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Does it ever frustrate anyone else how much emotional and/or physical abuse goes under the rug in the Coptic community? I guess one of the pillars of being in this community for whatever reason is the idea that you owe your parents indentured servitude purely for the fact that they raised you and provided basic needs, but if you dare try to hold them accountable you're automatically ungrateful.
My parents are wishy washy with religion, hypocritical you could say in the sense that at least one parent goes to church consistently but both of my parents curse, they don't really read the Bible, but enforce religious and cultural ideals down the throats of their kids and the people around them. But because emotional abuse in the community is so normalized that it's either viewed as nothing/normal or it's viewed as self discipline and same goes for things like hitting.
Even hitting as long as it's not obvious enough to cause bruising or if it's not enough to send you to a hospital then in the community it's just par for the course and there's no acknowledgement for it and it's frustrating. And oh God forbid you curse a parent out the same way they call you out, they can curse and belittle you cause they're the parent but if you just curse and give valid criticism, you are the villian in their story and then your ab*sive parent will victimize themselves till no end.
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I agree with all of this
Can I ask how old you are? I’m so sorry you are going through this. I know saying “it’s not religion it’s culture” can feel like a huge cop out but in some cases it’s true. The Coptic people I know now as an adult are more educated about these things and don’t tolerate them. As someone who grew up in similar circumstances I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel
I’m so sorry you still deal or have dealt with these horrible things, coming from a Copt, my parents are the nicest people I know, helping people out and wanting nothing in return, my father had his faults like hitting me but he stopped for good and broke the cycle. I think it’s more cultural rather than religious. My father used to tell me stories about how normal it was and that no one would bat an eye to it, muslim or Christian.