
I hear you. I have a 2.5 year old and an 11 month old, and I have never been away from either of them overnight. Even when my second was born, I wasnât even away from my first overnight then because it was a home birth!
This time weâre having twins (yeah Iâm gonna have 4 under 3 ��) and itâs considered high risk so Iâll definitely deliver in the hospital, and twins also usually come early which has the possibility of meaning NICU time. Really hoping and praying it goes as smoothly and quickly as possible for all of us
Thank you! I forgot to mention my twins are still sleeping with me( we have a floor bed). We are working on getting the sleeping arrangement changed asap! It's hard making the adjustments though. .
Ditto. My husband and I just had a discussion on how he will spend evenings and overnights with our son who just turned 3 when I have the baby. My LO is like my shadow and weâre attached at the hip practically.
I thankfully will be having a c-section so it makes it easier being planned. My LO is thankfully used to going to school or having grandma/grandpa or the nanny watching him during the day a couple days per week. Iâm more stressed about my toddler being without me than I am having a newborn alone as a fresh c-section.
As for your LO, have her hang out with your SIL more and more so they get more comfortable together. Even if itâs just to grab groceries. And honestly our LOs will probably be just fine without us for a couple days.
I am exactly the same, so much more stressed about my 15 month old being without me than my newborn. The grocery run is a great idea! will also make her more comfortable if my SIL has to take her in the car without me. I often hear that children are more resilient than we think, but it doesn't make me feel more at ease. How resilient can a baby possibly be. I wonder if I can organise a home birth this late in pregnancy đ¤ đ
I understand the feeling. I still have Mom guilt from leaving my first with my in laws while I had my second. It was the only night she has not spent in her own bed (sheâs 5 now). She was 20 months old at the time. It was much harder for me than her. She had a blast at my in laws. Iâve been lucky to have homebirths though, when I was in labour with my third my FIL picked up our older two for about 6 hours total. All 3 of our older kiddos slept through the birth of our fourth. We hope they do the same this time.
Itâs hard leaving our babies for longer than a couple hours. They will be fine though!
𼚠I prayyyy my daughter sleeps through my labour! that would be ideal! if i can give birth around midnight and be home by 6am! prayingggg! It really is so hard. some days, I feel more positive about it going well, but most days, like today, It's so hard to cope with.
I second having her see your SIL more until then. My 19 mos old sees his grandparents once a month and we took a baby moon without him two months ago and he did soooo good with them. That was his first few nights away from us ever.
Iâd have your sister take her to do really fun things. More trolley rides, a park, whatever your daughter enjoys. If your SIL is just doing what you do with her but isnât Mom, thereâs no reason for her to actively enjoy or look forward to that. If your SIL showing up means she is likely to get to do something fun, she will have more positive associations with her instead of just neutral ones. Your SIL could be the bearer of new toys or games and new experiences.
I feel the same way.. we have never spent a night apart and my daughter is 2. I get so sad thinking about it! My mom will come over when I go into labor and watch my daughter until we come home. My husband and I plan to have him go home, depending on what time I birth our son, and put our daughter to bed and come back to the hospital there after. Itâs the best solution we can come up with.
I think thats a great idea. if only we could control the time we give birth đĽ˛
I know Iâm a little nervous about that but hopefully it works out ��
I feel this too. I have a 3 year old and I've never been away from him for more than a couple hours. We've never used a babysitter so his dad will probably stay with him while I'm on the hospital delivering. I will have a C section so I'm worries about the overnights. I think he he can stay with us as long as my partner is there, but I'm not so sure how he'll handle being in a hospital room ans I've never been away from him over night!
đ ohhhh, if baby boy can stay with you at the hospital, then that's awesome! Praying is a smooth and easy time for you both đđź
Thank you!! 𩷠I wish you the best of luck as well!
I had to stay away for 3 days 2 nights as I was at the hospital and I was so sad :( I'm not really looking forward to leaving him again. He was soooo clingh when I came back. He actually was angry ignoring me for a few hours and then became full blown 100 x clinger. Thankfully my son will be okay with being looked after but I know bedtime will be hard :( he always wants only me to cuddle him. It's hard for them but it's all temporary so I try remind myself that. I won't be letting him visit in the hospital because it'll just be too hard for him
Oh that's a great idea cauliflower and rice! I will try one day for sure thanks đ
Idk, I definitely think some kids are worse than others 𼲠my sons 3 in 2 weeks lol been like this since he was 1. I think part of it is his controlling type personality, needs to control everything lol. He used to eat literally everything from 6-12M, he even got complimented what a good eater he was đ
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