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Idk I've always been a hopeless romantic kinda guy but idk lately I've been a fuckboy and I think it's kinda weird that I'm a hopeless romantic, I feel girls my age don't like a guy who's very romantic, or maybe my luck with women hasn't been good. What'd y'all think?
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Well what is your age? Also woman does like someone who's romantic, now someone who's "very" romantic it can depend on how much you do it. You have to keep in mind that people have their horror stories or just hearing other people horror stories makes them more cautious. So how you do things really matters here.
I'm just 20, and yeah I get it, I'm not "very" romantic like I'll bring the stars and moon for you type but I'm the the kind that'll do the bare minimum like opening the door for you, pulling the chair so you can sit, etc and romantic as in I'll remember the important dates of the relationship, take care of you if your sick etc
You can do all those things but those are just like the benefits of being with someone, not something that is like a deal breaker to date them. You have to be able to do other things too like be able to hold a conversation, built romantic interests, common interest and goals, look confident and stuff like that.
I get it, but there have been times where I've held a conversation soooo much that my back was hurting, try to do things for them, and yet they cheated so maybe idk, but i get what you're trying to say and yeah I'll work on it more and get better ig, thx for talking me through it
Well you also have to realize it has to be a 2 way street. So if you're the only one holding the conversation then maybe the other person isn't into you. Looking for contribution from the other person end, if they aren't putting in the effort then know when to walk away. Best of luck!
Watch the movie "Bedazzled" with Brendan Fraser. There's a scene where his character was a hopeless romantic and it completely turned off his partner. I think there's some truth to that scene and what you're experiencing. Most woman I know like the idea of the type of men they see in those romantic movies but they always settle for something different. It's fine that you're romantic because that's just who you are but try to find a balance.
Will do, thanks for the recommendation