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My partner has been working a lot these past months, to the point where out quality time has decreased to almost none (we haven't been able to end a film for a month). He is usually tired or has to leave early, or we meet really late because of work. This used to drive me crazy and I would end up begging and crying for some time (we don't live together), but not anymore, I accepted he is living his own life and deserves freedom about it. However, I have been wondering if this in the long term is not mantainable for me, I feel like I have a long list of things I wish I had done with my partner but he was not there, and I don't see that changing for a few years...
I don't know if I am being unrasonable since I am no more asking for a time be doesn't have but more like trying to figure out if this dynamic works for me.
I feel really frustrated because we work soo well together, but he literally has faith that I learn to live with this so we can be happy together, but I wonder how is a happy relationship one you cannot nurture.
If I had a full life and I was truly happy would this dynamic bother me? I have to learn to love him unconditionally and let him live his life while accepting it? Do I really feel unhappy about this dynamic or it's just that I need to work on my own happiness?
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