this is a community like r/AmITheAsshole except unlike that subreddit here you can post interpersonal conflicts, anything that's AITA but is not allowed there even posting about Scar from the lion king and trying to convince redditors that he was not the AH. rules: don't berate others and no pornography we have children here
TW Self Harm
I 13m struggle with sh, and many mental illnesses.
One of which is anxiety / depression so I tend to blow things a bit out of proportion. So when my ex best friend started bashing one of my favorite characters (leon from resident evil) It hurt my feelings because I felt stupid for liking a “stupid” character. so I called her out on it and she’s just like “that’s my opinion he’s stupid and funny” but it still hurt.
Then I tell her very begrudgingly that “you shouldn’t get an opinion you haven’t played the games and have only been a fan for 2 weeks.” I don’t stand by that, I was just frustrated. Then after it cooled down I check my YouTube and she had posted this paragraph CLEARLY about me and she had the guts to say it wasn’t but why lie? I’ll leave an image of the post in my profile. So I talk to her about it and she continues to keep lying but eventually we work things out or so I thought my relationship with her has always been rocky and kind of toxic, so when she sent me a text after I thought we worked things out,and in the text she cut me off so I’m hurt, frustrated, and Confused. So I beg the question AITAH
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You're hardly an "AH", this isn't an "AH" issue, but you're upset. And you need not be. You are better off with her as an ex-friend, that friendship just wasn't working out for you, it wasn't healthy.
YTA
So, it would have been fine if you had cut her off first?
You should get therapy and learn how to deal with rejection.
he’s 13…. give the kid a break? jesus
This is def a fair take I’ll strive to do better
Oh, to be young again. I honestly don’t think that either of you are TA, you’re just both young and dumb. We all were, so we get it. You’re dealing with a lot of junk, she probably is too, and you got in each others way. I think it’s good that you both take a break from each other for now because… You’re fighting about a video game character. Deal with the self harm, deal with your mental issues, and remember that a lot of other people are going through their own thing. If they can’t support you during that time, it’s OK to step away. Spend the time with those that build you up, or spend the time with yourself working on yourself. Good luck buddy.
And Leon is awesome.
❤️❤️❤️
I was the friend and I'd like to say I never lied. That post I made was not about you. Sure, it was inspired by some things that you said but I never directed it at you. You also left out the fact that you said homophobic things (I'm LGBT), and constantly accused me of mocking your religion when you were in fact the one mocking me. All I ask is that you don't spread lies about me on the internet. I tried meditating and I tried explaining, but it didn't work. I hope you have a good life and I'm sorry if I ever hurt you. Good luck man.
I'd also like to add that I love Leon and only called him stupid because of his one liners, which we both agreed on before.
What homophobic things did I say about you ? And the post too was about me didn’t I (correct me if I’m wrong) but help you figure out u were semi girl? And countless times you would say mocking my religion was fine and I did everything in my power to support you so tell what did I say that was homophobic?
Well I know a few things that you've said. You constantly called things you didn't like gay and when I asked you to stop you got uncomfortable as if I was in the wrong. You would constantly bring up LGBT and say 'you didn't like the ones that made it their whole personality' among other things. I never mocked your religion. You once said that people who mocked Christianity didn't deserve freedom of speech so I corrected you and explained freedom of speech to you. You made fun of atheism and I never said anything because I didn't want to offend you. I do thank you for using my preferred pronouns, but I was never really able to talk to you about anything. I'm struggling with wondering if I'm trans right now and the only friend I had didn't want to talk about it and when you did it was hurtful. So I say this with complete sincerity, I hope you do well in life. We all make mistakes and I'm not saying I'm completely innocent in this situation either.
I stopped calling things gay as per your request you told me that was wrong and you set a boundary that’s fair and I didn’t bring up half the things you have hurt me with in the past so why are you being so petty I made mistakes you made mistakes and I never said anything about ppl not deserving freedom and you can’t gaslight me into believing I did
You absolutely did say people who criticized Christianity didn't deserve free speech. I remember you were talking about Christianity and were talking about how people who criticized it didn't deserve freedom of speech. I distinctly remember asking you if people who criticized Islam deserved Freedom of speech and you readily said yes. I told you multiple times to stop calling things gay and you only stopped a day or two before I ended the friendship. Now please, can we end our friendship and communication with a promise to both do better and move on?
And why are you still worried about me I didn’t try to contact (except once) which I deleted immediately like why are we arguing this doesn’t help a thing I went on Reddit looking for Guidance because the entire situation hurt me and clearly you don’t need help since your just so non chalant about everything
Clearly I didn't need help? You know I have problems with my emotions and you are well aware of the fact that I'm not emotionally intelligent. I go through lots of shit all the time and I never tell anyone. I didn't end our friendship just because of you. I ended it for my mental health. It was getting toxic and you were constantly manipulating me. I don't blame you for that, you've had shitty friends in the past that hurt you and I'm sorry for that. I saw your account still in my reddit search bar and decided to look because I was A: worried about your mental health and wanted to know if you were doing okay after I ended the friendship and B: I was worried you'd go and spread lies about me and I was right.
Spread lies about you? Manipulating you? I would truly love to know how I did these things you put me through hell and back literally I was hospitalized because of the shit I had to deal with to put up with you I’ve never got to say my peace so here it is you have always been toxic to me and always have been rude to me and you have never once taken accountability for any of those things so you know what sure paint me in the wrong I did nothing ever to actively try to hurt you I was constantly putting my very fragile mental health aside to be your therapy we both have a lot on our giant plates and you are just making it worse by commenting here I’m trying to heal and learn from the toxic situation I went through I put work into our friendship and you didn’t reciprocate and none absolutely zero of this is lies.
Literally what are you talking about. You don't get to say that I'm the reason for your poor mental health. All I did was be kind and I had to walk on eggshells to make sure I didn't make you upset because I knew I didn't have the mental or emotional capacity to comfort you. You have no idea the lengths I went to to make sure you were happy. All of this is bullshit and I can't believe I didn't see this sooner. I was never rude to you because I was aware of the fact that you're sensitive. I just don't think we were ever cut out to be friends because you're sensitive and I'm not. We just need new friends and it wasn't healthy for either of us anyway. Yet again, wishing you the best.
I don’t think either of you are ATA, you’re both young and learning to navigate friendships. Falling out is normal and if you feel its a toxic relationship then i’m sure you can make another friend- just remember it feels important now but in a years time , it wont matter i promise!
Thank you