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My story is a bit long so bare w me, I met a girl through a mutual friend at an event we talked and exchanged ig accounts, I honestly thought she was just being nice cause she’s too cute and way out of my league, I didnt give it much thought at the time, a few days later she hit me up and we talked for a little, I also didnt give it much thought, and she texted me again saying why I didnt text her, I told her I was busy (in reality i was still not sure) anyways we hit it off quite well and we talked almost daily for hours, but the thing is after that she started being distant, i was always texting her first and she would reply the next day really coldly, ik shes a busy person with her work and I tried to respect that and give her the space she needed, but that kept happening, naturally I assumed she lost interest (even though the last time we had an actual conversation she kept throwing hints abt how she wants a real commitment which i was ready for and actually responded positively to), anyways I left her for a few days but she texted me asking why I dont text her, I told her I was traveling (I really was) and that was it, then I changed my pfp, and after that by like an hour or so she sent me a message saying how I look gd in the photo etc.. (so ik shes either looking me up or opening her dms cause i dont post stories) Its been like 8 days since we last talked and honestly I lost interest in her, my question is that why did it happen? Was she just seeking attention? I genuinely can’t understand women. Edit #1: you guys wont believe it, she just sent me a message asking where have I been Edit #2: I told her how I rly felt and we talked alot and she broke down and started crying telling me how she hasnt been well lately (mentally) bc she’s stressing abt a lot of things in life and now i feel like an asshole🫤.
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Million possibilities, Just ask her straightforwardly, skip the overthinking for the both of you
شكله هيك فعليا الحل الانسب، و هو الغلط مني انه الحكي كله كان عبارة عن hints و ما حكينا فعليا انه where do we stand بس المشكلة هاي الامور بتاخد وقت الا لو انت شخص ملعوب و بس بدك تتسلى عبنات الناس
hints give mixed signals avoid it, U said you both look for commitment? If so makes it easier, she may be interested but can’t take the first step, she also may not be. However nothing wrong with confrontation, try it out and trust whatever u got is god’s better plan
Be 👏 straight 👏 forward 👏
قلها وش تبي مني ؟ و ارتاح
هو هيك
She's making it obvious she wants more attention. Instead of being distant ; if you really like her, have you tried being more straight forward ?
I did, and trust me it wasn’t easy cause Im a shy person
I know people say straight forward, and its a good advice, but from my exp women's emotions are chaotic, she may tell u one thing, but in long run may end up doing sth else.
Couple of hard truths to understand here.
Men like to look & women like to be looked at: women love the attention and approval they get, as a man learn to enforce mutual respect by giving attention sparingly.
Be ambitious and keep improving yourself, never keep anyone at the center of your life:
Take care of yourself, mentally, physically and financially. Never let people believe that you cant live without them, be independent, and yet be humble & friendly
Learn to let go, and live in present : dont force anyone to talk to you regardless how they were in the past, you cant please everyone.
Be good to everyone but stay longer with those who reciprocate.
God knows the best
دز امها
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being distant is also important because giving a lot of attention make it lose value , but at the same time do give attention
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في بنات اذا ما اعطيتهم اتنشن ليوم واحد بسحبو عشان هيك حط المشاعر عجنب و ما تفرق معك
Since you're no longer interested in her, I guess there's no harm in asking her (you won't lose anything)..
بعرف والله ، بس يعني الشغلة بالمنطق برضه، يا سيدي يعوض خير
They want nothing to do with you anymore, apparently.
are you interested in her? (it seems not), so just tell her that, don't wait for the texting first games
I genuinely am interested but shes playing hard to get
Or atleast used to
How old is she?
We’re both 24
I think if ur straight forward with her , you wont waste both ur time and emotions , you dont have to tell her u like her just ask her about the relationship what is it for her
Attention. She wants attention. And based on what you said it seems you didn't really text her first much? So yeah she wanted your attention.
Bro this does not sound normal or healthy get yourself out
Im a woman and im confused as shit so good luck.
As a woman im telling you shes being on and off with you because shes actually not interested she just wants some of the attention that you can give , she doesnt give a shit if youre there or not shes just doing what shes doing عشان تضمنك If u want my pov just walk away tbh
Well i know narcist people use this technique but idk if she is or her being aware of this maybe she is but she dont know and doing that subconsiously
Bro flee with yourlife. Such girls are toxic, shed playing games, no amount of stress would let me 24/7 not able to talk or to text. When she wants it she would text even if shes fucked up mentally. Get away from such women and believe me once you get in multiple Relationships youll start appreciating Salon-Marriage actually more than normal. Believe me dating is the worst thing that you can start with especially when she started mentioning mental Problems before beginning in such shit. Take this advice or leave it, but dont run crying after she fucks you up mentally. Such girls will start being dominant later once you give her space then they would love a toxic relationship so that she feels alive bro. Fuck this toxicity, search for someone happier and once you find her stick with her.
I aint readin allat
Ok
No one understands woman bro , even themselves, don't worry and keep moving
I already moved on, but Im asking genuinely cause I was nth but gd w her. And for future relationships
اذا في بنت بتحس انها بس بتوخذ اتنشن منك وبتعطيكاش شي بالمقابل سيبها ، انت مش بنك اتنشن ، وياه هم بشكل عام بحبو جو انه يثقلو عليك ومش عارف شو
مش فاهم التناقض هاد، طب شو يعمل الواحد😭😭
ما توخذ اي علاقه بشكل جدي خصوصا باولها ، خذ الموضوع بروح رياضيه زي ما تقول وما تكون مشاعر ، اذا تطورت الامور وكان في جديه من طرفك وطرفها يس عادي كمل ، بس لوقتها ما تتوقع اي اشي من العلاقات
Gosh you guys haven't heard of TLDR version?
يا اما انها حكت معك وما عجبتها فخلعت، او انه في غيرك بشتشت معاه بالساعات.... ويرجح الاحتمال الاخير.
خبير
ك بنت شايفيتها واضحة الصراحة، هي أعطتك اهتمام وحكت معك وحاولت تقرب منك واستنت انت توخد خطوة بعديها )تطلب رقمها تحكي تلفون، تطلب تطلعو، أو تتعرف عليها اكتر أو تحكي اشي مبين انك جدي( ، لما شافت انك ما عملت اشي فكرت انك مش مهتم أو مش جدي كفاية فقررت تبعد مشان ما اتضيع وقتها ع اشي مش جدي أو ع شب بتسلى. وشكلها حابيتك أنه رجعت سألت عنك بعد فترة بدون حكي، أنه رجعت تنكش مشان تعطيك مجال، وبرضه ما شافت منك استجابة ف خلص رح تبعد.
اذا مهتم فيها وحابها لازم توخد خطوة تانية )مش شرط تطلب أيدها يعني بس أنه لاقيلك اشي.