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Glad she got there, I think a lot of people have this experience.
She thought she was just having fun, it was only seeing photos and peoples comments she realised how bad she looked.
We often think we are having fun only to realise actually the fun stopped a while back...
There comes a time where the fun becomes a monster, and everyday you’re trapped in a cage with it.
It gets extremely dark in that hole before realizing you’ve lost sight of hope.
I stopped drinking when someone showed me a video of me dancing doing a kamehameha on the dance floor.
10 years sober.
As someone getting sober. You’ll eventually have that self realization moment where you know you look like a fucking mess and are embarrassed of your actions. It’s been a week for me and I love going to my group therapy.
As a dude struggling with booze, into day 2, it’s nice to know she feels the way everyone should, but celebrities, & their well-wishes don’t inspire.
Im not a celebrity, just a nobody. I’m on day 674. You can do it.
197 myself
Have you discovered r/stopdrinking?
It is 80% of the reason I was able to quit. The other 20% came from sober people I admired.
I just surpassed 5 years last week.
Almost five years here as well. I owe A LOT of it to that subreddit.
It was my first exposure to, "Progress is never linear and slip ups happen. Be kind to yourself."
It was my first exposure to the idea that addiction isn't a character flaw - it's a coping mechanism most often necessitated by trauma and abuse.
Addiction is about survival. But there comes a time where we need to find the courage to learn new ways to survive. And beyond that, to thrive.
And congrats!!! 🎉
Thank you! It was also the first place you could kind of learn and contribute at your own pace.
Seeing what others go through at the same place you are in your sobriety journey was truly remarkable.
Coming up on a year and there is zero chance I’d have been able to quit without that sub. IWNDWYT
IWDWYT!!
Congrats. 4.5 years here.
Awesome!! 🎉🎉
It’s easier for me not to drink when I remind myself it’s just straight up poison. I know some of it tastes pretty good but the effect on your heart, brain and colon over time can be devastating. I’ve had two friends die in the past two months from alcohol related issues. If I want to keep the after work cocktail ritual, I make a mocktail. Good luck.
Lime juice + ginger beer
Sprite+OJ keeps my hands busy when I'm the DD. And often free, once nicer bartenders know you're the keys for the night.
What helps me is to have a hobby that gives me reasons to be sober. I value my sobriety more than the drink.
I'm about to be 4 years sober in a few days. Stick with it. The hard part is quitting and committing to not drinking. Staying sober becomes much much easier in a pretty short amount of time because you have zero desire to kick your own ass and feel like shit in the morning. You just gotta get past the habit, and the people who enable that habit. Habits don't take long to break. You can do this, and you will feel like you're in a brand new body after a few months of sobriety. Good luck! You're not alone, at all!!!
IWNDWYT
Best of luck to you on your journey
Maybe not you. But as the LGTBQ+ community would tell you: visibility matters.
At no point does she mention her sexuality, nor the community.
No. ‘Visibility matters’ is a primary tenet of the LGBTQ advocacy. It is only recent generations that have had this group in a more highly visible profile - which gave a lot more freedom to people. It allowed them to ‘recognize’ themselves in others, helped them, engendered greater acceptance, etc.
In the same way, sobriety visibility matters. It promotes tolerance/acceptance and greater support, inspires those struggling, etc.
My ex-wife, who’s struggles with alcohol, & has nearly a year sober, is Bi, her mother is dating a woman, her aunts (married) became sober 20+ years ago through AA, I’m aware of the Community, & to be honest, my wife, as a bisexual, never felt a part of the community, due to specific prejudices she experienced, but, please, educate me further.
There have been artists I have followed and respected in their journey of recovery. Actually, hearing a few artists I listen to regularly discuss their journey and use of a 12-step program gave me the push I needed to hit a meeting. I’m 10 years sober as of March.
I wish you all the best on your journey.
Keep going. One HOUR at a time at first. Just don’t drink today. You can do it.
The first 30 were the hardest days. I’m now 13 years without booze.
Stick with it. For what it’s worth from an internet stranger, I’m really proud of you for recognizing the problem and making the change.
Day 6 for me, proud of you
Nobody here as well, 7 years next month. You got this.
dude I can't even get to day one. congratulations and please keep it up
Message me if you want. I'm 4.5 years off the sauce. Will happily discuss whatever you're going through with you if you like.
Day 2 for booze for me. Day 14 for weed.
Let’s gooooo!!
Sweet I’m 40days into my second 120day rehab after 3 years clean. The journey is harder than one would think. Tianeptine ZAZA Neptunes fix got me.
What does that even mean
I’m so happy for her. Seven months, twenty days clean thanks to NA and lots of communication with mental health professionals.
Proud of you! ❤️
No matter your opinion on her, it’s always good when someone gets treatment.
I’m proud of her for making those important changes, it’s not easy
Question, when you Americans says “sober” it means sober to all drugs or just alcohol? Sorry to ask but I’m from Spain and here being sober (sobrio) applies to everything, but I heard a lot of people from USA saying they are sober counting a lot of days of being sober but they are micro dosing ketamine/ acids, they also smoke weed daily or do cocaine, also people I know, sober applies just to alcohol? Or is people being sober just from the addictive drug?
In America, sober applies to everything too. However, sometimes people only refer to alcohol.
We actually have specific terms as well:
California Sober: I don’t do anything but I smoke weed
Oregon Sober: I don’t do anything but I smoke weed and do psychedelics (sometimes this can only be psychedelics)
Your answer is 100% accurate and the main reason I was asking lol, few days ago an American dude stoned AF doing cocaine smoking cigarettes in the bathroom told me proudly “I’m 425 days sober dudeee!” (It wasn’t 425 days I can’t remember exactly the days)… and I was like… “-congrats? “ What’s the point of counting days of not drinking if you are doing other hard drugs to replace alcohol?
