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I read somebody else’s post about her bf going limp during sex and it turned out that he actually wasn’t into her at all, after spending a year reassuring her she was all he wanted and he was so lucky to have her. My fiancé swears I’m all he wants, perfection, beautiful, sexy, etc. but sometimes during sex, he goes limp and even goes so far as to fake a cramp. (The fake cramps are far more dramatic than the actual ones.) I didn’t really think it had anything to do with me… Until last time it happened and he made sure to tell me it had nothing to do with me. I’m very understanding and I know that it just happens sometimes. The faking a cramp thing I’m sure is to mask embarrassment, which is fine. I’ve never made it an issue when it’s happened, we can just get back to it later on or whatever. But… After telling me it didn’t have anything to do with me (out of nowhere) and I guess traumatizing myself with that other redditor’s post, I’m wondering… Is it me?
I’ll answer any questions, as trying to talk to him about it is like talking to a brick wall. “You’re perfect. It was a cramp. You’re all I want. I had to pee.” etc.
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