baby muva
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I'm growing to hate my job. Over the past year, things have deteriorated, especially since my boss/director returned from a six-month suspension in March following reports of harassment and poor management from a couple of colleagues, both white women. He's an older, very short, African American man, divorced with no children, and he floods my inbox with emails at all hours, even on weekends. We're also the only black employees on our team as well.
Since his return in March, he's made my work life unbearable. He keeps piling on extra tasks unrelated to my job, sets unrealistic deadlines, and constantly criticizes my work. He even meddles with my workspace when I'm not there. Moving sh!t around or putting things on my desk that he’s too lazy to put back himself.
I try to stay ahead with my work so he won’t have a reason to bother me, but he still finds fault and treats me like I'm incompetent. I'm currently experiencing stress-related health issues (skin is breaking out in stress hives), and frequently call in sick just to cope. On Mother's Day, he even emailed me about tasks I'd already completed a month ago, which he happens too often to ignore or doesn’t bother to check his email history because I always cc him on my completed tasks.
Despite the excellent pay, benefits, and perks like a flexible schedule and travel opportunities, I'm burnt out and unsure if it's worth staying just to vest in a pension another 4 years. Others advise me to tough it out and ignore him, but I'm too sensitive for this environment. I suspect he might be pushing me to quit. We just accumulated PTO on January 1st and I only have 24 hours of sick leave left and that’s supposed to last me until next January. I’m afraid, I won’t make it until then.
I've sought advice from my union, but they suggest I continue documenting issues without offering a solution because he isn’t really violating things. They’re also all retired firefighters so they have this bro hood and stuff. It’s very very difficult to cope with and I’ve tried switching to another department but nepotism is really deep at my organization. I was told the only reason why I was hired because nobody’s relative or personal friends wanted to work in my department and/or under his supervision.
What should I do? I make about 86K (no degree) and I’m an executive assistant. I also live in DC and the HCOL is one of the reason why my pay is the way it is. I can’t just up and quit because I got kids and rent. He’s even mentioned that I should update my resume with all the new duties he’s been giving me when I questioned him about the favoritism with the yt women on our team it comes to traveling to work conferences. He allows them to pick and choose their preferred locations and makes me go to the undesirable places.
Since his return in March, he's made my work life unbearable. He keeps piling on extra tasks unrelated to my job, sets unrealistic deadlines, and constantly criticizes my work. He even meddles with my workspace when I'm not there. Moving sh!t around or putting things on my desk that he’s too lazy to put back himself.
I try to stay ahead with my work so he won’t have a reason to bother me, but he still finds fault and treats me like I'm incompetent. I'm currently experiencing stress-related health issues (skin is breaking out in stress hives), and frequently call in sick just to cope. On Mother's Day, he even emailed me about tasks I'd already completed a month ago, which he happens too often to ignore or doesn’t bother to check his email history because I always cc him on my completed tasks.
Despite the excellent pay, benefits, and perks like a flexible schedule and travel opportunities, I'm burnt out and unsure if it's worth staying just to vest in a pension another 4 years. Others advise me to tough it out and ignore him, but I'm too sensitive for this environment. I suspect he might be pushing me to quit. We just accumulated PTO on January 1st and I only have 24 hours of sick leave left and that’s supposed to last me until next January. I’m afraid, I won’t make it until then.
I've sought advice from my union, but they suggest I continue documenting issues without offering a solution because he isn’t really violating things. They’re also all retired firefighters so they have this bro hood and stuff. It’s very very difficult to cope with and I’ve tried switching to another department but nepotism is really deep at my organization. I was told the only reason why I was hired because nobody’s relative or personal friends wanted to work in my department and/or under his supervision.
What should I do? I make about 86K (no degree) and I’m an executive assistant. I also live in DC and the HCOL is one of the reason why my pay is the way it is. I can’t just up and quit because I got kids and rent. He’s even mentioned that I should update my resume with all the new duties he’s been giving me when I questioned him about the favoritism with the yt women on our team it comes to traveling to work conferences. He allows them to pick and choose their preferred locations and makes me go to the undesirable places.
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