Some attractive black men with a degree, good job, no kids can be disrespectful af.

This is a huge problem that doesn't get discussed.

Ive met both men and women who make having money and/or advanced degrees their entire personality. I almost want to ask what are you overcompensating for???

My cousin said educated bm think they’re sh!t don’t stink simply because they don’t use Ebonics , childless and don’t act hood lmao.

It is over for the black community so get in how you can. Obviously these men looking for non black woman hence the reason they turn their noses up at y’all. Teach your children to love their blackness or the next generation is doomed.

Lucy95 said:

I been talking to this guy and I’m finally giving up. I don’t believe all black men act like this. But damn this man think women should bow down to him and that’s not me. Also he is a CANCER and a KAPPA. It probably was a lose lose situation from day one.

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Yep those educated and degreed bm are sometimes the worse of them all . It’s mainly American bm . The problem is that it’s not enough successful American bm to go around and they know this . They always talking about us educated black women , but really they are the worst of them all . Sorry being honest .

Coco Campbell said:

It is over for the black community so get in how you can. Obviously these men looking for non black woman hence the reason they turn their noses up at yall. Teach you children to live their blackness or the next generation is doomed.

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Agreed.

Coco Campbell said:

It is over for the black community so get in how you can. Obviously these men looking for non black woman hence the reason they turn their noses up at y’all. Teach your children to love their blackness or the next generation is doomed.

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This!! I've met so many black men in their 30s who HATE blackness!! Majority of them are dark skinned BM and all they do is shower WW with money hoping she will love them. Just this week a 40 something yr old BM told me that he hated being black when he was younger that's why his first wife was German. He said she treated him like sh!t and divorced him as soon as she got her green card.

they know their a failed group on men as a whole , ( provider, protector, etc.)

so when one has half a semblance of being put together, they act like their ish dont stink

Coco Campbell said:

It is over for the black community so get in how you can. Obviously these men looking for non black woman hence the reason they turn their noses up at y’all. Teach your children to love their blackness or the next generation is doomed.

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I wouldn’t have wanted to agree with this 10 years ago. The natural hair care movement gave me hope. But…I’m getting ready to call it. This community is circling the drain.
Between black men terrorizing black neighborhoods with drugs and gang/violence, black men and black women creating broken homes with this baby mama/babydaddy crap, the black literacy rates which haven’t improved, the achievement gap between black men and women which hasn’t improved, black men refusing to be men of this race & lead instead running up into another man’s culture and community (dating/marrying out) …and now, as a response, a rising number of black women at least considering to do the same, etc? Etc.
How many decades have we been 13% of the population? Is the community even growing?

The men are too weak. The women …too strong. And alone.
This community is about done.

(And, no, I am not a troll. I am black woman saying these things. If you disagree, you just disagree. Shrug. I used to try to think differently about the matter. I used to be really big on community service. I was half a HOTEP. Lol But reality is reality. Now? Im middle aged and over it. Im mainly concerned with elevating myself and the few black children im related to.)

Lucy95 said:

I been talking to this guy and I’m finally giving up. I don’t believe all black men act like this. But damn this man think women should bow down to him and that’s not me. Also he is a CANCER and a KAPPA. It probably was a lose lose situation from day one.

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He's a catch and knows he is, he's got 35 other women like you messaging him every day in his DMs, he's basically a unicorn with golden penis syndrome. Is what it is.

This isn’t talked about enough. They think that they’re gods and it’s disgusting af.

That’s why I used to humbled them and let them know “ermmmm…ummm come to your senses boo.”

They work so hard to "look good" on paper, but leave their personalities horribly underdeveloped! Then they cry on podcasts about how they're such a "catch" and women still don't want them

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My cousin said educated bm think they’re sh!t don’t stink simply because they don’t use Ebonics , childless and don’t act hood lmao.

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soo true. They wouldn't speak to a white person that way though..

Lil Pisces said:

They work so hard to "look good" on paper, but leave their personalities horribly underdeveloped! Then they cry on podcasts about how they're such a "catch" and women still don't want them

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They’re the self proclaimed “good guys” that cry about bw wanting thugs

Lil Pisces said:

They work so hard to "look good" on paper, but leave their personalities horribly underdeveloped! Then they cry on podcasts about how they're such a "catch" and women still don't want them

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They’re the self proclaimed “good guys” that cry about bw wanting thugs

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Lucy95 said:

I been talking to this guy and I’m finally giving up. I don’t believe all black men act like this. But damn this man think women should bow down to him and that’s not me. Also he is a CANCER and a KAPPA. It probably was a lose lose situation from day one.

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Yeah Cancer men can be mean. The less emotionally refined ones tend to use candor and honesty as a party trick.

This sounds like my older brother. He has each of these things. But dumb and shallow in his thinking and no sympathy for anyone. He thinks if you don’t drive a Mercedes your must be dumb and not worthy to speak too.

GwapLyfe said:

soo true. They wouldn't speak to a white person that way though..

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Nope they would be all yes mam yes suh. Tipping their hat at them . Modern day ministrel show

mslee21 said:

Nope they would be all yes mam yes suh. Tipping their hat at them . Modern day ministrel show

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frothing at the mouth and sh!t...all over someone who probably smells like bologna lol

He's arrogant because he has the basics in order? Just a regular adult man? Just better than a fµck up.

Are we giving a round of applause for clean socks and underwear too?

Is this really a problem though? Sounds like a symptom of a poorly run community.

These men are ultra valuable and act like it. I've mentioned before how yall underestimate just how many women are throwing themselves at men who have their sh!t together.