It’s like “I’m proud I stopped stealing, now I’m a drug dealer”
Yea someone doing yayo I wouldn’t consider sober, cigs and weed whatever
If they were doing alcohol and cocaine before doing only cocaine is way better. If they were drinking and started a coke habit when they quit drinking then that is a bad thing.
I know AA pushes today sobriety but my friend group has had a lot more success with California sober.
Rawdogging life ain’t easy
Personally I think if your doing hard drugs that should not count as sober
I am in NJ and have never heard these, but they are amazing lol
For me, sober means abstaining from alcohol, the thing that was definitely going to kill me. I still smoke/ingest cannabis though.
“If I can do it, anyone can.” Hot take from someone who doesn’t have to worry about average people’s daily struggles and ya know…things like surviving financially…ever.
It’s cool that she got sober. Just pointing out her delusion that she had it harder and now “anyone can do it”. This is the same girl who claims to be vehemently opposed to animal cruelty but continues to work for, profit from, and support the very luxury brands that are some of the biggest offenders.
She also said “If I can do it, anyone can.” No Cara, people aren’t all multimillionaires.
AA is free
That’s true. But she can sit around at a spa for weeks, not work for months, hire the best professionals. The point is she’s got so many options compared to vast majority that suffer with addiction and have little to no resources.
Wow, really? I'm not the first person to have an addiction? How comforting.
I am 5 weeks sober! I quit weed 5 weeks ago after daily abuse for 25 years. Never had a drinking problem though, just social. But quitting the weed just sort of led me to not want to even drink socially.
It doesn’t help that she keeps on going to these parties. Alcohol and drugs are all over the place of them.
She's about as sober as Bam Margera.
Yeah, I saw footage of her at the Met Gala and it made me sad. She definitely seemed to be on something and was all twitchy, weird movements. I don’t pay much attention to her life or her story but it stood out to me without even looking for it. Slightly tweaking the whole time.
Didn't she just burn her house down like a week ago?
…? She was in another country dude that wasn’t her fault.
Weird how you’re trying to make it sound like she somehow was responsible like she was on a bender and dropped a lit cigarette or something.
Oh word, I just saw the news story when it dropped. Didn't know she was 'out of town.'
Look, if I had to act like I was romantically attracted to Dane DeHaan, I'd drink heavily, too. No clue what Besson was thinking with that casting.
But for the real comment, good that she's working on being sober.
Having rickets and staring into the sun is the height of sexuality I’ll have you know
Why are you being downvoted? LoL. What a shitty cast in that movie.
Maybe people really like Dane DeHaan now?
Maybe he has multiple accounts on reddit.
One for each A in his name.
I think it’s because it’s a hot take about a movie that has been largely forgotten. It’s just off topic. Reddit comments are often all over the place but this one was really unrelated to the topic of addiction.
The curious thing is i.commented on that movie.in some movie sub just a few days ago resurrecting some discussions from.years ago. Then i found this comment. For sure unrelated to the topic but still true.
The comment is totally accurate. It’s just off topic for this comment section. But it’s true.
Duck off, she can afford help, and rehab
12 Step programs are free. Start there if you're struggling.
I don't believe in your God, won't work for me
There’s also SMART recovery available online and in-person, depending on your location. One of the non-religious/higher power-focused alternatives
I just to randomly recommend the series Midnight Mass. It's from there I've heard about SMART, but it's my enjoyment of the show that informs my recommendation.
There is no one god in 12 steps, you can believe in any thing that's not yourself. I'm an atheist in recovery, at first I hated the word god cause I felt if god existed then he was to blame for my problems.
2 years of miserable addiction later and i said fuck it, I'll believe in anything if it gets me out of this hell. 2 and half years of sobriety later and I have my own "god" that helps me.
That's your choice man, I am atheist and will not stoop so low
You don't understand what aa is. You're probably still 14-15, so it's probably a bit much for you yet.
Aa is based around your God and giving your will to it, it's literally in the steps, I read it, I'm 30
There are 10,000 AA meetings around. Go to a bunch. Plenty of them just hand wave away all the god stuff. Or try SMART recovery. Same thing without god. Or try therapy or other avenues. God focused AA isn’t the only path out there.
AA was created specifically to not impose a unified totality of God. I know many atheists in AA. For me, God stands for “Group of Drunks” and that is viewed as a power greater than myself because others help me stay sober.
You can also have a Spinozist view of God to conceptualize God immanently. This would fit into your atheist view as well
But it’s wildly problematic to make an overarching claim about AA like this because you can turn people away from a free program.
LOL. AA was created by the Oxford Group, which VERY clearly used a Christian God. Nice try tho
Sometimes money makes it worse, addictions ignores salaries, just changes quality of products and constant affordability is a big deal, for example I smoke weed, since I live in Europe and have a better salary I can buy all weed I want so I smoke all the time, when I had a shitty job I had to deal with buying few, save it and ration it, sometimes money is a b1tch, now imagine having money and fame and doing hard drugs instead.
Yep. I never would have been able to get sober if I had money. I had to go totally broke in order to stop, because all money was bookmarked for getting fucked up.
It's always funny when people born with silver spoons offer advices to normal folk. Like you ain't relatable at all 😄
Having trouble with alcohol and drugs happens across every social strata. Look at the richest man in the world who can't control his addiction.
Thank you Cara Delevingne