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So we met a year ago when we were both travelling. Literally just under an hour in person. And we continued chatting on socials sharing tips and travel stories, and eventually chatting more and more on a regular basis like very good friends. A couple of months ago I travelled again and went to her home country and I asked if we can link up, and she was excited to show me around where she lived.
It was amazing to meet properly after speaking online for several months and it felt very natural and nice. Now i did have a crush on her for last couple of months before meeting. But was waiting to see how it went in person. Had to be slow and careful too with her too not to sabotage the friendship. And we got close in a few days with holding hands deep conversations and eventually kissing. After i travelled elsewhere for a few weeks I came back to her, I got invited to family for dinner a couple of times. And days later built trust and comfort to be intimate in the bedroom.
Since leaving the country for over a month been talking more, i was able to finally flirt since we were intimate in person before. And I done gestures like learn one of her favourite songs on an instrument which she absolutely loved. And she reacts with love hearts and more etc with some sweet talk.
But we never once spoke to be in a relationship. Haven’t spoken anything to do with the topic because it’s probably the doubtful situation of distance. I’ve been wanting to move countries for a while while now. We both actually want to move to a certain country, so theres a chance. It’s not based on false hope. But i have so many built in feelings that i haven’t spoken yet and want to make sure she still prioritises herself. I just really want to share my thoughts on how much i’d love to be with her and my true feelings for her without scaring her away. We haven’t said ‘ I love you’. But I’ve given her many sincere compliments and have said how much i admire her, how beautiful she is, etc.
Because i know confessing seems to just blow it. I care so deeply about her and don’t want to ruin this. I’ve had years of girls i’ve rejected or been rejected from, and this girl is different, so genuine. Which is why i’d be willing to go ling distance and make moves.
Just want advice as to if i should confess full feelings, or just let time do it’s thing and see if we eventually link up overseas.
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So much mystery in your “time” approach I couldn’t resist that one if it were me