And yeah that changes a person.

When it comes to crime and abusing women and doing generally messed up sh!t, men are responsible for that.

When it comes to men's ego being blown up because women are consistently treating these "rare" dudes as gods, that's on women.

Cry all you want. What's that gonna do?

5aiah said:

Is this really a problem though? Sounds like a symptom of a poorly run community.

These men are ultra valuable and act like it. I've mentioned before how yall underestimate just how many women are throwing themselves at men who have their sh!t together.

And yeah that changes a person.

When it comes to crime and abusing women and doing generally messed up sh!t, men are responsible for that.

When it comes to men's ego being blown up because women are consistently treating these "rare" dudes as gods, that's on women.

Cry all you want. What's that gonna do?

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I didn’t see anyone hysterical in these comments like you’re implying with your “cry all you want” comment.

What you describe as ultra valuable, is actually basic in comparable cultures. That’s the point you seem to be missing.

At the end of the day, too much ego is a turn off. Nobody likes a braggart. Why not settle into the success, and do something with it besides judge people and sleeping around.

CrepeSuzette said:

I wouldn’t have wanted to agree with this 10 years ago. The natural hair care movement gave me hope. But…I’m getting ready to call it. This community is circling the drain.
Between black men terrorizing black neighborhoods with drugs and gang/violence, black men and black women creating broken homes with this baby mama/babydaddy crap, the black literacy rates which haven’t improved, the achievement gap between black men and women which hasn’t improved, black men refusing to be men of this race & lead instead running up into another man’s culture and community (dating/marrying out) …and now, as a response, a rising number of black women at least considering to do the same, etc? Etc.
How many decades have we been 13% of the population? Is the community even growing?

The men are too weak. The women …too strong. And alone.
This community is about done.

(And, no, I am not a troll. I am black woman saying these things. If you disagree, you just disagree. Shrug. I used to try to think differently about the matter. I used to be really big on community service. I was half a HOTEP. Lol But reality is reality. Now? Im middle aged and over it. Im mainly concerned with elevating myself and the few black children im related to.)

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Praise him. Preach.. this is and was me. I was so into black culture but then I woke up. I realized something. I still hadn’t been saved or even treated well. Many of which by the educated and degreed bm. When I stepped back and became a different person for the better, things changed substantially..

They are “unicorns” in the community and a lot of these educated lames think that BW should bow down to them because of that.

Ernada said:

He's a catch and knows he is, he's got 35 other women like you messaging him every day in his DMs, he's basically a unicorn with golden penis syndrome. Is what it is.

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Educated lame type Black men are not a catch at all. AT ALL.

I HATE when Black people gas up normal sh!t like going to college and not having fifty-leven children.

We SHOULD celebrate winning against the odds despite systemic racism, and sexism in the case of women. We SHOULD NOT act like someone is a God or Goddess for doing what is expected in a first world country.

There is a difference.

Standards are higher. Just going to college alone isn’t worthy of absolute worship. The ones who act haughty are the same ones passing with low C’s in soft degrees like Psychology or Business Administration.

Over praising simple things is embarrassing because it shows low standards.

They don’t want women from their own race. They consider themselves the prize and know that they are doing better then 99% of their blk male counterparts. They believe that they are too good to be with women of a certain hue. You already know who they’re going to pursue.

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This!! I've met so many black men in their 30s who HATE blackness!! Majority of them are dark skinned BM and all they do is shower WW with money hoping she will love them. Just this week a 40 something yr old BM told me that he hated being black when he was younger that's why his first wife was German. He said she treated him like sh!t and divorced him as soon as she got her green card.

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Let dem marry whytie because he will have abused the black woman if he had marry her. Also when these broken broke men return to you for you to repair him please pay them dust. He spent all his money on Beckie et al and now want you to house him!


Give men nothing!

But you want him to bow down to you like you're a prize so what's the difference in your attitudes and why are you right and he's not? lmao.

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Also he is a CANCER and a KAPPA.

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b!tches weird as fµck..no kids, good money, and educated and you mad because he not chasing you and simping…

News flash, the men who chase and simp women all the time are the perennial fµck boy baby dads or hood dudes/baby daddy’s who sell drugs or scam and talk Ebonics..they spent they time chasing and appeasing pussy instead of grinding and staying focused on the right track like the man above yall saying should be “humbled”

How about humble yourselves and realize there’s a difference between educated black men and clout chasing social media black men..

Coco Campbell said:

Let dem marry whytie because he will have abused the black woman if he had marry her. Also when these broken men broke come back to you for you to repair him please pay them dust.

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They will always have a big Shirley standing by to welcome him with open legs when he’s at his lowest.

Shezsolovely said:

When I stepped back and became a different person for the better, things changed substantially..

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What'd you do differently and how'd your life change?

abcdcamp07 said:

b!tches weird as fµck..no kids, good money, and educated and you mad because he not chasing you and simping…

News flash, the men who chase and simp women all the time are the perennial fµck boy baby dads or hood dudes/baby daddy’s who sell drugs or scam and talk Ebonics..they spent they time chasing and appeasing pussy instead of grinding and staying focused on the right track like the man above yall saying should be “humbled”

How about humble yourselves and realize there’s a difference between educated black men and clout chasing social media black men..

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Ummm who hurt you? Your response and vocabulary choices are giving "I'm an angry black man from the hood "

Cocobutttercup said:

They’re the self proclaimed “good guys” that cry about bw wanting thugs

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BM on the job are the worse, lol. True talk! So I stay away from dem or I act processionally distance towards dem. But I mostly work from home now s I have little interaction.